hi everyone I hope you're all well so as I'm sure at least a few of you will remember self-professed
comedian and woke agitated Chelsea Handler released a video just before Valentine's Day
called day in the life of a childless woman which is as you can guess about the fact she
is a childless woman at the age of 47 now 48 and how awesome she thinks it is just to refresh your
memories have a look this is a day in the life of a childless woman I wake up at 6am I remember
that I have no kids to take to school so I take an edible masturbate and go back to sleep I wake
up at 12.30 pm and get ready for a busy day of doing whatever the [ __ ] I feel like I put on my
most impractical and stylish shoes since I won't be chasing a child around the grocery store I go
to my fav spot in Paris to grab a croissant I do a meditation sesh on the plane since I have
no screaming kids allowing me all the Time in the World to become enlightened the weightlessness of
my existence has granted me superhuman Powers I teleport myself back home then I get ready for a
night out with whatever hot guy I met on Raya that morning I call up a babysitter and tell her that
I don't need her since I still don't have kids now it's time for a workout so I hit Mount Everest for
a quick climb I invent a time machine go back in time and kill Hitler crazy bastard it's amazing
what you can do when you have this much free time and that's a day in the life of a childless woman
now this video went pretty viral at the time that I am in the process of making this YouTube video
Chelsea's video has 11 million views on Twitter and it generated quite a reaction by which I mean
conservatives went absolutely freaking insane over it like even I was surprised at the virulence of
that reaction people saying they wouldn't trade all of their all of her exciting metaphorical
trips for their children you know that kind of stuff but most prominently featured comments
insisting that although Chelsea was saying she was happy she actually wasn't no way she could
be happy at 47 with no kids more on that later now I'm not entirely sure why the reaction was
so virulent I mean I'm seeing this kind of descent before whenever people post videos
or photos declaring how happy they are being childless maybe it's because Chelsea Handler is
just generally so awful like she's the worst kind of third wave feminist girl boss hypocrite let's
never forget her commentary on Melania Trump would you ever have Donald Trump on your show
what if he asked you no what about Melania would you have heard Melania to talk about what she can
barely speak English what do you think about her as the first lady exactly what I think about him
as the first man nothing I don't respect either one of those people totally not Progressive
hypocrisy at all am I right anyway there has been another video from a childless woman that has come
to light in the last week which appeared on the YouTube channel modern women archives reviews and
somehow subsequently made it to Twitter and needless to say it gives quite a different
perspective on women over a certain age and their attitudes to being childless let's take a look
I'm sitting here with just this horrible realization
I've been divorced for three years and in that three years I have spent
most of my days figuring out how I can become physically mentally
financially spiritually healthy enough to be able to afford and take care of a child
and not only have I taking that time but I've done the math and it it does not work out
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to even do another round of IVF and
thank you at 36 like I'm sorry like you're gonna say like you have time like I don't
because I can't spend another minute of my life
trying to make something work [Music]
when I'm just fighting Upstream
I don't have a support system I don't have the money I don't have the resources or the community
and it just kills me it kills me that I had embryos with my ex-husband that were viable
and they're just gone now and my future
my future with those children
and my life as a mother is just
it's gone and it's not just that it's gone it's the fact that it was decided for me
by so many other people and factors and that's what kills me because it was not my choice
now I think we can all agree that this is really really sad Tim Poole covered this a few days ago
and I'm going to say what he said which is that this woman deserves no ridicule to mean to be
married and divorced by the age of 33 is just horrible and it sounds like it was possibly maybe
a difficult divorce and the difference between her and Chelsea Handler well one of many many
many differences is that this woman clearly was trying to have children from an age younger than
36 she was married she had embryos ready to go and obviously she's ended up at a really low Point
here nevertheless the response from the person who I assume is the creator of the modern women
archives reviews videos was less than sympathetic wasted too much time to have a child now she is
36 and ran out of money doing ivfs to try to have a baby this is what happens when modern women try
to push their biological clock to the test and rely on technology to have children instead of
having children in their most fertile years out of the responses when the video made it to Twitter
they were blaming this woman for her own situation and claiming that the problem is too much feminism
it's okay to have empathy for this woman and simultaneously mouth the words this is what
you wanted the backlash of being lied to their whole lives will be terrible and misdirected to
those who tried to warn them of this truth this is very sad feminism has poisoned so many Minds women
don't realize how brief their Prime childbearing ears really are and how hollow a career can be
on the bright side she can still rearrange papers in a cuticle for the next 30 Years
full on comma no empathy I am a male and I realized this when I was 19. a female should
have an instinct for it but apparently not doomed species well looks like she found herself and
doesn't like looking at it breaking news local woman discovers consequences of own actions
who initiated that divorce three years ago 70 likely it was her why did her
and her ex freeze embryos rather than just having a baby then poor choices
then of course there are other comments on the YouTube video itself the full version of which
features two other women by the way talking about something called the wall which is according to
some magtile forum the point in a woman's life when she is no longer highly desired sexually by
men there is a dramatic fall off in approaches by men lower Express sexual interest by men and fewer
compliments from men offline and online her sexual market value drops significantly it is called the
wall because a woman's smv drops rapidly in her late 20s and early 30s most Peg the age
