Hi, I'm Nicholeen Peck, and I teach parenting and good communication and child development
all over the world through the lens of the principle self government and in this video,
we're talking about how to raise moral children in an immoral world.
In this video, we're going to talk about moral, what that really means, what's going on with the
world, and what benefits come to the child and society by raising them in a moral way.
We're also going to talk about what you can do to better create an environment where you can
raise moral children, no matter what's going on outside. So what is moral? What does it mean?
People sometimes use different definitions of morals. Some people think that moral is
just not telling lies and other people think that moral is this broader thing, which means that you
don't do anything that's wrong. So basically, it is the broader one. Lies factor in there,
right? If you're not telling lies, you are being a moral person. If you are telling lies, you're
being immoral, but the whole idea of morality means that you have an attachment to principle
or to truth. So basically understanding what's right and wrong, good and bad, true and false,
are morals. Now here's the thing, there has to be a foundation for the moral somewhere,
otherwise, anyone could say, well, that's my right so I'm being totally moral or, well,
that's my truth so I'm being totally moral. The whole idea of morality suggests that there is
an author of morality, it suggests that there is someone let's say God, who determined that this
is right or wrong, think 10 commandments. think Moses, think Old Testament here,
okay. We have been told as a human population for years that there are things like lying, stealing,
killing another person that are just wrong, why in the world are they wrong if someone can make up
their own morals? Well, they wouldn't be. If you could do anything you wanted and call it moral,
then there would be no morality, actually. So there either is morality or there isn't morality,
and there has to be an author of morality, otherwise, there is no morality. So for the
sake of this video, we're gonna go ahead and say that people wanting to watch this video
are hopefully on the same page that there is some author of morality, and that you're wanting your
child to follow the author of morality, which has dictated what is right and wrong, good and bad,
true and false. You want your children to know the difference between those things. Now,
what happens for your child if they do understand morality? So what are the children get out of it?
You know what, they get a lot of security out of being raised in a moral way. If you make those
lines clear for them, this is right. This is wrong, this is good, this is bad, this is true,
this is false, then your children go, Okay, now I know my boundary lines. Now I know where to stop
myself. Now I know what I am seeing around me. Now, I know a lot of parents struggle with this
because they think, well, what if there's somebody else that is doing something different? What if I
teach my child that it is wrong to do drugs? But then we know somebody else who is doing drugs? We
love that person, but they're doing drugs? How do I rectify that? What do I tell my child? Do I just
ignore it and hope my child doesn't notice? The answer is no. Deliberate parents do not ignore it,
they discuss it, they discuss it. So what you're going to do is you're going to say, you know,
in our family, we know that it is wrong to take drugs, it's not good for our body, because, right,
so you're gonna tell them the why you're gonna say, because this is what it does to your brain.
Because if you take drugs, especially before the age of 15, it ruins your brain function
permanently in this way, in this way, you're gonna tell them stuff, plus you're gonna say,
plus, it makes you dependent on something and if you ever are dependent on a substance in some way,
then that means it can control you and that goes against freedom, right? So you're going to explain
all of these wise to the child, which is actually really interesting to them. And
then you're going to say, but they may not know that, or they may already be addicted, and maybe
they don't really care or they're just not at a place right now where they want to handle that and
give themselves a "no" answer. So we're going to love them, even though they're doing something
that we wouldn't do. But every time you see it, I want you to think and to remember, no, we don't
do that. That's not good because that's bondage. So you are going to teach that to your children,
even though you still can teach them to love the other person. Discuss it. Super important.
