good morning afternoon evening wherever you are in the world and whenever you are watching this
video i'm anne gage the horse riding confidence coach and today i'm going to be telling you what
the biggest mistake most anxious horse riders are making that's stopping them from getting
their confidence back i'm going to explain what that is why it is and what you need to
do instead so if you're joining me live on this live stream then if you haven't already please
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i don't want to take up much of your time today there is something that most people don't realize
when they're trying to stop feeling anxious about horse riding something they're doing
that is really not helping and that is trying to solve this issue at a conscious pro
conscious level because usually if you're if you're dealing with sort of a high level
of anxiety the type of anxiety that is causing you to feel shaky nauseous
uh coming up with excuses for not riding or for not doing particular activities in riding
things that are really stealing the joy from your riding and your relationship with your horse
then typically that issue was created at an unconscious level it might be connected to a
fall or an injury or something that has happened in your past that's connected with horses it
might also be uh connected to an underlying sort of general anxiety i've had that with
with some clients and when we try to solve that type of issue at a conscious level
then you're kind of getting into that fake it till you make it idea or or you know cowgirl up just
get on and ride through it just push through it so you're white knuckle riding and honestly what that
does is make you feel more anxious it reaffirms to that unconscious part of your brain that riding
is a scary thing because every time i ride or if i i prepare to ride i feel bad in some way
there's some physical symptoms of that that make me feel bad and there's a lot of negative stuff
going around in my head that makes you feel bad so when there's this inappropriate fear
this higher level of anxiety um that that gets triggered around writing
that's being run by your unconscious mind and your unconscious mind is really what's running the show
it's where your memories are stored it's where your belief system is stored
and its major priority is to keep you safe so if something has happened where you've
been traumatized whether that's physically emotionally traumatized
your brain very quickly because it has a negativity bias will set up a trigger
that says anything that seems similar to that activity or to that event to that
experience i'm gonna warn you so that we don't do that again because that was not a good thing
and the problem with that inappropriate fear is that it gets triggered at inappropriate times
there's really no um there's really no danger in the immediate moment what we need is horse riders
and as people who handle horses is the appropriate fear that says hey pay attention there's potential
problem here and you need to do something about that so in with an appropriate fear if you're you
feel your horse get tense you're gonna be aware of that and say okay then i need to do something to
help my horse settle or maybe i need to get off my horse and help them settle from the ground but i'm
gonna take some steps because i can think clearly and i can make good decisions when you're feeling
really anxious you can't think clearly you can't make good decisions we often make no decision
or a poor decision and when we're trying to push through our fear we're often making poor decisions
and there are times when it is appropriate to not ride your horse because your horse is unsettled by
the environment or the weather and maybe doing some groundwork or just some some just hanging
out with him that day is the better option is the safer option and we need to be able to make that
distinction between is this just a story in my head or is this something that's really happening
and that's where we need to get into and solve this problem at the unconscious level
you cannot simply logic your way out of anxiety if if doing that worked you would have done it by now
wouldn't you so what i'd like to share with you is i'm running my group coaching program called
the horse riding confidence solution it's a five-week group coaching online program
and it gets phenomenal results for people in the most recent round a woman who had not ridden her
horse for two years because she was so anxious was back in the saddle and having fun before the end
of the course another woman who'd been dealing with anxiety sort of general anxiety and was
had lost a horse very suddenly and unexpectedly and tragically several months ago was dealing
with also grief and guilt as well as the anxiety and she was able to get through those resolve
those um feelings and and the beliefs that were holding her back and and by her next horse that
she's really enjoying now a gentleman who is in the the course was beating himself up a lot
and holding himself back because of his belief that he wasn't a good enough rider that he was a
failure and we worked through those so that those are no longer beliefs that he holds about himself
he understands that riding is a journey that we're all learning all the time and we've got
to take this journey step by step so and we and we need to learn from our experiences so
that's the power of this course it is uh pre-recorded videos that you can access
on your own time i drip feed them out one week at a time so you don't get overwhelmed and get ahead
of yourself and we have a weekly group coaching session on zoom which is really valuable because
we don't just talk about what's in the recorded videos i answer your other questions also about
riding about groundwork about your horse's behavior as well as the mindset stuff that we
really work on at that unconscious level that unconscious level that's going to move you forward
and get you unstuck and get you back in the saddle enjoying all the things that you want to be doing
with your horse whether that's just getting back in the saddle whether that's being able to ride
around the arena whether that's being able to get out on trail rides by yourself or with friends
get to horse shows whatever it is that's what we'll be working you working on and helping you to
achieve through this course you also get lifetime access to the videos to all the recordings
and we have a face a private facebook book group so if you're on facebook you can come in there
and share your challenges and your victories and we love to celebrate those victories with you so
if you're ready to take action that is actually going to move you forward that's finally going
to resolve this anxiety you have about riding your horse and stopping you from enjoying it
then i really encourage you to check out the horse riding confidence solution i will put the link in
the comments below this video if you have any questions then just reach out for me reach out
to me either through facebook messenger and email and confidenthorsemanship.com or at
on in my facebook group confident horsemanship community my free group or send me a message on
messenger i hope you found this helpful and if you have any questions at all pop them in the comments
say hi let me know you've seen this and that it's been helpful see you on the next one bye for now