it doesn't matter whether it's business personal finance
sports a hobby or anything else that you're working on
sooner or later you're going to get tired and sick of it
aka you're going to get in a rut this simply means that you'll feel like you
can't really get out of a situation you stop making progress and for some
reason you can't find a way out the thing with life is that there will
always be barriers and difficulties it's like trying to plan a road trip
with two of your mates somehow you know something will go wrong
let me tell you a quick story michael and gabriel are two of my closest
friends a few years ago we planned to go on a
camping road trip we estimated that it will take us about six hours
if we stopped only twice to take a break on our way to the camp after a few hours
on the road michael felt sick and started throwing up
so he stopped and parked the car by the side of the road until he started
feeling better a little over half an hour later he felt
much better so we carried on with our trip
however this wasn't our last problem with about an hour and a half to the
camping site the car for some reason started slowing
down turns out gabriel the designated driver
seriously underestimated the amount of gas we needed for our trip
so we ran out of gas a few miles to our campsite
and the nearest gas station was about three miles away
we walked to the gas station and back pissed off and totally frustrated at
gabriel how in the world did you forget to fuel
the car we kept shouting at him anyways after a
few heated exchanges we got over it fueled the car and
continued with our journey but it took us an extra two and a half
hours this short story is just a simple
example of how every journey in life goes somehow
no matter how meticulously or carefully you plan
something will go wrong except of course for cases that are more unique than rare
you will always find barriers difficulties and problems
tony robbins said the difference between those who succeed and those who fail is
the ability to overcome all those problems that come along the way
so it's perfectly normal to sometimes feel stuck
but the point is don't stop despite all the challenges that come along the way
do what you must until you reach your final destination
in this video i'm going to give you the resources you need to actually overcome
challenges no matter how stuck you might feel if
you apply this advice you will find a way out so to help us
get a better picture of what being in a rut
entails i want to give you three examples of being stuck in a rut
so that you can better relate and understand the kind of situation
that you can get out of the hobby rut jane is in her 30s and recently she
started working on a long forgotten hobby
painting she started painting again just a few weeks ago
and she's part of a painting club which she formed with a group of interested
people she found online they hang out together every weekend
they drink laugh and discuss art sometimes they might even paint
together and have little events this week they're all working on a
particular subject the human body each member has to develop their own
painting by the end of the week and present it to the club but jane is
feeling like she can't come up with a good idea for her painting
the proportions she created aren't right the hands are just too hard to recreate
and the hair she drew is a mess she feels like she can't get it right
after a lot of misses she feels like quitting and dropping out of the event
this is your hobby rut the business rut let's say you're a business owner or
you're creating your first business maybe you're even just writing your
first business plan or developing the idea
maybe you're just a few months into it and everything has been going just as
planned let's say the idea you're working on is
a business that sells handmade clothes for men so you start
building your own team with a salesperson an artisan and a
money manager but along the way you encounter your
first barrier you need to find a location to set up
your business in your town and it seems like none of the available
options are within your budget what do you do this is your business
right the financial rut in this last example
let's say you're a family man and you and your wife would like to move to a
different part of the city it's a better neighborhood a better
community and has better schools for your kids
however it's a little pricey but you and your wife want to take the leap of faith
and buy a home there after a few weeks of searching you spot
a few good houses you'd like to buy but finally you narrow your options to
two houses one cost just over three hundred and
eighty thousand dollars and another that costs four hundred thirty
000 they're both nice homes with a garden a little garage
and everything you would expect from a regular house in a decent neighborhood
at that price now all you need to do is get a mortgage from your local bank
and the house is yours however here's where the problem
starts occurring your credit score is not exactly in its best shape
nor are you feeling too confident about the bank giving you all that money
you are so discouraged by this that you don't even try to go and ask for the
money so what do you do this
is your financial rut how to get out of a rut
now a rut might be an obstacle or something that you don't really
understand or maybe it could even be something that
you are not sure of but it's holding you back in order to
get out of a rut you have to first identify what's causing it and only then
can you start trying to figure out a way to solve it
so let's look at the first step step number one recognize the signs and
