hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about seven types of
people you need to avoid now let's begin number one the chronic gossip everyone has a gossip
lurking somewhere in their lives thinking about that friend who can't stop stirring up conflict
or the co-worker who's constantly talking about other people's personal lives a gossip is someone
who deliberately tears you down but only behind your back they'll never say anything bad to your
face they'll smile and pretend they're your best friend and then talk trash about you moments after
you leave the room but what's in it for them well for starters they think it's entertaining gossips
usually don't realize how much they're hurting other people but even if they do they probably
don't care gossip is also a big ego booster criticizing other people gives them power and
it gets people's attention which makes them feel special to spending time with a gossip is a great
way to get hurt so do yourself a huge favor and steer clear number two the emotional Underminer
this might be the most irritating personality type on this list for anyone who's dealt with
one firsthand well I'm sure you know exactly why imagine you just got home from a horrible day
at work that morning your coworker messed up on a big project but instead of fessing up to your boss
your coworker sat back and let you take the heat because of them you spent the entire afternoon
getting yelled at you thought you might even get fired even though you had nothing to do with
it obviously this is an incredibly frustrating situation when you get home you're still feeling
angry and helpless so you call your partner to let off some steam think about what you expect
from that phone call you're looking for a little support right you're hoping they'll listen and
make you feel heard but halfway through your story your partner cuts you off and says Oh come on
you're just being dramatic emotional under miners do this kind of thing all the time they constantly
brush you off and invalidate your feelings it doesn't matter how sad or frustrated you are
they act like your problems just don't matter now I know it doesn't sound that bad but trust
me it's a major issue in the long run because your partner isn't just being negligent they're making
you feel guilty for expressing yourself words like dramatic crazy and oversensitive trivialize
your emotions and it makes you feel foolish for having them these bad habits may be subtle but
they're still extremely toxic because in their mind your feelings just don't carry any weight
emotional under minors don't respect you or take you seriously they might even think they're better
than you most under minors treat your emotional intelligence like a weakness why well because they
struggle to express or understand themselves since under minors can't translate their own feelings
into words they make a habit of stepping on the people that can so don't spend another minute
getting stepped on whether it's your friend or your partner get rid of the under miners
in your life number three the sinking ship let's say you're sailing on the ocean when suddenly you
run across a reef the bottom of your boat gets torn apart and you barely managed to stay afloat
most people would try to fix their boat right but instead you turn around and go through that
reef a second time and then when that doesn't sink you you'd do it again that's essentially
how this personality type lives they act out the same destructive cycles and fall for the same
traps no matter how much it ruins their life as a friend or partner this is incredibly stressful to
watch you know exactly what they're doing wrong maybe you've told them a dozen times to stop but
it never works the truth is there's only so much you can do if they don't want to change it's not
worth sinking alongside them number four the personality performer these people where their
personality like a mask on the outside performers seem polished and controlled they might dazzle you
with their charisma flourish under the spotlight or win the respect of everyone they meet but
none of it's for real it's all a performance performers embody the phrase fake it until you
make it to get what they want they interact with the world using complicated fake personalities
now I say personalities plural because there's usually more than one many performers have a
different mask prepared for every environment one they wear to impress their friends another
they use to intimidate their co-workers you see each mask is tailor-made for a specific kind of
reaction to grab people's attention to feel more powerful or just to blend into the crowd
performers have no real problem treating their personality like a tool if they need to become
a completely different person well they'll do it without a second thought but the biggest problem
with this personality type isn't their flexibility it's their complete lack of honesty with others
and themselves performers spend so much time manicuring their fake personalities that they
rarely get in touch with their real emotions so most of them are extremely immature if you manage
to get a glimpse behind the curtain you'll find someone who's selfish childish and almost always
unhappy so what went wrong performers don't pay nearly enough attention to their interior selves
they're out of touch with their genuine wants needs and goals it takes a lot of time to develop
enough confidence to share your interior self with the world but performers never do instead
they're scared of letting down their walls to a performer nothing is more terrifying than being
vulnerable some people become performers because they're worried about getting hurts they use
their fake personality like a shield to protect them from danger others perform because they're
deeply unsatisfied with their real personalities each mask is an opportunity to be someone else
someone they actually like if it wasn't obvious enough already Trust is something you'll never
have with a performer bonding is almost impossible because you're not interacting with their interior
selves you're just talking to a mask number five the ball of nerves have you ever met someone who's
constantly paranoid I mean no matter what they're doing they always think someone's out to get them
if they fail a test it's because their teacher hates them if they get fired from their job they
insist that their co-workers were conspiring against them these people don't think anything
is their fault instead they'll find a thousand reasons why it's somebody else's to make matters
worse this personality type is really judgmental they're not fun people to be around because in
their eyes you can never do anything right they'll insult you they'll try to control you and they'll
never forgive you for making a mistake so save yourself from the grudges and pointless paranoia
if you run into a ball of nerves don't bother getting involved number six the brick wall have
you ever heard the expression it's like talking to a brick wall well that's what you get with this
personality type they're terrible communicators and they're notoriously distant but that's not
why they're toxic you might have friends who are reserved and aloof but they may find other ways
to communicate and strengthen your friendship the real problems start when a brick wall runs
away instead of working through their problems they completely avoid them you might notice a
brick wall pretending that they're obvious issues just don't exist but they do and someone's got to
take care of them unfortunately that someone usually turns out to be you the worst part is
you can't even confront them about it brick walls hate hearing about their failures if
you tell them that they're in denial there's a good chance they'll lash out now I know on the
surface it looks like brick walls don't have any emotions but they do have a of pent-up frustration
and over time it can cause them and you a lot of unnecessary stress many brick walls become bitter
resentful people because they've been holding on to the same unresolved issues for their entire
lives now of course it's not your job to solve their problems for them if you know someone who
acts like a brick wall it may be the time to take a step back number seven the puppet master
finally let's talk about the most extreme of our seven personalities puppet masters have little to
no empathy they treat manipulation like a sport and they only care about their own satisfaction
if it sounds like I'm describing a psychopath that's because I am many puppet masters fit well
with clinical definitions of psychopathy they're usually narcissistic and tend to be uncomfortably
aggressive most importantly they've got this unique combination of high self-worth and a
fragile ego they think they deserve more than anyone that they're destined for some kind of
power or prestige and unfortunately that self obsession can lead them down a very dark road
not all puppet masters or Psychopaths but you should still keep your distance puppet masters
have no problem taking advantage of other people even their friends and family they developed
these parasitic relationships which lets them benefit from all your hard work since they're
lacking in the empathy department this doesn't sound like a problem to them but it is a problem
for you if someone is intentionally using you it's time to make a change hey thank you for
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