If you feel stuck in expressing yourself, know that you are not alone. There are so many women
myself included that struggle with this. And in this video, I want to unpack some of the blocks
that surround our feminine energy, and that causes us to play small. My name is Tertia,
and I help women ike you drop from your head into your heart so that you can access and express
the full spectrum of your feminine power. I offer one-on-one coaching in my signature
coaching program called Untamed. And I also make videos here on this channel
around feminine energy, self worth and embodiment. So if that sounds interesting to you,
if you wanna learn more about these things, then I invite you to join our community
and subscribe, and also make sure you hit the bell so that you can get notified
of my new videos. So you may have a specific situation in your life where you are struggling to
express yourself where you are struggling to show up in the way that you want to.
Or this might be a pattern that is present in and has been present for most of your life. So I wanna
get straight into what are these blocks and the reasons that we struggle to self express as women.
The first block is that we are born into a system that makes us believe that we are either not good
enough, or we are too much. So we are born into a patriarchal society, I'm not stating this with the
intent to say that men are bad and that women are victims. It's not about that at all. We are all,
men and women, all of us are born into the system. We've all internalized this patriarchy. And what
this creates in us is the belief that who we are is not enough, we connect our self worth to our
output, so we connect our self worth to things outside of ourselves. And on the other end of the
scale, it also makes us believe that we are too much. We are too sensitive. We are too intense.
So the way out of this block is that we need to dismantle this patriarchy within ourselves first.
Unless we stop showing up in a way that perpetuates this and that continues to
support this, it's always going to continue. It's always going to,
keep our feminine energy, small and suppressed, right? So we have to start within
and dismantle it within. The second block is tied into the first block. And this one,
this cause of, of us staying small is that we're worried about what others may think of us. So
again, we, we get told by our family and by our communities and by society, how we should behave
and how one is supposed to show up and how one is supposed to think and act and feel in order
to be accepted in order to be allowed into, into the tribe. And we all want to belong.
We want to feel a part of something. So by nature, we are going to conform. We are going to make sure
that we do the things that keep us safe and that keep us included in our communities and
in our tribes. And this can play out in so many different ways where we end up being the good girl
and we end up becoming people pleasers. And we, we don't want to do things that may disappoint
people or we avoid doing things that may disappoint others. And just a very small
example that I can share with you in my own life is the videos that I make on this channel. Now,
if you've been following my videos and you've been following my journey for a while, you'll know that
when I started out with my coaching practice, my focus was specifically on how can you cope
and deal and manage and navigate the challenges that you experience as a highly sensitive person.
And then as I evolved in my own life, in my own spiritual growth, I wanted to make videos that
really reflected that. That was, that was true and honest and self expressing of where I am in my
journey. And it was very scary for me to begin to do that because I really didn't want to disappoint
all of the, the viewers, all of you who have been watching my videos on high sensitivity.
And I was also afraid of what are gonna be the repercussions. I come from a Christian
background and here I'm making videos about the divine feminine.
So this is just a very small example of how the things that we get told by our community
and by our society really makes us behave in ways to keep us safe. All right. And
then speaking about safety, that brings me to the third block, and this is the block where,
or, or rather it's more to do with our internal masculine and, and our internal feminine energy.
So often you might find that your internal masculine energy
is a bit of a bully and the internal masculine might suppress your feminine energy. It shows up
typically as a very mean inner critic where you are continuously
exerting this very strong self control over yourself, and things like perfectionism. So, in
my experience, the inner critic is really driven by not only this, this internalized patriarchy,
but also by a wounded masculine. So a wounded masculine energy that is dominating,
that is controlling, and that comes from wanting to protect and wanting to keep safe.
But what happens is we actually end up feeling not safe. Our feminine feels not safe to show
up. Our feminine feels not safe to express herself. Our feminine begins to feel ashamed
about her sensitive gifts. This brings us unto block number four and the fourth block that I
really see contributes to us not being able to self express in our full feminine energy
is that we, we tend to put productivity, we value productivity above everything else.
So any way you look at it, we do live in a man's world. We live in a world where logic is valued
above intuition. And this is changing. It's definitely changing our mothers and
our grandmothers collectively, they've really opened the path for us to reclaim
our place amongst the men. But this is exactly then what happened is we ended up behaving as
men in a man's world. So what does this mean? It means that we expect of ourselves
to have the career and the family and run the household and do everything like
superwoman. Okay. We have really high expectations of ourselves to be able to deliver and to perform
at the level of a man. And in this we deny and we neglect our own feminine needs.
So we ignore our own energy levels when it comes to our monthly cycles, we don't allow
ourselves to feel our emotions and we don't bring emotions to work because it's not professional.
And then the final point that I want to share with you that keeps us stuck in our
self expression is really a collection of all of the above. And that is that we are afraid
of truly allowing ourselves to feel okay. So we go through life, largely disembodied. We live
from the neck up. We need to, as women, if we want to be fully self-expressed,
we need to develop the skill again, to feel, to become sensitive to the language of our body.
And secondly, we need to trust that our body will only show us
and bring to the light that, which we can handle. She will never us more than what
we can handle. And I've made many videos on this topic specifically. It's something that I'm very
passionate about because I have been disembodied myself for so long. And so many of these patterns
and these, these blocks that I'm sharing with you are things that I've experienced in my life,
it's things that the women that I work with experience. So really, I want to let you know that
you are not alone. This is something that we are going through collectively, and it is changing.
We are all beautiful and unique human beings, and we all get to express
in unique and beautiful ways. And I hope that this video has helped you to get some more insight into
why you might be struggling with self expression and also how you can begin to open and release
those blocks. Thank you so much for watching. I love you. I appreciate you. And I wish you
delightful full feminine self-expression. I'll see you in the next video. Bye.