- If you lost me tomorrow,
how would you always
carry me with you?
- I go in the grave with you.
I don't know, I don't know what I'd do.
How- Oh man.
I'm gonna pass on this one.
I can't even comprehend that thought
- Yeah. - Okay.
- I can't even comprehend that thought.
- Okay.
- If you could relive one moment
from our relationship forever,
what would it be and why?
- That's a good question.
I think
maybe... it was really early on.
Remember the night
we met up at the degenerate?
I think maybe that night
because I think that's when
things really took a shift between us.
And I think going in
this, it just felt really platonic
and very refreshing and exciting.
But that night, like something
- Yeah, I agree. - Yeah, something shifted.
And it felt different. And
you asked such good questions.
And
I remember leaving,
and it was the first time
in a long time
that I didn't feel like drained.
I felt like I could breathe.
- Yeah.
- How do you describe
the story of us?
- Oof, man...
so
I give a disclaimer,
because it's very it's
very complex, you know, like,
you know, just the
how everything is transpired
over the last nine months,
but, um, you're a girl
that I met in high school
at a summer camp, drum major camp 2005.
- You can't out me like that. - Sorry, we were both in marching band,
but we were the cool ones.
You know, very talented ones.
And you know, you're in the band room
and you're hanging out
and I'm there and I'm like,
Who is this girl? Like...
Beautiful eyes, hair,
white T-shirt, blue
shorts, ankle socks.
Probably some Nike's, two lunch boxes.
- Okay.
- And I remember, you
know, just being like, enthralled
with who you are
and just into like who you were.
And we connected, you know, like,
I made sure that,
hey, like I got dibs.
Like, I'm sitting,
I'm sitting next to her,
like nobody else is sitting here.
And then I think just
how we just reconnected
and the timing of everything,
you know,
chaos in my life,
chaos in your life and
just so casual and informal
and just being able
to invite you into a space
that I found somebody
that I could actually just chill
and kick it with and like,
find somebody that is like down to ride
and do whatever.
And to see, like those
teenage feelings somewhat come back.
You know what I'm saying,
but like to go through the life
and the hill and the good times
and bad times and the indifferent,
the things that I've gone through
and to get to the side
to be able to be with you
and to be able to value you.
You know? So I don't really know have to describe it
because people just visually
and visibly see it, you know,
they see the weight
that's been lifted.
You know, they see like, man like...
this love that he had in this
infatuation that he had
on high school like
it's come full circle
to be reality now.
So... - I think you always say
it's redemptive and it feels...
- Very much so. - Feels that way.
- Yeah, yeah. It's a great word.
Yeah. - Yeah.
- How do we communicate differently
and how can we use it to grow closer?
- You are really good
and comfortable,
like verbally processing,
whether it's something
that is like weighing on you,
whether it's something
between us, whether it's
just something that went on
throughout the day.
And I tend to like retreat
or just like pull inward
first, and I have to
process things myself
and then bring it to you
because I think...
I don't know if it's
a fear, but I think I
try to be very careful
with my words
because I don't want to say
anything out of emotion
that would be taken the wrong way or
or used against me.
And that's probably just due to
past relationships.
So I think I
that's something that I think you have
kind of helped to encourage,
and it's been good for us.
I think is- you kind of like pushed me
to verbally process
even if it's uncomfortable to do so,
but not- you don't push too hard.
Like, yeah, I think you're still
at least still seem
willing to give me my space.
So I think the difference
in communication is I am up here first
and you are verbal first and then
and then you're in your head.
- Yeah, unless I'm in my head
and then I retreat
and then you push me. - Right.
- So, you know what I'm saying? - Siding timing...
- It depends on the situation at the time.
Yeah. - That's fair just-
I think that brings us closer
because I think we're able to bring
I think we're able
to bring more balance.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And you know,
I can be in my head all day
get my introverted space
and think through things
and analyze... - Yes.
That's probably why
the differences too,
I talk all day long. - Yeah. Exactly.
Yeah. - Don't want to talk to anybody.
Yeah. - Yeah, exactly.
- Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
Very balance.
- In what ways am I the
partner you've always dreamed of?
And in what ways am I not?
- I'll start with the ways
you're not.
You're 5'4.
I would love it if you were
about 5'8, 5'9, 5'10.
Take a little pressure off my back. - Shut up!
But the ways that you are,
I think just everything.
I mean, I think like,
if anything, holistically,
spiritually, you compliment
really well, you're
very supportive of who I am
and the journey that I'm on
and what I intend to do there.
You know, emotionally,
I've never felt
so understood and supported to where
we've seen it in real time,
to where it freaks me out
because I don't know
what to do with that, right?
And I think mentally like
ensuring that my mind
and my mental health is a priority
and that is healthy not
only for me, but for you.
The love, the care that you give me,
like I'm very lacking, and in tune
with who you are
and you're very in tune with who I am.
And um, and again, that's is rare, man.
Like that's just rare to find that
that just that, that chemistry, that
synergy of a spirit of fun.
- I agree.
- So I don't even know
if that answered the question.
But I definitely answered the back of it.
- Shut up. Take your card.
- Why do you love me?
- Because you're incredible.
I mean, just to put it
very like on the
two of us, I love the way
you talk to me.
And I think even the first time
we reconnected, I left and immediately
told my roommate I was just like, man,
I can't wait for you to meet him.
It was the most refreshing
conversation because
I felt immediately
just respected and at peace.
You have this like calming presence
that I think is really important,
and I love that about you.
I love the way you
love on other people.
I think I brought you into situations
with a lot of new people,
some of my friends
and you have loved them really well,
and that is really
attractive to me, too.
Yeah, I think you're incredible.
You're honest and you're loving.
You're thoughtful.
- Stop it.
- Yeah.
Yeah, you love me really well.
- I do? - Yeah. Patience.