Audio: Misery - Marron 5 x CPR - CupcakKe
♬I am in misery ♬
Fuck ya life!
Bing Bong!
Fuck ya life! Bing Bong!
Look, if you're boring just say that.
This one's gonna sound like a weird one. If you have ADHD, I have a question for you.
What do the bottoms of your feet look like? Here's mine.
Now if you're sitting there going 'My feet are fine.' How them cuticles lookin there champ?
Did you know that skin picking is a very common comorbidity to ADHD?
It's true! It's a thing that happens. I compulsively pick at the bottom of my feet. I've done it since I was a kid.
But until I got diagnosed with ADHD I didn't know that a lot of people with ADHD deal with something called body focused repetitive behaviors or BFRBs.
Skin picking, nail biting, pulling at your hair, biting the inside of your cheek, even picking at your nose, all of those are body focused repetitive behaviors and if you have ADHD it can be really hard to stop.
It's a nice little combination of impulse control and then the dopamine of like actually doing the picking.
I think it's really interesting because this is like something that I've dealt with my entire life but I've rarely ever heard it contextualized with my ADHD.
So this is one where I did the research so you don't have to.
♬The more you know ♬
Audio: River Deep, Mountain High - GLEE
Audio: Puddles - Daniela Andrade
Audio: Say So - Doja Cat
Audio: i want war (BUT I NEED PEACE) - Kali Uchis
Yeah
Are your ADHD hobbies costing you too much money? Here's 3 more cheap or free ADHD hobbies.
Just make sure to wash your hands after the last one or it'll like ruin your marriage.
First up, harmonica. Super cheap, hours of fun makes you feel like a cowboy. It's great.
*harmonica noises*
Next up we've got THE CUBE! They're like 10 bucks and they'll always make you look smart in front of your friends. The easiest method is called the cross method I highly recommend looking it up.
Now this last one is some pretty serious high octane ADHD hyperfixation so if this is above your pay grade, just keep scrolling.
It's called dorodango.
Can somebody please tell me if I'm pronouncing that right.
It's the Japanese art of making a little sphere out of mud and then slowly building up progressively finer dry dirt on the outside until you get a really smooth even shiny perfect little mud ball.
This was my best one.
And even when you mess them up they still look pretty cool. I mean come on looks like you're gonna find Luke Skywalker on there.
And it's fun to experiment with different kinds of dirt to get different colors and of course there are some people who get really, really good at it.
My process for doing this is far from perfect but let me know if you want to see it and follow for more.
One of the things that I don't think we spend nearly enough time talking about in conversation with ADHD is the amount of time that we waste because of our brain's inability to hold onto things.
For example, I just spent the past 15 minutes looking for my keys. Dug through my purse, tore the whole car apart, and I'm freaking out because I cannot find my keys.
But I knew that I had my keys because I'm in the parking lot of the mechanics and so therefore I got here somehow so my keys have to be here somewhere.
It was only after 15 minutes of looking for my keys did I realize I'm in Erik's car. I don't have my keys because I'm not driving my car.
Erik's keys were in the ignition because Erik's car is a turn car and my car is a button car.
But because my brain has gotten so used to my system of habit: I come in set the keys down on the seat, push the button, start the car, I literally trapped myself in a parking lot for 15 minutes because I forgot what fucking car I was driving.
Why are you so bitter about late diagnosis? I mean you still seem to be successful.
Imagine for a moment that you drive a crappy 1989 Chevette stick shift, and every time you get in your car it is guaranteed that at least two things will go wrong.
Sometimes you get off easy and it's just that your window won't go down or the trunk won't close.
But sometimes it's a flat tire and a transmission leak.
Okay...
But after a few years of this you start carrying a full collection of tools in your car every time you leave.
But over the years you've gotten a reputation for being late and irresponsible. Now after 30 years you become an expert. You could rebuild that car from nothing.
Does that mean that when your axle breaks in half you're not going to be late to work? No you're still going to be late to work but less of those big things are going to happen and you may not be as late as you would have been.
But as far as you know everyone drives chevettes because when you arrive late to work and you say 'Sorry I had car troubles' people respond but 'Yeah everybody has car troubles' but everyone still manages to make it on time.
So one day you pull aside your coworker and you say 'Hey, how come you're never late to work and you never miss any deadlines?' and they say 'I don't know i just do.'
And you say 'Well doesn't your car always break down?'
Well yeah we all have car troubles but then we just get it fixed and move on. Don't you have tools?
Yeah I have tons of tools!
Well maybe your tools just aren't good enough.
So you keep shopping around for new tools you're like 'I'm pretty sure I've tried all the tools and I've tried them a lot'
Then one day you come across an article about teslas and you go and you test drive a tesla and it runs like butter.
Not only is it automatic, it's self-driving and if anything goes wrong they bring you a new tesla until yours is fixed.
And you find out that all those people who had said that everyone has car problems had been driving teslas this whole time.
You could have had a tesla for 30 years that you were repairing that broken down chevette if someone had just said to you 'Why do you drive a chevette? You should drive a tesla.'
So yes I'm fairly functioning, yes I'm fairly successful, but look at how much work it took to get here.
How much more successful could I have been if I had put in that amount of effort with a tesla?
Here's the hardest part. I was lucky enough to come from a family who became experts at repairing chevettes.
Imagine not having that and your only coping mechanism was to just go to the repairman every time and you rack up way more debt than you can handle or you just keep trying to fix it because you can't afford a mechanic.
And life gets so difficult that you turn to drugs or you just take your own life simply because no one told you that you're driving a chevette and you could be driving a tesla.
So yeah I'm bitter because I've lost friends to that. And as long as I'm here on earth, I'm going to get as many people in teslas as I can.
Okay I get it.
ADHD people if you drink water...
Yep, that's it if you drink water.