Good morning its Melody Brooke again.
Today I want to talk about respect, and the reason I want to talk about respect is that
I have been all over the country this morning talking about a new survey thats out about
how terrible it is that kids are not respecting their teachers, and teachers don't feel like
kids are respecting them, and parents don't feel like the teachers are respecting them.
So what is respect anyway?To begin with, its not doing what a person can and should do
for themselves, which is part of where the problem starts is that often times parents
are so concerned that their kids aren't going to love them or like them, that they feel
like its their job to protect their kids from every upset, every disappointment, every failure,
and to give them everything that they want.
The problem with that is it prevents your child from being able to be self sufficient!
It prevents them also from being able to have a center of control that is within themselves.
So that they feel that they are capable of going out into the world and getting and doing
for themselves and dealing with the failures, and dealing with the disappointments in a
positive way.
We learn that as kids when we experience those things and then we have our parents there
to help us sort out how manage that.
And if we don't do that, and we are not being respectful of our kids, we are preventing
them from growing into the self sufficient adults that they should grow into!
So then what happens is they go to the school system, and they expect their teachers and
the administration to treat them the same way, and of course they don't.
And so then, they get angry and they run home and tell their parents, and their parents
run in and try to intervene for them and what ends up happening is then the school system
turns into the bad guy and of course the school system will escalate their attempts to power
and control, and they will get disciplinarian and the teachers make the teachers out to
be the bad guys and suddenly you are stuck in this cycle.
And that's what I talk about in my book, how we we get stuck in that cycle so easily when
we don't respect each other, we don't have empathy for each other, and we don't own what
we are capable of doing, when we don't own our part in the situation.
So understanding how that cycle works is really key to being able to be respectful and set
up a system thats respectful, because the bottom line is its not only the responsibility
of the parents, its also the responsibility of the school system to find a way to create
a culture of respect, and empathy, and ownership, that starts at day one.
And so when we can do this, it changes everything.
Thats why the name of my books is Oh Wow this changes everything, you can find it on Amazon,
and you can find it on Kindle and on Audible, and you can find out more about me at melodybrooke.com
Talk to you later, bye!