...like a dominating presents like over on top of me where can't we be cool and
relaxed. What if I told you I've got something for you that's going to make
you more attractive to women it's going to make you sell more if
you're in sales or be promoted more quickly if you're in business and it
doesn't cost you a thing the power of your voice as a man is hugely indicative
of the success of these things let me qualify these statements to you a little
bit number one when you have a strong voice as a man you're perceived as both
more trustworthy and more dominant two characteristics and attributes the
companies look for when they're promoting people in management if
they've got four different guys or options and they've got you who they
perceive as a leader they don't know why they perceive you that way the strength
of your voice is a huge attribute they're gonna promote you now let's look
at the attractiveness to women when women are given the same picture of the
same guy a company with two different voices number one weak to average number
two strong and resonating great tonality the women will rate the men
significantly higher in attractiveness so maybe you weren't born with a George
Clooney grill it doesn't matter we're going to put your best foot forward and
make that grill as appealing as possible by having a strong resounding
respectable voice in this video I'm going to give you three things you can
immediately implement to start taking advantages of all of these things that
come with having a nice strong resounding deep voice so you'll find
that when you look at the trajectory and the power of a voice it's much like a
guitar if you hold that a little bit higher perfect so this is your stomach
and then the strings are your larynx so what you want to focus on is having
the power lower because what does it sound like let's see if I can do this
when you're playing like a normal chord it sounds like this
but then if you play it higher I don't know if you could tell it's much higher
but when your voice comes out of the top of your throat when you have stress your
shoulders come up and you can feel the voice coming up towards the top versus
your deep chest voice I'm sure you could hear the difference even right now the
tonality is much different in the deep pitch is much different so you always
want to focus and understand you want to be releasing your voice from as deep
down as possible and notice the tendency that we all as humans have when we get
stressed or in situations where there's high value people around us that we
really want to impress a cute girl you're out of the bar watch your
shoulders creep up watch your voice come up in your throat the first step towards
improvement is just realizing it's happening now the struggle is when
you're in a stressful situation you can't think about a million things the
last thing on your mind is your tonality but once you understand your tendency to
do so your brain will work with you and by understanding you're doing that
you'll be able to check it every once while you're going up you're a bit
nervous hey how's your night going oh shit a little bit high it's a house that
drink by the way I saw you can bring it down and the cool thing is once again
the kind of self-fulfilling prophecy is once you focus enough to bring your
voice down there you're going to get a different reaction and then your
subconscious is going to see that different reaction so it's going to kind
of encourage you oh my my talking too high am i stressed to check that a
little bit more something I heard years ago that I thought was kind of
interesting was they're saying like when you're in the grocery store notice your
shoulder just because you're around a lot of people you're cross a lot of
people not a high stress situation but where are your shoulders and a lot of
times your shoulders just kind of come up a little bit not because you're super
stressed because you're a little bit stressed a lot different than when
you're sitting on your bed in your house so check these things to understand when
you naturally feel stressed because when you do your voice is going to creep up
the neck and it's going to sound weak and it's not going to sound masking the
dominant all you got to do is focus be aware I'm going to bring it back down
and now I'm gonna sound a lot stronger a lot more masculine especially in your
situations once again where you need to come off strong focus on that deep
resonating voice that comes from down here so as a man we want to use all the
rules that can display our masculinity when we need to in our arsenal me to
understand them and the biggest one I truly believe is your tonality so a
brief overview of the way tonality works there's three different tonalities
rapport seeking which is considered supplicated rapport neutral or poor
breaking and a quick display after I explain what they are will be given so
tonality that has a rapport seeking edge to it
it's supplicated ends with a twirl up at the end it's like something maybe
someone talking to their boss hey how's your day how are you and not only does
it go up at the end but it may just be high the whole time so here's how I'm
talking normally hey how are you it immediately jumps up that supplicated
that's our poor seeking that's what people you typically use when they're
around people who are an authority on them maybe in their business or hire
them or girl that they think is a little out of their league hey how are you
drinking right it's it's you want something from them you're communicating
you want something from them you never want to want anything from anyone this
is a pinnacle of being masculine being a confident guy but we'll talk about that
another time being reported means you're talking the way I'm talking to you up
and down inflections in your voice just like you talk to a buddy or someone that
you're very comfortable with report breaking is much like a police officer
would talk to you license and registration please
do you know how fast you were driving do you know how fast you were driving it's
deeper and it trails off with a downward fluctuation tonality what does this
articulate to them well you're not saying this but what
they're picking up on in your communication you don't really care
about having rapport with them and you don't want to make friends with them
rapport breaking tonality you've got nothing to gain it's the opposite of
being supplicated where you want something hey maybe it's a real rich guy
hey how are you today maybe this guy can give me a job and I can make money how
are you verses how are you today so you don't want anything from them now
understanding these tonalities is important because most people miss
calculate the tone that they're speaking in so they think they're using a proper
tonality for the person they're talking to but they're typically a half step to
a full step in the direction of being more supplicated or a poor seeking so
they're talking to someone who's there they're equal let's say you're in a
business setting and you say you know hey Billy how's your weekend and you
think it's neutral but it's up well Billy he's not a jerk but people respond
to what you tell them what are you telling him hey Billy how was your
weekend you know you're telling him yeah Billy you're a little bit higher than I
am I'm talking to you kind of like you're a boss and Billy's subconscious