at which a woman hits the wall at between 28 and 35 which met with many pegging it at 30 years old
so I get the concept of the wall but I have a lot of contempt for the guys in the comment
sections of these forums and really any comments section internet-wide who gets
so strangely aroused when they talk about women supposedly hitting this wall I mean seriously
grow up anyway now look I despair of modern feminism as much as the next sensible person I
think it has certainly contributed to a generation of women who were told either that they could have
it all that is a high-flying career plus kids plus a perfect relationship with their husbands or that
they should de-prioritize the idea of getting married and having babies altogether in favor
of being an absolute girl bus in their career with no thought to the possibility that they may
hit their mid to late 30s and think hey maybe I want something more out of life but now I'm
fighting my biological clock and the fact that all the suitable men I know are either married
or chasing younger women to those women I offer my heartfelt sympathies however is that the case
with this woman or in fact Chelsea Handler well in the case of the former there appears to be a
bit of a back story here now look disclaimer this is just what's circulating on Twitter take from it
what you will but when placed against the woman's comments in the video it does appear to add up
everyone is commenting and quoting this with all of these wild theories but I found a social media
account so here's the actual story she suffers from infertility due to a genetic disorder the
couple went through infertility treatments for two years they created two embryos through IVF
her husband initiated the divorce years ago they signed documents saying that she couldn't keep the
embryos if they divorced and she didn't have the money to contest it her husband told her during
the divorce that he lied about wanting kids now obviously I think it was a bad idea on her part
to agree to signing any document saying the embryos can be destroyed for any reason but
she's not some [ __ ] who partied and waited too long or any of these other weird theories people
are coming up with it's all around a tragedy and I hope that she can heal and have peace
in her life pray for the souls of the two children that were lost so much for many of the assumptions
that were made about that childless woman but what about the assumptions made about the other
childless woman Chelsea Handler well Chelsea herself summed up the running theme pretty well
infinite respect for moms but motherhood is hard it's so hard it even broke Marie condo
tidying up with her life's work then she has kids and was like [ __ ] it living in squalor is fine
but really shouldn't be surprising that some women aren't signing up but many people aren't
just surprised they're horrified childless women are seen as unfulfilled unhappy even
the pope has slammed us saying that not having children is selfish that was essentially it it
was rains and reams of comments insisting that even though Chelsea handle was implying that she
was really really happy being childless in actual fact she's not she's secretly really
miserable and just pretending to be happy because she doesn't have the inherently
fulfilling meaningful thing that a large chunk of the commenters have that is children
now as I mentioned earlier in this video the strength of that reaction really quite surprised
even me even if it is Chelsea Handler and it got me thinking that in fact when Chelsea says that
in America and in a lot of other places motherhood is treated as a woman's essential purpose in life
she's right that attitude is certainly quite culturally ingrained even subconsciously in
societies all over the world and look evolution evolutionary speaking it is however since we are
human beings and not you know cows dogs or some other animal species we don't think purely in
terms of evolution when it comes to defining our higher purpose in life or even just how we
want to spend our days and just to offer a bit of onside critique here I see an uncomfortable
amount of that attitude on the right specifically the American ripe that being a mother is somehow
a woman's highest calling and anything else will render her unhappy and unfulfilled but here's the
thing I know this might be hard for some people to hear but the reality of the situation is that
some women just don't want to have children it's as simple as that they look at motherhood at the
responsibility and labor and frustration and lack of sleep and no free time and persistent
worry that you have a literal life that is wholly dependent on you for its survival and unlike a pet
cat or dog it will soon learn to talk back and the rest not to mention the physical parts of it like
pregnancy and childbirth and postnatal recovery and postnatal depression and hair loss and
incontinence and stubbornly hard to lose pregnancy weight and sore breasts and all the rest and think
no thanks and while sure parents will rightfully say that there is much to be gained from having
a child like love and purpose and meaning and the privilege of molding a little person to be a
thriving member of society who does Good Deeds for the world some women just really don't care that
much about all that they simply don't see it as a payoff and prefer to find meaning in yes having a
career or creating things or traveling or doing charity work or in the case of Chelsea Handler
having Edibles and other things at six o'clock in the morning so when I see all the conservatives in
the comments screaming at Chelsea about just how miserable she truly must be this clip Springs to
mind there's people here who are over 50 with no kids they don't look old look at people with no
kids no wrinkles they just sit there oh my God we're going we're going to Jamaica next week
and people are kids you don't know the joy you know you don't know the joy
trying to make you have kids
look how happy I am shut up now full disclosure here I am a childless woman for now I am a
childless woman who wants to have kids I have a husband I'm still a child bearing age and that's
all on the cards so I can see both sides of the issue and I'm really hoping that when I
do have children all going well all the love and fulfillment I know I'll get from having a
child will balance out the monumentally difficult task that is motherhood and I'm sure it will but
that being said when I see parents screaming at Chelsea Handler and other childless women
about how they're missing out and how unhappy they really must be I think man does someone
electing not to have kids really invalidate Your Life Choices so much that you'll move to insist
you're practically a mind reader maybe when it comes to this particular topic which is an
emotional one we should stop second guessing's people's motives hmm if you like that video
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