- I really did give a lot of my heart.
I made bad decisions. I can truly admit that
I can say I'm sorry.
- Oh my God, I'm crying. This is not supposed to be
this type of episode.
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- (Liza) Does it look good? - (David) Now it's a breakup.
- Oh, it's David and Liza.
- He's a famous guy. His name is David, I think.
- Oh, okay. I might cry.
- (Liza) One of us is going through some stuff.
- Oh my God, my heart. I wanna cry.
- (Liza) I know, but you look adorable.
This is so unfair. - (David) I think we know
which one of us is going through some stuff.
- Aw.
- (Liza) It's some rough stuff, but not stuff that
they can't get through. It's the kind of stuff
that I didn't realize, Tumblr quotes.
- Look how serious he is.
- (Liza) The kind of stuff that I didn't realize,
Tumblr quotes, "Only time can heal"
or "You have to love yourself before you can love
anybody else" kinda stuff. I didn't know those were real.
They're real. - That's true.
- (Liza) I hate this. It sounds so lame,
but I really wanna spread love, but I have to have it first,
you know? - This video makes me so sad.
- Their breakup was so sad because they shared so much
of their relationship on the internet,
so it felt so personal.
- (FBE) These are two of YouTube's brightest stars,
Liza Koshy and David Dobrik. They very publicly went
through a breakup last year. - Oh.
- I didn't like it. It hurt a lot.
- You can tell that they genuinely love each other
but something is going on in their lives that it's just
not working out.
- It sucks that they're so big that they had
to go public about it and they're like,
"Listen, it's not a thing anymore."
- (FBE) We're gonna show you more breakup videos in a second,
but first, have you ever been in a bad breakup?
- You know, I think so. I mean, not that drastic.
I don't think I cried over it.
- I have. One day, I texted him
and he didn't reply, so then I texted his friend
and he said, "Oh yeah, he blocked you."
And I was so confused. I was like, why did he block me?
I didn't do anything. He was like, "He's talking
to some other girl now."
- I have a really bad one actually.
Very quickly, she got into another relationship
so to me, that's-- it hurt a lot,
'cause it's like I must have been doing something wrong
the whole time and you were just looking
for something and I didn't have it.
- I was heartbroken once and it wasn't one
of the breakups, it was by my best friend
that I was secretly in love with. I think about how much
I love my boyfriend. It blows my mind
that people get divorced and people break up.
Oh my God, I'm crying. This was not supposed to be
this type of episode.
- (FBE) I wanted to prepare you for this video,
which is different types of breakups that have been
happening in pop culture over the past 100 years.
- Whoa, okay.
- No, I hate breakups.
- (FBE) Well, we'll get back to the future in just a second,
but first, let's start in 1896. - Ah, stop.
Obviously this is gonna quake me.
- Aw, I was not expecting a gay couple.
- (FBE) Who you see here is Oscar Wilde
and Lord Alfred Douglas. - He's an author, isn't he?
Right? - (FBE) Yeah, so he's
the very famous Irish poet and author
of The Importance of Being Earnest
and Picture of Dorian Gray among many, many other things.
- 1896. - (FBE) 1896.
- Wow.
- (FBE) Since we know he is such an eloquent writer,
I'm going to be showing you a couple passages
from a breakup letter he wrote to Lord Alfred Douglas.
- Okay.
- "You became a thing as terrible to look at
as to listen to." Okay, ouch.
That hurt my eyes.
- "In your case, one had either to give up to you
or to give you up."
- It's either my way or the highway.
Wow, that's savage.
- In any relationships, you have to compromise a lot
and you have to come to an agreement with yourself
as to how much you're willing to give
and how much you're willing to take at the same time
and sometimes it's just ugly.
- "You came to me to learn the pleasure of life
and the pleasure of art. Perhaps I am chosen to teach you
something much more wonderful, the meaning of sorrow
and its beauty." That was deep.
- Wow, that's deep and powerful The heartstrings are torn.
- Putting it in poetry just makes it sound more beautiful,
but then when you get to the deeper meaning of it,
it's just like, oh my God.
- I can definitely say that I've gone through this many times
and each time, I feel like it's like a scar on my body
that makes me stronger or a notch on my belt
or a badge. Everyone goes through
a breakup, so don't feel like the world is out to get you
or no one's gonna love you, 'cause eventually,
there'll be someone.
- (Rick) Inside of us, we both know you belong
with Victor. - Oh, Casablanca.
