Heya playa, are you struggling with finding a way to convince your crush to unblock you?
Whether they block you on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or via text, there is a way you can
work towards getting them to unblock you so I'm going to share that with you right after
this.
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we've talked about getting blocked by your crush in the past.
I've even shared a few tips as to what you can do, but today I want to focus solely on
what to say to them.
How to have that conversation to get them to unblock you.
Now the one thing I've seen pop up a lot that a lot of people just don't really address
is asking themselves why.
Why did your crush block you?
Did you send them a message they didn't like?
Did you spam them with messages?
Did you do something or say something that made them feel uncomfortable.
Most of the time when people reach out to me and tell me that they were blocked and
then I follow up with "Why did you get blocked?", they generally tell me something like "I didn't
do anything" or "I didn't say anything, they just randomly blocked me".
But the truth is, being blocked is never something that's randomly done.
There are a few different ways to block people on different platforms so you have to look
at the platform you're blocked on and try to figure it out from there.
For example, if you were blocked on Snapchat, maybe you're blocked in a way so that you
can't see the things that they're posting.
Maybe it's them and their friends, or them and their boyfriend or girlfriend and they
don't really want you seeing it because it makes them feel uncomfortable.
Or maybe they blocked you on Instagram because you kept sending them tons of messages and
they kept getting tons of notifications which got annoying for them.
There are differences between a soft block and hard block.
A soft block might be them just not wanting to interacting with you as much and a hard
block might be that they want no contact with you at all and they don't want you seeing
anything that they post.
Try to find out which one you're dealing with, ask yourself how you got there and then you
can take the next step of trying to reconnect with them.
One thing I would highly recommend that you don't do is to create an alternate account
to either follow them on that or even to message them to ask them why they blocked you on your
main account.
If they blocked you on that platform, they did it for a reason so creating an alternate
account to find out why they blocked you on that account is only going to make them more
annoyed.
But if you can't message them and ask them why they blocked you, how exactly are you
supposed to find out?
Well, this is exactly why I promote and push always talking to them in person.
You gotta understand something, your in-person persona is different from your online persona.
In person, you can control your body language, your facial expressions, the intonation of
your voice and how you talk to someone, but online you don't have that.
All you have are the words that are sitting there in front of them and those words are
left there for their own interpretation.
And when you finally decide to talk to them about in person, there are two ways that you
can approach it so choose the way that works best for your personality.
There's the indirect way where you can start a normal conversation with them and then just
kind of casually drop in that social media platform as a conversation topic.
Tell them about the cool things that you're doing on it.
Whether it's keeping streaks with people, or posting new things to your stories.
Just get them involved in it so they can say "Hey, maybe I want to unblock this person
because they're doing cool things and I want to interact with them there."
And then there's the direct way.
Start a conversation with them having nothing to do with social media and then later on
casually bring it up as a conversation like "Hey, I noticed that you blocked me on this
platform and I was curious why?
Did I do something or say something?".
Hopefully they'll be honest with you and they'll say why they blocked you and hopefully you
guys can resolve it there so they can unblock you later on in the future but sometimes people
get nervous and they don't want to say the exact and real reason so you kind of have
to work with that too.
Either way, there's no 100 percent guarantee that you're going to get them to block you
then and there.
It might take time, more conversations, more normalcy around them so they can feel like
"Hey, maybe this person isn't as weird or annoying as I thought they were and I have
no reason to keep them blocked".
But now I want to know what do you think, what's the reason you were blocked by your
crush?
Leave it down below and we'll talk about it.
Otherwise thank you so much for watching.
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On that note guys, I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.