- Hi, I'm Dana, welcome to this week's video.
One of the most common questions I get
is why is my baby waking in the night?
And that's a loaded question, really.
It's a tough question to answer
because there could be a variety of reasons.
So let's kind of get to the heart
of what's really going on here.
If we're talking about a newborn baby,
and I would say a baby between
the ages of brand new to about the five
or six-month mark, usually the main reason
they're waking in the night is due to hunger.
Babies' tummies are really small
as you already know and they're gonna wake
up frequently looking for food.
And that's just the way it goes.
But if we're talking about babies past
that six months age range, there could
be something else going on.
I'm not saying it couldn't be hunger,
but I'm gonna ask you to look at a few other things first.
The first thing to look at is how
is your baby falling asleep at bedtime?
The answer is probably with a lot of help from you.
The most common reasons or common ways
in which babies get themselves to sleep
at night is usually while breastfeeding,
while being bottle-fed, or while being rocked.
So if you're answering or nodding your head yes,
that is how your baby falls asleep,
then that's the first place to start.
Because what happens if you rock
a baby to sleep, it might work really nicely,
it might even only take you five minutes
to rock this baby to sleep.
And then you even manage to get her
into the crib and she stays asleep.
The problem is that somewhere in the night,
she is gonna have a naturally occurring wake up
and that's normal, we all do it.
But she's not going to know how
to get back into sleep without the rocking.
So the rocking becomes a sleep prop or a sleep crutch,
whatever you want to call it, it's your baby's favorite
strategy for getting to sleep.
And so she is most likely gonna cry for you.
You're gonna come in, you're going to rock her back
to sleep, get her back into that crib.
A few hours later, she's gonna have a naturally occurring
wake up again, and still be stuck,
how do I do this without the help of the rocking?
And that can be the same with being breast-fed
to sleep, and it can be the same with the bottle to sleep.
So The Sleep Sense Program is all about teaching
a baby independence sleep skills.
So getting herself to sleep each night
will be her job now.
So she'll combine some sort of strategy
that helps her relax, helps her calm herself down
and lets sleep come naturally.
And once she figures that out
and is no longer relying on that sleep prop
or crutch, then when she has a naturally occurring
wake up in the night, there's no cause for alarm,
she knows how to do this.
She can roll over or get in her favorite position
or do whatever she does to get herself to sleep again,
and you won't hear from her until morning.
And so that's the whole goal once
we get past the hunger issue, is teaching
our baby those independent sleep skills
so that they can handle any natural occurring wake up
in the night on their own
and start sleeping more consolidatedly.
And that's good news for you because
it also means that you get to sleep more consolidatedly.
So those are the two reasons really.
I mean, sure, is it sickness, could it be teething,
I mean there's lots of other things
that could be going on.
But if night after night after night,
your baby is waking once or twice
or five times a night, the first thing you want
to do is look at how does she fall asleep initially?
What is her sleep prop or crutch?
And if you can identify that,
then you can start taking the steps necessary
to teach her how to do it without those things.
And that's when the magic happens
and she starts sleeping through the night.
Thanks so much for watching today, sleep well.