- Casablanca. - (Rick) That plane leaves
the ground and you're not with it, you'll regret it.
Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow,
but soon and for the rest of your life.
- Yikes. - (Ilsa) What about us?
- Oh my God.
- (Rick) You'll always have Paris.
We didn't have-- we lost it until you came
to Casablanca. You got it back last night.
- Iconic.
- (Rick) Where I'm going, you can't follow.
What I've got to do, you can't be any part of.
- Oof.
- (Rick) I'm no good at being noble,
but it doesn't take much to see that the problems
of three little people don't amount to a hill
of beans in this crazy world. - No, no, no, no.
- (Rick) Here's looking at you, kid.
- Man, where's the actors like that?
Wow, that was something else.
- That hurt me. She so didn't want
to hear that, but she knew that was the right thing.
- (FBE) In this clip from Casablanca, we see
Rick explain to Ilsa that he's not the one
she should be with. - You know, it's kinda
like he did it for a good reason, I think.
- The one serious breakup I had, I didn't wanna break up with--
I didn't wanna break up at all. I didn't.
I wanted to stay with him, but I knew it was gonna hurt
both of us. It was better for the both of us
to move on.
- As much as it hurt, I remember hearing it.
- (FBE) So, this has been said to you before?
- Yeah. I swore up and down
that I would love her so much that I would
never wanna love anybody else and she moved on so quickly.
It's like, I don't think I'm ever gonna be able
to marry anybody if that's the case.
- (FBE) Oh, I don't believe that. - That's not--
to me, it wasn't fair. I was like--
I really did give a lot of my heart.
I made bad decisions. I can truly admit that
I can say I'm sorry. It was a lot.
- (FBE) Man. I relate to that very deeply.
- It was a lot.
- (woman) Michael, you say you love me
and then you talk about allowing me to leave.
- Godfather.
- (Michael) Things that have going on between
men and women will not change and that's it.
- (woman) You've become blind, Michael.
Look what's happened to us, Mike.
My God, look what's happened to our son, Michael.
- (Michael) Nothing's happened. - (woman) Don't tell me--
- (Michael) Everything's fine! - (woman) Andy is not fine!
- Ooh, I can feel that.
- (Michael) I don't wanna hear about it!
I don't wanna hear about it! - Oof, my blood is curdling.
- (Michael) Do you expect me to let you take my children from me?
- No way.
- (Michael) To let you take my children from me?
- My children? Hold the [bleep] up.
Last time I head, it takes two to tango.
- Get out, girl.
- You're not listening to her. He just kept on cutting her off.
What the heck?
- It's like a historical. You see how things change
from 1896 to how confrontational it started to become.
- She should know better in his status,
what he is, who he is. There's no way he can win
and to me, almost selfish in her part to try to take
the kids away from him. A man have a certain
responsibility and so is the women.
Both of us is kind of melted together as one.
When you accomplish that, then you can go pretty far.
- In both situations, they weren't getting what
they needed and I just feel that pain,
feel that frustration of fighting with someone
you love and you're like, "Why don't you get it?"
but no matter how much they hurt you
or how much you hurt them, you're always gonna forgive them,
but you still have to deal with that hurt deep down.
It's really hard.
- For me, I had a best friend. "Had."
We were best friends for about nine, ten years.
She would never listen to me and she was basically
the dominant one in our friendship.
We just started drifting apart and I was
the only one trying in our friendship
to keep it like that and then we just stopped
talking to each other. Sometimes, you have to
let things go and move on with your life.
- (Jerry) She broke up with you. - (George) No, but I can tell
she's going to. I can sense it.
- Oh, Seinfeld.
- (George) We had this terrible phone conversation.
I was so nervous before I called I made up this whole
list of things to talk about. - I do that too.
- (George) Let's see. How I'm very good at
going in reverse in my car. - Poor George.
- (FBE) Is that relatable to you, this idea
of phone anxiety? - Absolutely.
Actually, that's why I remember most
of my breakups because my relationships
happened in the '90s and that's when I broke up
the most and it was through those kind of interactions.
- I'd say text anxiety. Text anxiety is a big thing,
just waiting for that response.
- I'll start texting and I'm like, wait, that's the wrong
thing to say and I'll backspace it and then--
and the person will send a message and be like,
"Why do you keep typing and it keeps going away?"
I'm like, "Sorry, I'm just trying to think about
what I have to say."
