Inside your head, there is a problem.
And you are worrying too much what people think about you.
And it's really causing a lot slow progress.
So watch closely as I train you on how to stop worrying about what people think about
you.
You might be suffering from the very same thing that a lot of other people are suffering
from.
It's called WOTAM.
W-O-T-A-M.
What Others are Thinking About Me.
And it is a epidemic.
I mean, it is like...
It is very contagious.
It is infesting the minds of the people and it is causing massive, massive problems.
And the kind of problems it's causing is we are literally, as people, worrying so much
of about what other people think about us that it consumes our thinking and keeps us
in a state of paralysis.
Really, like we can't even think what to do because we're so concerned what our neighbors
are going to think or our family members are going to think or the people in the office
are going to think.
And it literally stops us from having progress.
But what's going on?
How come this is so hard for so many people to get past?
Because you listen and you will hear that when somebody is not moving forward and you
ask them what's your biggest challenge and they finally really honestly get down to it...
The number 1 challenge that people are having today is they worry about what others are
thinking about them.
So I want to uncover for you really what's going on inside of head.
And also, give you some steps about how to stop this madness.
Because it's totally messing up your life.
It really is.
So does what other think about me, whole situation.
What's happening is when you are posing the question of wondering what the other person
is thinking about you, you are activating your mind to search for the answer.
And so, your mind is trying reach and and trying to figure out what the other person
would think of you.
So then, your mind is puling back a whole bunch of scenarios.
But none of the scenarios can actually be confirmed.
Because your mind can not confirm any of these scenarios, it is an incomplete request that
you've given you're mind.
It's an incomplete request.
It can not come up with an answer.
So because it is unfinished, you're mind keeps looking for what other people are thinking
about you.
And because it can't find the answers, it won't stop searching.
It's like giving your computer a search option that it is running constantly.
Searching, searching, searching,searching, searching and it never finds and answer.
It literally gums to computer or gums up your brain.
And now you can't process any any other thoughts very well.
Because half of your thought process is still trying to search what all these people are
thinking.
So, that's where it started, as you we're curious, I think in the beginning of what
people think.
But now, the request can never be answered.
And now, every time you've wondered what other people are thinking, it's gotten to it's level
where it's now causing you to move slowly in your life.
Alright, so what do you do?
How do you get out of this?
How do you stop this?
Because you know, as an adult, you might be thinking it's not affecting you very much.
But what's happening is the way you plan your calendar, the way you make decisions about
your family.
What you wear for the day.
What you do in the form of going for goals or not going for goals.
It is affecting you.
It is slowing you down, it's causing problems.
And if you don't look around, you're going to be completely blind to all the problems
that's causing you.
For a teenager, big problem for a teenager.
Literally, if somebody...
If a teenager is struggling with their grades, I would have to say, this is on their mind
constantly.
What are the others kids think about them?
You know, what are their friends think about the,?
You know, if they...
If they're trying to have boyfriend or girlfriend, they're always thinking what they think.
We're wondering what their boyfriend or girlfriend are thinking about the.
But it consumes the mind.
And let's say that you have 100% of your mind to use to make decision.
This right here, this going to take off 50%, 60% of your thinking process.
No wonder you can't remember things.
You know what?
No wonder you can't finish things.
So, how are we going to take care of this?
Because if you don't figure this out, your kids are going to have the challenge.
You're friends are going to have the challenge.
Somebody's got to start figuring out how to just quiet this mind back down.
So you can get back being productive.
Alright so this is what you do.
Give you some instructions here so it can make sense for you.
It's up to you to create the answers.
Your mind will never figure out what other people are thinking.
No matter how much you try to figure out.
It won't figure it out.
So, it's up to you to answer 4 questions.
And these 4 questions is in the search menu in your head.
And it's up to you to literally sit down with pad of paper or get on your keyboard for you
laptop or your computer and answer this 4 questions.
Now, you're going to feel like you're making up answers and you're you know, it's like,
"Wait a minute, I can't make up these answers."
If you don't make up the answers.
it's an incomplete question and your mind will never stop.
So the way I stopped it in my head was I start to thinking, "What answers do I actually need
to come up so my mind will quit this nonsense."
Just quit the nonsense of searching.
Because an unanswered questions can cause you to feel insecure because you've so many
unanswered questions about what people are thinking about you.
You can feel insecure, your self-esteem can go down, your production or your performance
will definitely go down.
So I took these 4 questions...
I got a pad paper out and I just answer them.
Now, notice this is "What do I think of them?", What am I thinking of them?
And what do they think of me?
I came up with an answers.
And here's some answers that I came up with.
Number 1, of course they think I am handsome.
Right?
I know, that's one of your questions.
You wonder, "Do I look okay?
Am I alright?"
And I know it sounds like it's totally cocky or it's totally, you know like, be in all
about yourself.
But if you're wondering what people think about your parents and you don't decide yourself,
you're going to make this decisions what people think of you.
So I made a decision that I am handsome, I am smart.
I've got it put together, I know where I am going.
And this is what other people think of me.
Because if I come up with these answers and I believe my answers, my attitude, my performance,
the way I act around the people will completely change.
I'll be more confident for sure because what if I am worried of they think I am stupid
or I am too slow or I am too fat or I can't do anything right?
If I am thinking they're thinking that of me, well then I am going to act that way.
Doesn't it just makes sense?
We're already playing a head game with yourself anyway.
You're already playing ahead and give of wondering what they're talking about.
You might as well play a better head game.
You might have as played a better head game where you turn out good.
So make up the stories yourself.
You're already make up so many weird stories in a day anyway about yourself.
Make up better stories.
If you're going to try to figure out the story, just make it up.
So, there's 4 questions.
You can see what they're saying.
Answer all 4 questions.
But get involved with making the answers the way you want them to be.
Now, I got to tell you.
I am an introvert.
And how did I come out of being an introvert so I can be an extrovert?
I had to decide what people thought about me.
One of the challenges that introvert have is they're always searching to figure out
what's going on around them.
And one of them.
And one of the things that an introverts get caught up in is what do people think about
them?
And the stay quiet and stay in their shell.
But to open up my extrovert side, I came up with the answers.
So if you're not outgoing and you're not, you know, productive or doing very many good
things a row.
You're to do list doesn't get done.
I think this is haunting you.
It totally is messing with your head.
So since you're going to play a psychological game with yourself already, it's time to make
up your own answers.
Now, here something else about you that I know.
And this right here is super important.
You have to stop measuring others.
You see, one of the reasons why you wonder what they think of you is because you over
analyze people.
Oh, yes you do.
I totally busted you on this one.
Because if you worry about those other people, it's because that's what you're doing to them.
You're over measuring them.
So just stop that.
The other one is stop being so critical.
A person who is really critical of them self believes that other people are critical of
them.
And so, wait a second, it sounds like you actually started the problem.
I know this things.
I know this things because this what I used to do.
I used to be super, super analytical with people and measuring them like crazy.
And then I wonder what they thought of me.
And I used to be so critical about others and judgemental.
And then I created this whole facade of that's how they think of me too because that's what
I think.
So I had to like, calm down the craziness in my head.
How do you like calm this down?
So I backed off this, I backed off this and I answer all those 4 questions and it calmed
my mind down.
And when I calmed my mind down, I can focus...
I can focus on my steps of what to do each day.
I can focus on my goal.
I can get my goal because I am not worrying about what people think about me.
I think today's a good day for you to stop it.
And just take some actions.
You'll be so glad you did.
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