Heya playa, if you like multiple people it can be hard to figure out which one to pursue
so I'll make it easy for you. Pursue all of them. Now, how do you do that without looking
like a player? There are three simple rules that you need to follow. This is The Josh
Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. My name is Josh and every single week I make
videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self and one of the
fears around being labeled a player is that girls may not see you as genuine, it may be
hard for them to open up to you and at the end of the day they may reject you thinking
you're not the type of guy that wants to commit. But I can assure you that it is possible to
be pursuing and dating multiple girls without everyone being all up in arms and upset with
you. So here's what you need to do. Tip number 1 is this, be honest right from the beginning.
So many guys like to lie and say they're not interested in dating anyone else, that they're
looking for a single relationship right now but in reality, maybe they're not. They're
just looking for a hookup or they're looking for someone to just casually date. Most guys
tend to lie here and think that by being honest and letting that girl know that they still
want to date other people is gonna end up pushing her away but you gotta understand
if you and that girl don't share the same values of casually dating around until you
decide to be committed, then yeah it doesn't make sense to keep pursuing her even though
you really really like her. If she's not gonna be on board with what you're doing and you're
not gonna be on board with what she's doing, well then it's not really going to go far.
So, as you start talking to that girl and flirting with her if she just straight-up
asks you "Hey, are you seeing anyone else right now?" tell her "Yes, I'm seeing other
girls but I'm looking to see who I have the best connection with so I can probably pursue
something more serious". Now only say that if you're actually looking for something more
serious. Tip number 2, don't lead any girls on. So many guys that are trying to pursue
multiple girls and go on lots of different dates tend to fall into this because they
see that by saying romantic things to the girl, she's more invested so you start to
get her to feel like you're more invested too when in reality you're still playing the
field. This is what people would call being a "f*ckboy" and for someone that's casually
dating, it's very easy for you to get that label if you're not being direct with those
girls. If you see that you're not really moving in the direction that you want with them then
break up with them. Tell them that you're not really interested in going any further.
So many guys don't do that though because they love having their ego fed. They love
it when multiple girls are gushing over them so it's hard for them to walk away. But if
you wanna avoid being a player and avoid that label altogether, you need to kind of let
them go. To be fair, it is possible to become conflicted if you do have deep feelings for
multiple girls at once so it's important to ask yourself these deep questions. Do I really
get along well with this girl? Does she make me laugh? Can we joke around with each other?
Do we have fun? Is there a good sense of energy and vibe there? Do I feel like she understands
me? Does she know my personality? Is she willing to learn about the things that matter to me?
And do I really see a future with this girl? Do we align in values? Do we have the same
thoughts and feelings going forward about how we want to live our lives? Tip number
3 is an important one to remember. Never date two girls from the same friend group. I know
you may like two girls that are actually close friends and you're not really sure which one
to pursue but if you are gonna date both of them, you might actually end up causing a
rift in their friendship and causing them to fight with each other, get jealous and
create problems that don't really need to exist. Ultimately, if you're gonna casually
date the best scenario is to have each girl stand on their own. To not know each other
so that nothing becomes conflicted, there's no drama, no rumors, no problems that exist.
It's just you and every individual girl developing those relationships. So, stay away from two
friends because it's only going to create problems for you. Trust me on this, I know,
I dealt with it. I made a video all about it. Check it out over here. The goal here
is to avoid all the stereotypes you see around players and f*ckboys. And basically, that's
the fact that they lead girls on they lie to them, they tell them everything they want
to hear, they're not actually looking for commitment, and they just really only care
about their own ego and selves. The point here for you should be to look for a girl
that you could really deeply connect with. One you can establish a good, quality relationship
with. And sometimes that means dating multiple girls at once to see which one is right for
you. I wanna give a huge shout out to all my patrons and YouTube channel members. These
are the people that help support the channel every single month so if you're someone that
wants to learn more about how you can communicate with me one on one through video chat check
out the link to Patreon down below. Now what I want you to do is to check out the video
over there on the side where I talk about dating two girls at once and how to figure
out which one is right for you. That video I think is super relevant and gonna be super
helpful for you so check it out and I'll catch you next time. As always, love and peace.