Gentlemen, let's talk about texting for a second. I recently started a TikTok
channel and you can check me out @trippadvice on TikTok. I can put a link down below.
And what I've been noticing, because I've been talking about texting tips and things like that
over there on TikTok, I'm getting this common response from a lot of people. What they're
responding to is when I'm telling them that they should not be texting all day and instead,
they should be using text message as a tool to get women to meet up with them. The response that I'm
getting from a lot of these Gen Z-ers and... I don't know, all kinds of people. They're saying
to me, but Tripp, you don't understand. This is a whole new world of communication. This is
a different generation you're speaking to. This is how we communicate. We communicate over text.
Listen, I get it. I understand. I text message too. I get that text message is a prominent form
of communication right now and we don't call each other as much. I understand that lots and lots of
things are being said over text. But let me tell you something... just because that is a way of
people communicating, that's not going to help you still with getting her attracted to you. You
still can't get her attracted over text message. We are not wired that way. We are wired to become
attracted to someone, interest in someone when we are in front of them. When we can experience them
as a person in front of us. That is how we become attracted. And then I get people who say yes, I
understand that. But still, these girls, they want to text. That's how they want to get to know you.
Yeah, you're right. Some do. Some will want to get to know you and text you a lot. I'm not denying
that much. But what you don't understand is that there are lots of women out there who still
will meet up with you if they're interested enough. Meaning, they don't have to text you.
Even the ones that like to text, if they like you enough because you met them and you got their
number or you met them online. If they like you enough and you set a date, they will still show
up. And the ones who don't, they just have what's called low interest. I know that sounds funny.
I'm saying it like this is a new term here, low interest. But you understand what I'm saying and
this is true. You need to be seeking out the women who have high interest, not low interest. And the
ones with high interest will be cool with skipping all the text messages and meeting up with you in
person if you're the one who is being assertive and leading the interaction to that point. If you
think that women need you to text them and that's what you do, well, that's the frame that you're
going to be caught in. But if you think in this frame, this new frame that I'm giving you, that
this woman or any other woman who's interested in me enough will want to meet up with me,
then you will be able to have that as a result. When we're talking about texting women,
all I want you to do when you get a number is text them to meet up. You say, hey, when are you free?
Let's go have a drink, dinner, whatever. Get the logistical portion out of the way
and then boom, you can meet up with them. A lot of guys asked me, especially when I'm coaching guys,
they go okay Tripp, I got a date. I worked on all this stuff. What do I text in between dates? What
am I supposed to say after the date? You don't need to say much. You can say you had a good time
and one or two days later, text them again to meet up if you want to meet up with them again.
And if they're interested, guess what? They'll just agree and then you meet up with them and
you can use texting as a continuous tool. Now if they decide to text you even more,
because they might be interested in you and they want to hear from you, they want to text you,
well, you shouldn't completely ignore them. But my advice to you is if a girl text messages you
and you already have a date set up, instead of having long text message conversations because,
by the way, I should mention here there's a lot of room for error over text. People read text
messages in their own voice so the more you text, the more chances of you saying something that's
going to un-attract her. If she's texting you and she's like how's your day, what's going on?
You can respond. I recommend you don't respond right away. You should be busy
doing other things but you can respond a couple hours later. And then give a very nice response.
But don't ask her a question back. And I know lot of guys will be like, but that's rude. She's not
gonna like you. No, you're gonna respond to her. You're gonna give her a good answer. She's like,
how are you? I wouldn't just say good. Say yeah, today's awesome, killing it at work, so excited
for the weekend, whatever. Give her a couple sentences so she's like, okay, cool, he's being
responsive. But don't get into these long drawn out conversations. What's gonna happen too is,
when you're texting a lot and this girl is seeing you text a lot, this is going to communicate to
her that you have nothing else going on. That you're available all the time and then you can
just be texting her all day. That is inherently unattractive. Plus, you want to be able to show
her that you're interested without being so needy and neediness this is the killer of attraction.
If you're texting all day and being super responsive, you're going to seem needy. And
anyways, you should be not texting all day because you should be on your mission, your purpose and
doing other things than texting. I just had a client literally half an hour ago tell me over
phone on our coaching call he said, well what if... and by the way, this rarely ever happens.
But he asked me what if the girl says you don't text a lot or you're not texting me back a lot or
do you not like texting or what's going on? In the off chance that she says that just be
honest with her and say oh, no. It's just that I'm busy and have a lot of things going on and I
would rather communicate and hang out with you in person. That's it. If she doesn't understand that,
then she's either A not that interested in you to begin with or B a super red flag. This is not
a woman you want to be with. You don't want to be with someone who's going to be okay with texting
you all day. Or if she's turned off by that, that should be a turn off for you. If a girl said that
to me, like oh, well, I need someone who's gonna text me all day. I'd be like, alright well, bye.
We're obviously not a fit. That will probably never happen to you. But just to
clear that error here because I know some guys are like, well, what if it goes awry if I don't text
her back and if she wants more texting. Forget what she wants. Focus on what you want and the
kind of relationship you want to have. I urge you to not have a relationship that's completely built
over text message. If you want to communicate with the person and you know a date is far away,
hop on a FaceTime with them. Hop on a call with them. That's an even better way of communicating
than doing it over text. That is my suggestion for you. You might want to know what am I supposed
to text a girl? What should I text? How do I text her to get her to meet up with me? Well,
I have something for you for free. It's a 10 minute video and it's gonna give you my 7 Deadly
Text Messages that make her respond to you and get her to meet up. Clever fun text messages that you
can use and it's all copy and paste that you can do the next time you get a number. Check that out.
It's in the description down below so you can use that the next time you get a number from a girl
whenever you're meeting her. It can be online, it can be in person, either way. Use those, they
work. They're awesome and you'll get on my email list. I hope that helps. Press like right now if
you agree with this. Do not fall trap to the we have to text now because it's the 21st century and
and Gen Z-ers are doing it and.... Forget all that. It will be just fine if you communicate
with her over text just about logistics. Good luck. I'll see you on the next video.