- (man) Valentine's Day is three God damn days away.
I want it resolved.
- This is the ultimate breakup movie.
- (man) So I call her and she's changed her number.
She doesn't even know who I am.
- Wow.
- (woman) Excuse me? Can I help you find something?
- Knowing this movie, it's like wow.
- Whoa, did she literally-- she went to a doctor
and erased her memory?
- She erased the memories, so she actually didn't know
who he was. How do you just--
and you're not there anymore in your memory.
- (FBE) The idea behind this movie is that
you can go to the doctor and they can isolate
a memory or a person and erase them
from your memory. - Why would you wanna do that?
- Oh yes, I do remember the movie.
It was pretty edgy at the time.
- (FBE) Do you think this is healthy?
- No. Everyone that I meet,
I'm meeting them for a reason, so if I erase them
from my mind, then I'm not really learning.
- Memories are one of the most beautiful things we have,
whether they're dark or happy and you kinda need
them to press on in life.
- When I was going through my little heartbreak,
I would have loved something like that,
but I learned from it and I grew from it
and I learned to love myself from that and I'm grateful.
- Despite that I don't talk to her, despite whatever
might have happened for that breakup to happen,
you have fun in those memories. During that time being,
was it okay? Was it a good time?
I feel like that's not fair to you or your ex
to get rid of it if in turn, that picture
was to capture that happiness.
- Good time memories become-- you remember happy times
more than sad times and that's why that movie
is so sad because it would be so sad
to not have-- 'cause you learn from everything.
You're gonna be able to look back at that
in the future and have happy memories.
- (Trish) Last time we broke up that night.
- Yes, my girl.
- (Trisha) We're broken up. He's single.
He can do whatever he wants. I want people to know that.
He's making out with people for David's vlog and it's fine.
We're not together. He can do that.
- (Jason) I never made a video like this before.
- Is that the guy she's talking about?
- (Jason) Said about me and it feels really awful.
- I think this whole situation is so, so sad.
- (Jason) I never called her fat. A lot of what she said
in her video is true. The title is really shocking.
- Oh my God, nine million?
- See, it's just a bunch of he said, she said.
- (Jason) Well, she's great at titles.
That's probably the best title that she could have
ever come up with. - I mean, views, so...
- This is too much for my era.
The fight is even not happening
face to face anymore. It's over vlogs.
- (FBE) This was a recent very public breaking up
and making up situation that happened between
these two well known online celebrities.
It spanned hours of footage and they uploaded it
to their respective channels, but we're not gonna talk
about this situation specifically, more about
the idea of breaking up today and how it's
relayed on vlogs and Twitter and Instagram and social media.
What do you think about that? - I'd say it's a pretty
private matter. Why they present this
in such a wide audience to try to get sympathy
and judgement from people who have no idea
what those two have gone through with each other.
- If I know what happened, you know what happened,
I know we're not together, you know we're not together,
those are the only two people who need to know.
- If you really cared, you would take time
and be like, "You know what? I don't need social media
right now. I need to step back
and reevaluate myself. What am I doing wrong?
What am I doing right?" If all we see is fake,
then that's all we're gonna be is fake.
- Yeah, it's a little raggedy that she's showing the world
everything. Good for her,
because someone out there is watching it
and it's gonna gain so much more respect
for themselves, understand what a relationship should
truly be like, and relate because it's not all
sunflowers and heart shaped chocolates.
- (FBE) After seeing all this from the past 120 years
of breakups from celebrities and pop culture,
do you think that the way that we go about
breakups and portray them has changed?
- Oh, absolutely. Everything's accessible
right away and you want them to see you struggling.
- I remember when people respected each other
enough to be like, "Can I talk to you?
Can we meet somewhere and have a discussion?"
Now it's just like, "Hey, I'm not really
feeling you anymore. It was cool though, right?
Have a good life."
- Going back to 1896 and then the '40s
and then the '70s, where it became almost
a woman's right issue to then becoming
a community and then now it's becoming like a reality show.
I'm scared that it's gonna lose its spark
at a certain period in time and then we lose our empathy.
We lose our love to things, so that's what my concern is.
- Hey, I'm Rachel, producer here at FBE.
Thank you so much for watching 100 years
of breaking up. I'm gonna go cry forever.
If you'd like to cry with me, leave a little cry emoji
in the comments and I'll know that I'm
not alone, finally.