In order to understand how to be happy
we need to look at how we think there
are three different ways we react to
everything around us
the first is by wanting were brought up
in a culture where we're told that we
need to obtain something or reach a
certain goal in order to be happy
oh we need to get that new phone we need
to get a bigger TV we need to get that
promotion we need to take a picture of
this meal and put it onto Instagram but
if you think back to any major purchase
you made or achievement you reached your
picture you posted
sure you felt happier for a while but
soon after you are back on the hunt
every single time you end up finding
yourself back at your original level of
happiness only this time with less money
in your wallet and more wrinkles on your
face so it's safe to say happiness
doesn't lie in the wanting category
the second way we react is by rejecting
from the moment we wake up our mind
automatically starts to look for things
to reject around us
oh I feel so tired but I have to go to
work so cold I don't want to leave my
bed
we reject others oh he's so awkward
oh why can't this cashier do his job
properly we reject ourselves so out of
shape
why am I such a loser again it's safe to
say there isn't much happiness here
either
the third way we react is by zoning out
what were confronted with a task that's
quote-unquote boring like commuting to
work or waiting at the doctor's office
we tend to zone out everything become
sort of hazy it's almost as if you put
on a black and white filter over your
eyes your brain goes on to sleep mode
and your mind is either lost in the past
over past regrets or lost in the future
filled with anxiety about things that
might go wrong
doesn't sound like a fun place to be
these three ways of reacting makeup over
ninety-nine percent of the way the
average person goes about his day to day
life
no wonder they're unhappy so how do I
become happy
well there's actually a fourth way of
reacting something that we only
experience once in a blue moon
it's here where happiness really lies
it's the way you reacted when you
visited the Grand Canyon for the first
time it's the feeling astronauts
describe when they see the Earth from
outer space
it's the way you were when you were
younger able to spend hours just looking
at bugs and pictures
it's called mindfulness think of it as
the opposite of zoning out your zoning
in being hyper aware of everything in
front of you the way something feels the
way it moves it smell its taste all of
its features and nothing else
this means there's no room for wanting
no room for rejecting and you certainly
not zoned out all of your focus is just
on the exact thing or event happening
right in front of you there is no
judgment there's simply room for you to
take it all in and when you react to
things and events with mindfulness
happiness follows and it stays for good
by simply learning how to focus on
what's in front of you you make room for
happiness in your life and the only way
to become more mindful in your reactions
on a day-to-day basis is by practicing
meditation now I'm sure there's a lot of
you guys for watching this thinking oh
god this is some hocus-pocus nonsense
I've heard about meditation it makes no
sense i'm not going to sit down and do
nothing for 10-20 minutes but there are
literally hundreds of studies backing up
this claim which will be the topic of
our next video
the benefits of meditation and the
scientific evidence to back it up
so if you've been looking for the answer
to the life old question of how to be
happy
look no further stop looking for a
shortcut because I can just about a
hundred percent guarantee you the answer
lies in mindfulness and meditation in
the upcoming weeks we're going to dive
deeper into these concepts so please
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