exhausted
moving abroad isn't easy
it takes a lot of getting used to a lot
of overcoming fears and uncertainty
and a lot of courage and strength
but without fear there's no courage
and without courage we can't break our
limits
when i moved abroad i thought i knew
everything about living in another
country
i mean i studied abroad twice
that's enough isn't it
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okay i gotta go now bye bye but then i
moved and i had no idea
how complicated it really was to
permanently live there
i forgot to take in the beauty of where
i was living because i was so
focused on the complicatedness of every
situation
some people have zero issues i'm not
gonna lie
there are people out there that can just
transition immediately it's very easy
for them
but i was not one of them and there's no
telling that you're one of them
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either
i lived in hirosaki city aomori
was my first permanent year in japan
it was beautiful but isolating similar
but different my reactions to problems
became
impulsive and panicked and i surrounded
myself with people
who complained about japan and issues
they seemed to cultivate
each and every day of their lives living
in this country
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and soon enough i became that person too
i became the type of person that saw
japan through the eyes of others instead
of my own
good morning everybody so it is the
start of golden week
saturday sunday monday tuesday wednesday
and then i think thursday and friday
is not golden week so it's almost a week
golden week so dj doesn't have work for
the next
four or five days which is awesome and
so today or this week we're just gonna
you know do our work and do our thing
but right now i'm going to be doing a um
mastermind call with some of my uh
business buddies
so we're three girls that are trying to
impact other people's
lives in so many different ways i'm
gonna hop on that call and then
we're gonna head out all right i got it
hey guys
yeah it's like fun and it's simple but
it's pretty and
it's just so i haven't used mail and
they get the freebie in the email so
it's awesome it is 12 p.m and yuji is
eating
eggs and sausage and breakfast and he
hasn't even gotten dressed yet
and i am cooking
tacos because that's all i know how to
cook in quarantine
golden week is a week of
holidays for japan people have off and
now everybody's gonna go and travel and
do stuff
even though there's a virus going around
so this is gonna be exciting
yay let me give you some tips
the secret to staying positive in any
situation
lots of little houses old style
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you have to remember that you are your
own person
nothing anybody says negatively should
be
an energy that you allow
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whenever i encountered a negative
situation or something negative someone
said
i visualized a sort of barrier to keep
me
protected from whatever they're saying
so it doesn't
affect my energies as well
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this is fake you guys it looks so real
it's a baseball mitt in the baseball
oh my gosh oh look at this it's so cute
it looks so real
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nourishing your body is so important
abroad i can't stress it enough
start by cooking small simple meals
before
becoming overwhelmed with all the
recipes and ingredients
it takes time to adjust to a new way of
eating
or shopping when i
moved to japan i thought that i knew
about supermarkets but i didn't quite so
much i feel like when i was studying
abroad i had a lot of help
but when i moved permanently to a new
country
i had to do things on my own and i knew
nothing about ingredients i knew
no recipes i needed to learn how to cook
long term and like
i remember i started out cooking
really simple meals and some of them
were very western style but i was really
eager to learn
how to cook a japanese meal so i would
look up some
recipes that were super simple like that
had five ingredients and i would look at
pictures and try to find them in the
supermarket
i think i still have my pictures from
when i first moved to japan
i still have pictures of the food that i
cooked and it wasn't like the most
beautiful stuff that i've ever made but
i think i'll share some of the pictures
here right now
these photos were taken during my first
and second year of
living in japan and they don't look too
amazing
but i found a way anyway to make
something
good and healthy for my body
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i tried this once in a video yeah
it was so good no it was gross
even japanese they have butt cookies
what more could you ask for it's butt
cookies
it's like what shaped cookies you guys
butt shaved cookie american marshmallows
what's the actual heart oh this one's
good actually yeah this is good
so good they have leis
gummy i love gummy bears i kind of want
something
yeah these are really popular in japan
what have we done
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looks like we are ready to stay home
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be like because i think who's that one
youtuber
novita in japan or something it needs to
be fine my love in japan
um he made a very good sound video
saying
why he thinks gay marriage shouldn't be
legal
many of us fantasize about moving abroad
and expect an adventure and escape
unfortunately i felt that same way