diagnose the problem signs that you're in a rut
may include any of the following you feel unmotivated and you don't
really want to get out of bed in the morning you're procrastinating a lot
you don't want to get started and you continuously make excuses as to why
you're not making any progress you just can't get started even when you
know that you're supposed to every day seems the same you don't know
how to make progress and it's like you're living a life that
you can't escape it's all boring predictable and you lack a sense of
adventure excitement you want more but you don't want to work
for it the reason might be fear or discomfort
i'm sure you've heard about the comfort zone and here's the big problem
the longer you stay in your comfort zone the harder it'll be to get out of it
if it's because of fear well here's the truth fear
is nothing more than a lie it's a theory a movie you play in your mind
over and over again as to why you're not making progress
now being stuck in any situation for long periods of time
is very unhealthy the most important tool for making progress and getting
unstuck is willpower willpower gives you the
strength to do what you don't want to do when you have to to sacrifice short-term
satisfaction for long-term success this in turn
builds self-discipline every successful person knows about the
importance of willpower and here's the good news it is a skill
meaning you can learn and develop it and with
sufficient practice you can master self-control but here's
the thing if you don't consistently practice it
one you'll never develop it and two you might lose it the reason is
that if you don't do something but you know that you should you strengthen your
procrastination muscle your brain starts to get used to you
saying i know i'm supposed to do this but i don't want to so i won't
every time you have a new task to get done your subconscious is like
don't even bother i know you won't do it so
the faster you solve this problem the better in this first step
you also need to recognize the source of your problem
what's the reason why you're feeling stuck is it something related to your
finance your hobby your business or is it
something else figure that out and then move on to the
next step step number two start small and regain
momentum you can't expect to give yourself a big
important task right away and then actually do it this is like
giving someone a whole burger and telling them to eat it all with one bite
it simply won't happen you have to start small
in order to gain momentum and here's the key word
momentum momentum is what keeps you going it's kind of like the domino
effect as soon as you have it it's very hard to
stop it it's like you're in the zone all day
every day and you don't want or even need to take breaks
nor will you be tempted to check your phone because you're in
flow imagine this situation let's suppose that you're in a car
cruising at 200 miles an hour but then you stop because there's a red
light you wait and then you start again from zero
but it'll take you a very long time to get back to 200.
that's the same in life once you stop your momentum
you have to start all over again and build that productivity
the fastest way to build your momentum is to start with small tasks
don't wait for the right moment or for the planets to align in order to start
because that will never happen just do it now
even if you're not feeling like it just do it do it
just do it do it just do it small tasks you can start doing to
build momentum include drinking a certain amount of water
every day making your bed first thing in the morning every morning
making small promises like at 5 pm i'll reply to your message
and actually sticking to them and so on are just a few
simple examples after five to seven days of gradually increasing the number of
tasks and commitments you can then proceed to the next step
step number three dramatically change your routine when
you are ready after five to seven days it's time to
start applying some hardcore change and become really productive really fast
in step number three you have to start planning all of your days the night
before make a plan wake up at the same time
every morning and change your environment
to constantly remind yourself that you are going through
important changes in your life always prepare your warm robe the night before
and keep your room clean so that you wake up to a clean room and not a mess
that you don't want to deal with first thing in the morning
practice makes perfect and do your best to not
miss a day take care of yourself go outdoors
socialize with people that really matter and limit the time you spend on your
phone if you struggle with putting your phone
down there are plenty of good apps that you can use to limit the amount of time
you spend on social media or apps that take away your precious
time so check them out after you've mastered this step proceed
to step number four step number four find your ikigai
ikigai is a japanese concept and it means a reason for being
you have to find your purpose give yourself a mission
and decent reason to wake up in the morning to do that thing that excites
you the most first thing in the morning and this will
boost your mood during the whole day this will also help you actually wake up
and not click the snooze button you have to look forward to your days
and this is the best way to do it so in conclusion if you feel stuck in
life just follow these four steps and you're guaranteed to find your
momentum you'll also move forward and closer to your goals
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