is saying I don't know why barons like this but he perceives me as being a
little higher maybe he maybe he knows I'm better at him and some things in the
cubby I don't know why but now I'm going to kind of start treating him that way
so watch Billy's tone start to take more of a rapport breaking as you go and that
rapport seeking Billy I was good right a little more authoritative so we never
want to do that so the first step is understanding the tone that you're
actually presenting get out a microphone the iPhone microphones are pretty good
now all the decent smart phones now record them put them through a good pair
of speakers and check your tone a nice trick you can do is record a
conversation with your boss or with a friend and then ask someone who doesn't
know either those people another friend who might I be talking to what status do
they have are they my boss are they do they report to me what kind of
inflections are you picking up on and a lot of times you're going to realize
that you're speaking in a tone that's not proper or the most efficient for
that specific person so we need to understand the right time now to use the
only way to understand that is to know the actual tone that you're speaking in
and we look at three different examples I'm going to talk about this weekend I
went to a unbelievably good buffet at the M Resort in Las Vegas okay best
buffet in Vegas or so they say I think every casino says they have the best
look they are good it's humble the seafood was unbelievable so okay so I'm
going to say that so in rapport seeking that makes it like this hey I went to
the M Buffet this week it was so good have you been there yeah okay yeah okay
you have been there okay an airport neutral hey I went to the M Buffet this
week it was really good even better than I expected
okay that's like you're talking to a friend that's neutral now we're poor
breaking like a cop hey I went to the M Buffet this weekend it was
better than I expected those are the three different tones mix and match them
but understand once again in that interaction equilibrium a dude's
clowning on you that dude thinks he's got something on you take that tone half
step towards more rapport breaking so when you're talking to him like this
before now all of a sudden you're talking to him a little bit more like
this and he's gonna pick up on this and once again subconsciously nobody
realizes this nobody thinks about things in this depth but subconsciously his
brains telling him all right back awful but this guy maybe has a little bit
higher status of what I initially thought and then once you see the cool
thing is a symbiotic relationship through osmosis you're gonna get more
confident how geeky in science - can you give so through osmosis it's it's it's
going to be a self-fulfilling prophecy because you're gonna sound more
confident he's going to understand you somewhere confidence so he's going to
start treating you as a higher value person and it continues to go like this
that's why a lot of times when you take one step in the right direction it just
naturally your brain wants you to be the best you can be but you have to prove to
it that it's safe and you can take those first steps so in tonality take that
first step towards being a little more rapport breaking when it's a situation
that you feel like someone's either coming down on you or it's a place you
want to really exert your authority all right so one of the things need to
understand is how you're perceived differently your tone your whole
communication due to your orientation of your body so when I'm talking to Brooke
when I'm squirted up to her to the side can you tell like this versus completely
like this it feels much different some example may be hey Brooke I heard you
guys were going to Disney last weekend how was that or hey Brooke I heard you
guys are going to Disney last weekend how was that now how does that feel
differently to you um super intense and almost confrontational like dominating
presents like over on top of me right can't we be cool and relaxed right and
it feels like I'm really in your space where I'm squared up doesn't it right no
but no think of way get out of here so the way you can use that oh the
masculine presence is to just understand how it works so first of all talk about
being empathetic you don't always want to be this groping map masculine man so
see someone's get a little tight you're talking to maybe a girl and she's
showing a byline she's backing up a bit just turn your orientation away continue
the conversation take a little half step understand a lot of guys I see when they
see girls getting a little bit overwhelmed they'll start backing up
that doesn't work it still feels more intense so don't worry about the
proximity just turn your orientation now let's say you're talking to a guy I was
talking about the interaction equilibrium you want to be on the same
level as the other person or a little higher meaning their perception of your
social value is the same if they're clowning on you maybe they're talking a
little bit disrespectfully to you or they're talking down to you well
understand it's very easy to exert a little more social pressure Authority
just by squaring up to him now your man now they understand and clearly she's a
girl so you're not going to talk to a guy like you do a girl but they're going
to understand as I Square up to the camera like this and you start up you're
saying exact same thing using the exact same tone but it's perceived in a lot
more strong way which is going to help tilt that interaction to equilibrium
back to get you because nobody wants to be talked down the longer someone talks
down to you the more you feel like you're inferior the more everyone around
who sees them talking down to you see as you is inferior so now you go up to
someone else who saw you getting clowned on by this guy and I don't mean clowned
on like he's like a look at this chump getting clowned on like he's just a
little bit snide to you but you're dealing with it you're not doing
anything to combat that now you go up someone else and like oh this guy got
caught on pretty easily I'm thinking this consciously but in their
subconscious they're thinking low-value so we need to address this immediately
anyone's talking to us down at all just use that body orientation square right
up let him know you're not going to be clowned on it's a little bit as she said
confrontational that's what you want so that's three of the nearly 30 different
tips and techniques that you can use to increase the power of your voice and to
get those benefits but because we don't have five hours here I put together a
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minute they open their mouth the minute they talk to people people stop and
listen and look and they perceive you as a leader let me ask you this why in
school are we not taught about social skills and how to interact and flirt
with members of the opposite sex it's two of the most important things will
ever do in our lives find a mate someone we marry and spend our entire life with
and maybe you have kids with and be successful in business role in a
corporation do better at sales it blows my mind how with all of the curriculum
are teaching kids to code and do all these cool things we completely neglect
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