- When you think of us as kids,
what do you remember most?
- Our togetherness.
We were like, always
joined at the hip.
If you did one thing,
I was always there.
It just like we were
kind of inseparable.
There was not a time
that I don't remember
you not being there.
I know you are always
going to be there for me.
Regardless of what- - I will.
I have your back now.
- Yeah.
- You might be afraid
to fight, but I'm not.
- I mean, it's just that
we have this also
spiritual connection... - Right.
- You know, we could...
we could be in two different places.
And this is ironic.
We'd be in two different places.
And all of a sudden
we come up with the same outfit on
go figure without even
talking about it. So it's
it's that we have this connection.
I don't think that we-
- A spiritual connection. - We do.
We go shopping
and come around the corner.
We have the same shoe in our hand.
- I know. - Or the same jewelry
in our hand.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
Yeah, spiritual connection.
- Yeah. - It's about love.
It's about love.
My mom- my
what did she always say?
Take care of one another.
And we've lived up to that. - Right.
- By love of one another
and taking care
and looking after our brother,
you know, men
they're not like us.
We gotta look after our brothers.
- Yeah. - Yeah. So we do that.
Even though it's hard
sometimes to do it,
we still do it.
okay? - So...
- Okay, girl.
- What's one thing
you really want me to experience?
What's one thing you
want me to experience?
- Something you never had. - What's that?
- I... someone...
someone to give you like,
go shopping with a partner.
Don't marry somebody.
Someone you can partner with
to make you happy.
Someone you can depend on
to do things with you.
So you won't feel lonely.
I worry about you
being home by yourself a lot.
Sometimes even this
with the pandemic.
And remember, you- when I don't hear from you.
I'm worried what's going on now,
with everything that's going on.
It might be a purge.
What's going to happen
in your neighborhood?
I call you.
And so I panic.
What's going on with you? - Yeah.
- So I just wish you
had someone with you.
Not all the time now.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
But you know someone
you can do things
with consistently sometimes.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- That's understandable.
- Yeah.
What makes us family?
Don't sing the song 'We are family.'
What makes this family?
- I think the underlining factor
is that we love each other,
respect each other.
And we always there for each other,
regardless if you make me mad
and or whatever.
We know that if anything comes down,
you're there. - Got your back.
Listen, we listen to one another.
- Yeah,
sometimes that listening is hard,
but we try our best.
- And we take action.
- Yeah, you know,
I think that's one thing
that Daddy taught us is that
you got to be assertive
and- to get things done.
You can't wait because what-
what you're gonna say-
what someone else,
what our urgency is,
is not someone else's. - Exactly.
- So we have to know what
is impacting us.
You got to go after it
and take care of your business.
So
and have that understanding
and we all have that understanding
is what makes us a strong family and
- And working together for a common goal.
- Yeah. - 'Cause family is...
and being there for one another
in good times and bad times. - Right.
- And if you need something,
don't be afraid to ask.
- Yeah.
- What do you see in me
that I don't see myself?
- You are so beautiful
and you're so smart.
I don't know if you know
how smart you are
and you just have a way
of taking care of things
and getting it done
that people look up to you.
I don't think that you see yourself
as being a real strong leader.
I talk to you all the time
about running for office.
I mean, I don't have
that kind of power.
I mean, that kind of draw power.
- But you have friends.
- I don't have-
I don't have friends like that.
- You have friends. - Who?
I don't have any friends.
You are my only friend. You and ___________
- But no, but you have...
You have... You have ____________
I don't have-
I've never had that kind
of relationship that you have.
And I- and that was something
I was always envious about.
I never had anybody.
Even though I was married,
I never had anybody
to go all these places with me and
and go thing, you know?
You know, and after my husband died,
I became you all the third wheel.
Even when around my friends
you went with my friends.
You're the life.
I'm like in the background. - Mm hmm.
- And you know that. - Yeah.
- Yeah. - It's my personality.
- Yeah.
- Who has more power
in this relationship?
Why do you think that is?
- Well, power, I don't
think it's about power.
It's not about power,
but understanding and talking
through something
and get an understanding
in coming to a point of agreement,
agreeing on something,
then what I get-
like, I said, OK,
that's enough of that.
And I hang up. - Right, exactly.
- Because if I wait, she'll call me back soon.
- But I think it's not a power.
I think we have this
shared understanding.
We know each other's strengths
and we know when to
call on each other.
So it's never like a power thing.
It's- I think it's a
sheer level of respect
because I respect
we're both passionate.
But you take on passion
a little bit more,
especially when something is
dear to your heart
and you really want to take
and make a difference.
And that to share not only experience
but also bring in others.
And they see that
and they want to learn from you in
and take something back from it.
So... - And we've never projected
of being this or that. - Right.
- It's like the old saying,
let your work speak for you. - Exactly.
- We never went on
and say, 'Oh, I'm good
at this, I can do this right.'
- We just do it. - We just do it.
And everybody's like:
I want you on this, I want you on that.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- And what you do-
- So it's like a silent type of, you know...
- Mm hmm. Yeah. - ...showing that.
- What part of our relationship
would you most want
to share with others?
- Getting along as sisters, there's
some people don't
even get along as sisters.
And that you can be friends
and you can be sisters
and share
those experiences that we've had
and what made our relationship work.
Because I know of a lot of friends
that I have don't even talk
to their siblings,
so I would want them to share
our life lessons.
And I think that's important
as women, especially women
and as black women.
- I think it's also important
to share- we want
to share legacy.
Make sure you have
that piece of legacy pass on
because you and I are like this
because the legacy
that our parents pass on to us.
Make sure their legacy.
They know what's important in life.
Make sure we take care
what's given to them
and don't take things
for granted. - Right. - Yeah.
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