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now let's get started have you heard of
the term
ghosting if so are you familiar with
what it is
ghosting is when someone suddenly ceases
all contact with another often ignoring
their attempts to reach out without any
explanation getting ghosted can be a
difficult and
hurtful experience and can leave you
with a lot of unanswered questions
so what motivates people to go someone
here are 6 reasons why someone might
ghost
1. they don't feel safe one reason why
someone might ghost is that they no
longer feel safe in the situation
they're in
this could be because of verbal
harassment bullying or crossing a
personal boundary where the person feels
uncomfortable
or in danger in situations where talking
reasonably doesn't seem to be the best
option
they may opt to stop all contact instead
two they want revenge another reason why
someone might ghost you
may be because they want revenge
sometimes it may be because of an axe or
cheating which can prompt bitter
feelings to emerge
other times it could be because of a
similar issue that might be for petty
revenge this behavior is toxic
and would most likely occur when they're
not emotionally mature enough to handle
a relationship
three fear of intimacy those who are
afraid of intimacy
might ghost you in an act of
self-preservation
when you have a fear of intimacy it can
be hard to allow yourself to get too
close to someone else
it could be because of a fear of
commitment or abandonment
which causes stress and anxiety in
situations they're not comfortable in
everyone's method of dealing with fear
is different some people may be fine
with some forms of intimacy
while being more aversive to others
4. it's the easiest course of action
ending a budding relationship can be
hard especially if you're the one who
has to break things off
conversation can end up being more
awkward than expected
and sometimes dates and casual
relationships just don't seem to work
out
people have said that sometimes if the
relationship is casual enough
it would feel more polite to end it
without having an official breakup
to save face 5. they're going through
something in their personal life
whether it's moving to another city
losing a loved one or starting college
or a new job
it can be difficult to balance all of
our personal affairs with a new
relationship
in order to maintain our relationships
we need to dedicate a lot of time and
effort into them
but when we're trying to juggle
friendships family social life school or
work
and personal well-being all at once it
might be too overwhelming to handle
this might make someone unable to handle
a relationship at the moment
but even though this may be the reason
it doesn't justify
ghosting you 6. they're afraid of
confrontation
last but not least some people may ghost
you because they dislike
confrontation this may be due to a fear
of drama or backlash
so they try to end it in the most
peaceful way possible
sometimes they have a fear of being
honest about their feelings and ghost
instead
even though it could hurt the other
person's feelings ghosting can happen
for a variety of reasons
and sometimes it might not be because of
the
people can have many personal things
going on in their lives that influence
their decisions
and many of these reasons can stem from
instances of fear
or actions of habit if you felt hurt
from being ghosted before
it's okay to feel the pain that you're
feeling it's more common than ever
in the fast-paced social media driven
world that we live in
but remember you're also strong enough
to move past it
did we clarify any feelings you had of
what ghosting is
have you been on the sending or
receiving side let us know in the
comments
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