ohohopllil asks
What is boy culture like in Korea and what's the ideal type?
Are they usually like the guys we see in dramas? We nasties really need to knooow~
So we asked SooZee about this
And she found a couple of interesting reading resources
First one was a survey taken by women about what their ideal type is in men
And the second one was a satirical blog post about exactly how picky girls can be
when it comes to meeting their ideal boyfriend.
Now obviously this is not going to be what Every Korean girl wants
Like SooZee does not agree with these things
But this is kind of like that overarching theme that girls might talk about with each other
Things that they are looking for in guys.
And there is also a lot of blind date culture in Korea
Or as it's called in Korean SoGaeTing
That's the Jamaican way of saying it...
It's more like sogaeting
Blind date. Hookups.
Sounds better than blind-date.
Sogaeting~
SoGae/SoGhei
Now there are some obvious characteristics when it comes to the ideal type that can be
understood pretty much universally.
Such as:
Having a buff body
Having great fashion sense
Have a cheerful and bright personality
Don't lose your temper and be polite
Has a charming smile
Be good at sex
Listens to what women say
Now if you ask me, I don't really know who would disagree with these
Like I'm not looking for a guy who has a buff body
I would like somebody who is rude and who doesn't listen to me.
I'm looking for someone with a creepy leer.
Like "Boy that was an excellent sex session since I'm so good at it"
"I'm going to put on my fashion clothing"
"Time for my charming smile"
Relationship over.
After that there are some characteristics that seem be specifically embedded in Korean culture
Not necessarily something that we're familial with ourselves
One of them, for example is
You having to graduate from one of the specific S.K.Y. Universities
That's Seoul University, Korea University or Yonsei University
Are you sure it's not Super Cookie Yummy?
Cookie starts with a "C"
Not all cookies [S]Seems like you failed that university
Now I don't know about you, but I have never really cared about what university somebody graduates from
and that wouldn't really be a fact that I'm looking for in a relationship
The thing that people may not realize about Korea is that
There are Tons of universities you can go to in Korea
Everywhere
But there are just the 3 that are most competitive
So pretty much if you don't go to one of these universities
You can't get a girlfriend ever
Well that's not true.
You are generalizing that.
You can't be someone's ideal type.
You want to know what the lowest form of University is in Korea
between dating culture?
Art School
SooZee didn't you go to Art School?
Yeay...
We love SooZee
[S]SooZee's great [M]You've got our love, SooZee
Another one of the requirements is that you have a job that earns you over 100mln Korean won in a year
which is roughly 100k dollars
And you have to be either a public government employee
Or you have to work for one of the major companies
Like Samsung or LG, or KIA or what not
So basically working for a well known brand
That kind of a company
The problem is is that these are really stressful to work at
You might be being paid well
You work INSANE hours
When are you going to have time to date somebody
If you're working up until midnight all of the time?
These companies require a lot of dedication
Some people live on campus
Like, we went to... Where did we go?
Was it LG that we went to?
And we saw that they have dorm life for people that work there.
You live at the factory you work in.
Another requirement is: you have to be 180cm or taller
Which pretty much means, that you will never date a K-pop idol except for maybe like 3 of them
Oh boy...
I'm sorry. Look, a lot of their profiles say that they're that tall
It's more like their ideal height but not their actual height.
Ok, listen. I have to say this.
I know that in North America a lot of girls want to date tall guys
It's kind of like a thing
I found that some of my students would rather date
I did like a survey with them
Right this was bizarre
We were talking about describing people's appearances
and that kind of stuff
And one of the things they talked about was...
They would rather date a tall good-looking guy who treats them really poorly
Than a short good-looking guy that treats them really well.
And I said to them like "NO!"
Like the self-esteem Martina came out and was like...
relationship satisfaction should me more important than how tall...
Another interesting requirement is:
The ideal guy should have studied for one year in another country.
It's usually an English-speaking country
To be more worldly, so you could speak other languages
But I heard, the key of it being 1 year is because you've been studying for a year
Not that you've been screwing around.
Because if you go... As we know from "Heirs", if you go overseas for more than a year
You'll start hanging around with crazy party people [S] who do nothing but drugs all of the time
Exactly. So one year is like that safety bubble of that "I didn't go there and shacked up with somebody
I went there to study. I came back. And I speak English"
Speaking of it, you need to have TOEIC score of at least 850
I don't actually know what 850 means, to be honest
Because I have never taken TOEIC
What's TOEIC? Teaching... Tomatoes... over... interesting [S]Total... ovaries... interesting... English... Calculates
SooZee [S]SooZee, what does TOEIC mean?
TOEIC is a test... [S&M]No, what does it mean? TOEIC?
[SZ]Something something English...
SooZee failed!
SooZee did you take a TOEIC test?
I did. [M]What's your TOEIC score? [S]930?
SooZee is the ideal type. She has lived overseas
I just want to know how do you flirt with girls?
Would you be like: "Hey baby, check out my TOIEC. See that? Ooh you like that" [M]Give your charming smile. GO!
Ok, well now you just lost her.
870, you like that, don't you, girl?
And what's your height?
Well I'm 195cm. You like that girl? Oooh you like them numbers.
Question: can you drink 2 bottle of Soju?
Easily.
Do you enjoy drinking it, though?
Not at all.
Well then you're my ideal type, because apparently
If you drink at least 2 bottles of Soju and you're not intoxicated
eeeentoxicateeeed [Ref to Junsu's "Intoxication"]
But you don't really enjoy drinking
Then you're the ideal type.
Now some interesting stuff about Korean family life
Ideally you should an only child
Ideally your boyfriend's parents should live Outside the city
Who visit maybe once a year.
So that they aren't interfering with your life all too much.
I think that's an around the world thing.
I hope my in-laws live up stairs for me so that we can all visit each other and hold hands
There are a couple of things those we think are a lil bit WTF
I'm touching your butt right now. You guys can't see this, but...
Rule #3 you must be able to pat each other's butts
Speaking of which is actually really funny one
Which I think is a joke
Who is kind and bold enough to dance naked if the wife says so.
I don't know.. [S]DANCE MONKEY, DANCE!
If you're getting a K-pop idol I'm sure you would definitely do that all of the time
Rain does it anyways.
Give me your charming smile!
Now one of the negative thing that comes of having all these ideals is that a lot of Korean guys
Feel a lot of stress
Because a lot of these ideals are extremely unrealistic
With the pressure they have in society
And not only is it stressful for the guy regarding how much money they make
and the job that they have.
It seems like there wasn't a big emphasis on personality?
If they get along well.
Like: are they both artistic together?
Do they have the same interests?
It's more of a matter of how fundationally solid are you.
You can't really predict love in my opinion.
You might meet somebody who is a dinosaur who likes to dance [S]I'm doing my charming smile
It's a really charming smile~
But you know what I'm saying.
you don't know who you're going to meet.
What if you meet an art student that you totally fall in love with
and he is a sweet, awesome, amazing guy
Who wants to open up a coffee shop
and doesn't make that much money.
But you could be really happy for the rest of your lives.
You're going to turn that down just because some guy graduated from a better university?
I don't know... So what do you guys think about this list of ideal types?
Is it the same as things that are in your country?
Or are there ideal things in your country that are not on this list what so ever?
Let us know in the comment section below.
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I would not follow this advice to date and fall in love
This was a bad advice.
It's kind of more of an arranged marriage advice
It Does seem very arranged