- One of the major causes of depression
is failing to follow your heart's desire.
We're all put on the planet
to find out what we're meant to be good at
and to do what makes our heart sing.
And when you don't do what makes your heart sing,
when you don't follow your heart's desire,
you always feel that something is missing.
And many people write to me and go,
"hey, I saw you speaking on YouTube
"about following your heart's desire
"but I don't even know
"how to get started with that
"because I don't know what my heart's desire is."
So how do you know what you're meant to do?
Well, here's a clue.
What you are meant to do lies directly
behind and is connected to what you love to do
between the age of 7 and 14.
What you loved to do as a child
is a real key to where your special skills
and talents are.
So Jo Malone was always making little potions out
of rose petals when she was a kid.
One of my friends who was always doing puzzles
is not a strategist.
I was always writing stories.
Here I am now a writer.
My daughter would make clothes
for her little figures out of Kleenex
and here she is now with her own design range.
Sometimes you have to go back
and think okay, maybe I should ask my sister,
my brother, my parents, my relatives,
what did I love to do?
And they'll go, "Well, you were always making up
"little science experiments.
"We kind of knew that you'd go into that field
"or you were always practicing speeches,
"you were always dancing.
"We knew what you would be."
Some people say, "Well, you know,
"my parents aren't here,
"my sister can't remember, I can't remember."
And it's okay.
If you really can't remember,
and you haven't got the option of asking your parents,
finding your school report.
When I got my daughter's school report,
I've kept them all,
they all say the same thing,
"Phaedra is such a gifted artist,"
"Phaedra is so good at expressing herself through art."
I knew she'd go into the world of art and design
because that was her talent.
She wasn't really gifted at everything.
And that's normal.
You're not supposed to be good at everything.
You're not supposed to be Jack of all trades
and master of none.
You're supposed to be good at one thing.
You're supposed to find your gift
and be amazing at it.
Some people get very confused and go,
"well, yeah, you know,
"I really want to be an inventor
"but I don't know how to invent.
"I really want to be a creator, I'm not creative."
The richest man in England today is James Dyson.
He took someone else's product,
a vacuum cleaner, and made it better.
He improved an existing product.
He took a vacuum cleaner.
His wife was always complaining
that when she changed the bag,
all the dust she'd hoovered up
was leaking out again
and he invented a bagless vacuum cleaner
and he's made a fortune.
He then invented a better hand drier,
a better fan, a better hairdryer,
a better flatiron, better hair straighteners.
And you see, he didn't even have to invent something.
He just looked at a product and thought,
I could make this better.
The woman who created Spanx,
who I know, who I've met, Sara, she's amazing,
she didn't invent shape wear,
she just improved it massively
and really cornered that entire market
and she deserves that success.
So don't think 'well, I've got to be an inventor,
'I've got to be creator,
'I've got to be something amazing'.
Some of the smartest people looked at something
and had an idea and took it way further.
I love the story about a man
who was broke and he had daughters
and at Christmas said, "You can only have one gift.
"We don't really have any money,
"so what do you want?"
And the three daughters were very conflicted
between a pony, to play with a toy pony
or a Barbie whose hair they could comb.
They wanted a doll to dress and comb their hair
but they also wanted a toy horse.
And he combined the two into My Little Pony.
Just think about that.
He combined a doll, Barbie, and a pony
and made My Little Pony.
My daughter loved My Little Pony.
It dad a handbag and shoes and coats and makeup.
It's very clever.
You'll find that some of the smartest people
weren't educated, didn't go to university
but came up with an idea.
We don't all have to be leaders,
we don't all have to be visionaries.
You can come from nowhere.
The guy who wrote 'Angela's Ashes'
was a school teacher all his life.
When he retired, he wrote a bestselling book.
Some of the bestselling authors in the world began
to write in their 50s, 60s, 70s.
Don't wait that long.
You need to do what makes your heart sing.
You need to follow your heart's desire.
And to follow your heart's desire,
you just have to ask yourself some questions.
What makes me feel really good?
What gives me energy rather than taking it away?
I saw clients for 30 years and I loved what I did.
I still do.
And one day, I was giving a talk
and I noticed when I got on stage,
it gave me so much energy,
even though I was tired,
I traveled right across the world,
when I stepped on stage, I had energy.
The next day, I saw a client
and I noticed that it was taking my energy.
And I thought well, that's a sign, isn't it?
Maybe I should be on stage more
and see clients less
and I created my own technique
and I trained people all over the world
to do what I do so I could give them my clients
and I could be on stage more
and see clients less only because I started to observe
what gives me energy, what takes it away.
And you might say, 'Well, it's easy for you.
'I'm in a job I don't like,
'I've got bills to pay,
'I have no idea how to follow my heart's desire'.
But you can do it.
You can have the life you want.
80% of success, yes, 80% is mindset.
The mindset of 'let me find out
'what I'm meant to do.
'When I've found out what I'm meant to do,
'let's me follow it with passion,
'an unshakable conviction, and absolute confidence'.
And if you have those things,
know what you're meant to do,
go after it with confidence,
you can be a success at any stage in your life.
It doesn't matter where you've come from.
It only matters where you are going.
So if you want to live the life you want,
if you want to do what you love,
love what you do, find your heart's desire, follow it,
become super successful at it,
then I invite you to click the link
and just learn more about having an abundant life
by using the abundance package
that we have available to you.
You really can have it all
and you really can have it all, all the time
and nothing has to give
except your old limiting beliefs.
They can go.
Thanks for tuning in.
See you soon.