So, the best approach always
is to talk to the man.
Because if he truly loves you,
if he truly cares about you,
then you simply making it known that
you don't feel valued,
you don't feel missed,
you feel neglected,
will get his attention
and cause him to
want to do better.
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Hey, what's up everybody
this is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
here to talk to you about
relationship topics
and advice that you want to hear,
that you've been asking about.
And so,
I created this video today
to discuss
the ways to make him miss you.
How to make him miss you,
now, be sure to
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and leave your comments below
as far as how do you think
what do you think is the best method
to make him miss you.
Now, I'm just going to be real with you.
I looked at this topic and I said
this is not healthy.
This isn't the right way to do things.
Listen,
there are some things that
psychologically you can do to
"make him miss you."
But what you've got to ask yourself is
if you have to go through all of that
are you even with the right guy?
What you should have to do
if you feel like your man
is neglecting you
or doesn't seem like he misses you,
is simply talk to him.
When you engage in
these tips and tricks
to make him miss you,
you are creating
a more dysfunctional environment
in your relationship.
So, for example,
one tip that floats around is
don't say to him
that you miss him
or pull back on your communication.
But let me explain something to you.
If you're dealing
with the wrong guy
number one,
it may not even faze him.
So, you might pull back communication,
you might not tell him you miss him,
and he doesn't care.
And now you become infuriated
and consumed
with trying to get his attention,
trying to be validated by this man
who doesn't even
belong in your life.
So, now you've played yourself
because you're trying to get
someone to react
who doesn't give a damn about you.
But let's just say,
he actually does care about you
and life got the best of him
and he has lost sight
of what you need
and the attention that he's not giving you.
Well, when you pull back that communication,
now he starts to think
you don't love him.
You don't care about him anymore.
Now, he may react in dysfunction
to your dysfunctional reaction.
And that's not to insult you,
but I've got to call it what it is.
We can't play these games
and think we're going to get a
positive result from it.
It's only going to create
more chaos and confusion.
So, the best approach always
is to talk to the man.
Because if he truly loves you,
if he truly cares about you,
then you simply making it known that
you don't feel valued,
you don't feel missed,
you feel neglected,
will get his attention
and cause him to
want to do better.
Whereas, if he doesn't care about you
he will expose himself
in that conversation.
But I feel the need to tell you that
listen, you've got to be
real honest with yourself
because some of you
have seen the red flags.
Some of you have seen that man
does not care enough about you
or isn't fully invested in you.
You've already said it to him,
you've already shouted it from the roof tops
and he still has changed nothing.
Why are you still there?
Why are you looking for videos
on how to make him miss you?
The answer is right
in front of your face.
He's not for you.
And you've got to stop beating a dead horse
and think you're going to make this thing change or
make him want you more.
Yes, you may get him
to want you more in the moment
but if he's not truly into you
it's not sustainable.
So, what are you going to do?
You're going to all the time look to play a certain game,
push a certain button?
Whenever you don't feel like you're getting the love from him
that you deserve?
No,
if talking to him is not enough
that means he needs
to be removed from your life.
And you should not have to engage
in this tit for tat
and all this little playing of games
and mental games
just to get him to show you
more love and attention.
You've got to recognize
when you're dealing with the wrong person
or when you're dealing with
the right guy
who simply needs
to be reminded
of what you need
because it can happen.
Life can get the best of someone
and sometimes people do,
don't realize
how they've fallen off in certain ways.
But again, all it takes is
an honest transparent conversation.
But let me also say this
before we wrap this up.
If you really want him to miss you
and he's the right guy for you,
make sure that you not only
make it known to him,
but that you pour more love
into that man.
Listen, you're not going to get
love and positive energy
by pouring negativity
into the situation.
You've got to up your game because
in being caught up in
how you feel
you may not be realizing that
you're neglecting him too.
That you're not giving him
what he needs in certain areas.
So, be sure that when you come
to that conversation,
don't just make it about
what you feel is lacking
that he's not doing for you.
But open yourself up to hearing
what he has to say about
your behavior,
or what you may be neglecting.
And when you can do that
and both of you guys can
get on the same page
now you can have a healthy resolution
to this issue
and truly get what
you both deserve.
So, I hope that helps
and I'm sorry if you were looking for
more specific tips,
but I don't want you engaging
in unhealthy behavior.
I want you to go about this
the best way possible.
To get the best results
and to only entertain and deal with someone
who is truly best for you.
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