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so i'm editing this video right now and
i just really want to
chime in and say that i hate to break it
to you
but you will be disappointed if you have
high expectations on what it means
to live abroad you have to be realistic
and you have to be open to catastrophe
it's gonna happen
embrace the difficult times observe the
negative thoughts that are going through
your head
sit with them and instead of saying like
woe is me
oh my god i hate this i hate japan maybe
you have a really crap
job and they're treating you really
poorly and
you just hate everything you hate life
you wish your experience is
better instead of grasping those
thoughts and hanging on to them
the best thing that you can do is think
what can i
learn from this experience what what can
i control
right now that is going to serve me
because that's something that i didn't
do until
later i was just so caught up in the
negative thoughts i was so caught up
in my problems that i was continuously
having in japan
and i didn't act on it accordingly and i
wish that i had done that
eventually i did have a really bad job
back when i was in
nagoya and you know the jet program
didn't work out for me but instead of
like sitting there being stressed about
it and giving up
i decided that it is in my control i can
find a new job
i can change my reality find a lesson
within each difficulty
while you're living abroad or any point
in your life
then you can change your reality your
actions
are what changes your reality mostly
water
do you want to go up this is so
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beautiful
so nice
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okay so we are at a park nearby
i've been looking for a place to just
enjoy and relax and this is the best
park we've been to in a while but
there's still a lot of people meeting up
with friends and not social distancing
and it's fine with family though
but yeah
so pretty
be kind toward yourself and grow
in the book ikigai the japanese secret
to a long
and happy life by hector garcia
the japanese believe to live the longest
life
we need to have a high degree of
awareness
look there's a path
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so huge
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a japanese psychiatrist shoma morita
states
that people need to obtain something
called aruga mama
arugama is the acceptance of life as it
is while living abroad i was always in
the state of
oh well when i get a new job i'll be
happier
oh when i learn the train system and
stop getting
lost all the time i'll be happy when i
can speak japanese better i'll be happy
living here i was always in that state
and it's probably the same for you
wherever you are in the world
humans live in a state of endless
dissatisfaction we end up missing
opportunities to experience happiness in
front of us
in that moment when we continuously
think that if we
fix something or fix what's wrong
currently we will be satisfied
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i'm crying
because i love this country so much
and i love this man so
it's so much here
oh he's so cute
there's a couple of them
be kind to yourself moving abroad equals
immense change and that can be draining
in itself listen to your body if you're
mentally drained or exhausted
do something mindless that's creative or
calming only after you've sat with your
feelings and really
assessed what's going on with yourself i
like to color in my coloring books
it just gives me a sense of peace when
i'm just mindlessly
filling in the lines achieve a balanced
lifestyle
by becoming aware of how we're feeling
and answering that call within ourselves
don't put
pressure on yourself to adapt quickly
and make yourself
feel bad about not doing something
correctly in this country or
understanding a situation be sensitive
toward your growth here
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you gotta use the footage
no
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yay
one more time
i've been filming you busy ready
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there you go
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is it really your first time no it's not
yeah it's my first time
we don't do this best what the heck
apparently that you do the
kids buy bubbles you live under a rock
no is this your first time for real yeah
am i witnessing your first time with
bubbles what the
spin around ready
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oh yeah it's so small
it's too windy it is the end of golden
week
golden week ended a couple days ago but
in japan
some people have the whole week off so
the rest of the other days i just did
some editing
it's such a nice day today
sit near the water sure i faced many
challenges during my life here
the best way to think about life is that
it's similar to a video game
we face challenges level up and after
each battle we gain something along the
way
that something in my mind is courage the
more courage you collect the more
experience you earn
we take 100 responsibility with how we
do or approach things
we can change our lives just by taking
action
despite any setbacks it takes practice
it's not going to happen overnight i
hope that makes some sort of nerdy sense
there's many ways to keep the negative
feelings of living abroad at bay
but if there's anything you get out of
this video it's to enjoy the present
moment
because life is fleeting
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