So what happens to a child? A child feels secure a child feels like they understand the world,
they have direction. They can talk with you about anything, if you spend the time to teach
them what's right and wrong, good and bad, true and false. And if you teach them those underlying
morals, that gives them reasons or rationales why they won't want to do bad behaviors,
and why they will want to do good behaviors. If you're teaching them how to problem solve,
it gives them reasons to find good solutions to their problems instead of just getting caught
up in the minute, which can happen to any of us. We're going to talk about what moral development
for children does to society. We're also going to talk about how society is undermining morality and
what to do to fix the problem. But first, click the subscribe button. Are you liking what you're
hearing today on this channel? There's a whole lot more of it and I don't want you to miss it. So
click subscribe now. So what does society get out of it if a child is trained to know what's right
and wrong, good and bad, true and false? Well, your society is completely different. If society
thinks that it can make up its own morality, and there's no ultimate author of morality,
then everyone is going to make up their own morality based on their wants, their pleasures,
their desires, their whims, and they will misuse each other. People will treat others awful,
if there's no morality. So if there is morality, there should also be respect. Reverence for other
people. Love, compassion, kindness, caring. If you truly have morality, you should also have charity
for all the people around you because being charitable, is part of being moral. That's why
you can talk about how you how something is maybe wrong morally, but you see somebody else doing it,
but you still love them anyway, you can show that charity because that type of charity is the moral
way to be, it's the way God would have people be. That's what it really means to be moral, is to
live according to His laws, your whole society becomes more prosperous, happier, more united,
there's less contention if every one has a base of morality, and if people are focused on training
their children to have it. So how is society undermining morality? Society right now is giving
the message that each person gets to make up their own morality. You do you. What is your truth,
find your truth, you live your truth. This is what everyone is told, follow your passions,
live your dreams. These are the messages that are given to adults and children alike. It makes it so
that we are totally focused on self, not in a way where we're controlling ourselves and being calm,
and finding that self government or self control, but in a way, we're where we focus on how can we
get the world or other people to give us what we want. How can we go and get what it is that we
want, instead of how can we become who we should become. When you are a moral person, you're in a
state of becoming, when you are immoral, you are in a state of taking from other people,
you feel like you deserve. So you take you deserve to be this way. That's what you
want. It's your morality. It's your right and wrong, and you want people to leave you alone.
And you know what, whether they're immoral or moral, they probably will leave you alone,
and that leaves you stuck. But we don't want to perpetuate that a whole bunch of people feeling
stuck, which leads to feeling down, which leads to higher levels of anxiety and depression and
disconnectedness from other people because of increased selfishness. This is not a good plan
for society, our society is pushing a false message at us. And we have got to counter it.
We have got to teach the children there truly are moral absolutes. There are right and wrong,
good and bad, true and false. We need to bring books to their view that you can read things like
Little House on the Prairie or a Little Britches, Father and I were Ranchers by Ralph moody,
and that series of books. So many books have been written over the years, especially some
of the older books, like Little Women, Little Men, like Les Miserables, they focus on what's right,
and what's wrong, what's good, and what's bad, what's true, and what's false and when we find
those things out, we find out who we are, and that is something that people are missing. They are
craving, who are they. Who are you, did you know that breeding a society that all has to question
who they are also undermines morality because if you don't know who you are, and you have to
try every thing under the sun to try to figure it out, then you have to push away moral to go
on a self discovery journey. But if you hold fast to knowing who you are as a person, who you are,
as a mother, as a father, as a child, that identity is born within the family dynamic,
then you will know who you are when it comes to living a moral way. If you know who you are as
a mother, then you know what it means to be a good one, and then you will live it that means you will
be moral. But if you don't want to be a mother, you don't like being a mother, you reject that
identity of being a mother, then you're going to be immoral, in the way that you live that role.
Knowing who you are is another big thing that's undermining the morality in our culture. In fact,
we're redefining everyone, we're coming up with so many definitions on a regular basis. But I think
there are some people who will be perpetually flowing between one thing and another and they
won't be finding the proper attachments that they need to truly feel complete. So what do
we do about it? We create an environment where our family knows who they are and it just so happens
that I wrote a book about it. This book Roles: The Secret to Family, Business and Social Success is
a story about a family who is struggling, knowing who they are to each other and because of that,
they have contention, things aren't running well at home, they're having a hard time solving
family problems. But when they acknowledge their roles, and I don't mean who does the
dishes or goes to work, okay? I mean, who you really are in your identity with your family,
what is it that you are to that other person, talks about in here and when you recognize that,
that changes all of your communications, then you're ready to learn skills of communication
that can transform those everyday problem solving moments. Work and how to help children learn
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