so those of you new to the work I'm I
love you're here
so I love rather than to talk about the
work I love that you experience the work
let's do the work
it's very powerful and I invite you just
to find the judge-your-neighbor
worksheet on the materials you have you
see the judge-your-neighbor worksheet
you see it okay look it over for a
moment and then consider a situation a
stressful situation this seems to
reoccur and then write about that
situation for example I'm angry at Paul
because he doesn't listen to me he
doesn't care
ok now on the second line I want in that
situation what was it I wanted I want
okay so I invite you to fill in the
blanks and we're not going to collect
these you can burn them later but please
please get what you came for and I'm not
talking about the event this evening or
tomorrow I'm talking about right now so
I invite you to focus on the worksheet
fill in the blanks this is just you with
you
anyone have any questions about the work
so the question is I see you're the
people complain that work could be the
same disempowering I lost my job now I
have to find a new job but if I love the
reality why should I even look for a job
why not because that means I don't love
the reality if you don't expect to find
one to find one or not find one why not
like if I lost my job like people
stopped inviting me to do the work with
them I would sit on a curb and just
bliss out until someone through maybe
some litter on the ground and there's my
job I pick it up why do I do it because
there's nothing to stop me I'm living
out of a sense of of being that it's
natural and there's nothing to stop me
I'm living out of the heart but if you
love what is why would you pick litter
it's perfect well I love it there and I
love it in the litter bin the second
part I don't get why would you love it
in little bin when you love it
why not it's all equal you're trying to
understand this with logic aren't you
well I was software development that's
what I do
but you were I'm a computer developer I
I'm a software developer
what are you filling your worksheet out
on tonight I would sure love to get
inside your computer well I wrote your
hard drive I don't I'm frustrated but I
couldn't come up with a reason I think
that there are few things but well what
about judging me okay good okay thank
you
we're going to have a little bit of fun
here tonight that is not distant from
your heart yes following the because
it'd be just one or can it be more than
one item you know get the strongest one
first or at least don't miss the
strongest one okay I'm just gonna kind
of right in that situation what was
going on you know why I was saddened or
angry or hurt or frustrated whatever the
emotion so let's take some time out and
fill in that worksheet it is so
important
so let's focus on the worksheets if you
never do the work with the worksheet if
you just fill it in after this evening
when you read through the worksheet
you'll see it as though what you wrote
that is so painful when you look at it
again you'll want to laugh at so I
invite you to fill in the worksheet and
just trust trust as much as you can
filling this worksheet in you know it's
like meditation stay in the situation in
that situation I want he should she
shouldn't in that situation what were
you what would you should either sheet
what advice could you give that person
that would be helpful in that situation
in that situation Paula screaming at me
he's yelling at me you don't love me and
that situation underneath what do I need
to be happy in that situation at that
time in that experience
I need him to hear me
meditation stillness sit with yourself
that you fill in these blanks I'm having
a hard time filling this out because I
feel like even when in a frustrating
situation like with my spouse for
example it's not anything that I can do
to change his reaction it's about me yes
so I don't really know I just I feel
like in that situation I am above myself
yes and if you really want to heal
yourself write about him because when
you're arguing you're with your husband
you really think it's about him you
don't think oh excuse me honey I was so
far off I was thinking it was you know
that's why I say in that situation
although eventually that's what happens
it's like you should never lie I won't
forget it
thank you I'm with her but I am mad at
myself because I'm late a lot and I want
to know how to write about that I
thought you to UM fill in a worksheet on
mother father sister brother the world
and and beyond time with this worksheet
right about my my mother brother find a
reoccurring stressful situation and just
wait it'll come to you
yeah like those people that Judge you
when you're late
occurring stressful situation is with my
mind so am i angry with my mind or I'm
confused
well you're not your mind oh yes I am
no just well if just if if your mind was
awake to that you wouldn't even you
would have no way of knowing that that
you you believe you to be even existed
you would find the thought i whole arias
so I invite that's why I invite you to
trust and write about a person okay
this work is about the end of the minds
war with itself and this is the hell you
know the Masters those enlightened
people good for them and what about us
so they didn't tell us how and I invite
you to step into the hell yeah
hi there hi um I'm having trouble um
filling out number four what I need um
what's the situation well the situation
is that I'm I'm angry with my students
parent because she is not taking an
interest in her child's school
experience okay so in that situation
what do you need to be happy for
instance when I tell her that her son is
harassing the girls in our classroom I'm
not getting any kind of reaction at all
I get oh oh
and so I I know what I don't need I just
don't exactly know what I need I need
her to understand what I'm saying I need
her to understand her son is causing
havoc in the classroom or whatever it is
okay yeah thank you
see that's what mate would make you
happy in that situation that's what
we're believing and when we don't get it
this frustration happens who would
volunteer to read the first thing
they've written on number one uh-huh who
angers confuses and disappoint you and
why and I put the situation years that I
am fearful because he is a diabetic he
acts like he don't care about his
illness yes okay how many of you have
had a reoccurring thought like that
you've known someone that is unhealthy
and they just don't seem to care and
have you looked in the mirror too
it's like that is like a universal worry
the names change but it's the same read
the next one I want I want to go to the
doctor taking some medication care about
his body now work at his business all
the time how many of you have never had
those thoughts would you raise your
hands so the mind it's like there are no
new stressful thoughts they're all
recycled the recycled if you put us all
together the entire world we are one
schizophrenic mind a bipolar it's
nothing new like one mind holding all
these things for centuries and centuries
and centuries this is not new this is
old and the next one in this situation
she fear my his life matters and he and
I met him so he should feel like his
health matters and that you like you
matter right anything new there no so
you thought that was your thought but
those were ours it's like we claim them
like they're personal but no they belong
to all of us and for all of these
centuries we have not understood the
mind we have not made peace with the
mind the mind is doing battle with the
mind holding onto the identity that it
is creating every single moment it's all
so simple and the mind longs to wake up
to its true nature so that's what we're
going to do this evening so sweetheart
read the next one come up with something
new
mmm-hmm in this situation and me to
listen to me recognize that he stresses
me out and his disease yes you need him
to realize it is stressing you out and
his disease okay
nothing new there nothing new there so
on sweetheart thank you very much
so you want to volunteer to read your
worksheet the worksheet on your son
let's hear it
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