It’s not enough to just know the psychological tricks to read anyone instantly, but you must
build the habits and put into practice the habits of reading people if you want to be
successful at it and in your life. You must succumb to other forms of critical
information in order to learn to read the important nonverbal intuitive signals that
others send-off. You must also be willing to let go of any preconceived notions or emotional
baggage, such as previous resentments or ego issues, that prevent you from seeing someone
clearly. The trick is to remain objective and to receive information without bias.
To truly understand people, whether you're reading your boss, coworker, or spouse, you
must surrender biases and break down some walls. You have to be willing to let go of
old, restricting assumptions, no matter how clever your intellect is. People who are good
at reading others have been trained to read the invisible. They've learned to use what
I call their "super-senses" to go beyond where you ordinarily focus your attention in order
to gain life-changing intuitive insights. It’s easy to do once you know the habits
that you need to build to be able to read people in an instant.
Today I am talking about the 3 best habits you need to build to read anyone instantly.
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The first habit you need to build to read people better is to start to really Observe
Body Language Cues. According to research, words account for only
7% of how we communicate, while body language makes up 55% and voice tone makes up the remainder.
The surrender you need to focus on here is letting go of trying too hard to read body
language signs. Don't become too intense or analytical. Maintain a relaxed and flexible
mindset. Make yourself comfortable, sit back, and simply observe.
Take Notice of their Appearance. Are they dressed for success, in a power suit and well-shined
shoes, signaling ambition? Jeans with a T-shirt, implying comfort with being casual? Are they
wearing a pendant or chain representing spiritual principles, such as a cross or Buddha?
Take note of their posture. When reading people's posture, ask yourself if they have a high,
confident posture. Or do they stroll indecisively or crouch, indicating a lack of self-esteem?
Do they strut around with a puffed-up chest, a symptom of a large ego? All of these little,
subtle cues you need to get in the habit of paying attention to.
Keep an eye out for their physical movements. Pay attention to where individuals lean. We
tend to gravitate toward individuals we like and away from those we don't.
Do they have their arms and legs crossed? Not always, but this posture typically conveys
defensiveness, rage, or self-protection. When people cross their legs, they usually point
their toes of the top leg towards the person with whom they are most comfortable.
When people put their hands in their laps, pockets, or behind their backs, it implies
that they are concealing something. When people bite or lick their lips or pick at their cuticles,
they are attempting to relieve stress or an embarrassing circumstance.
While you are practicing the habit of observing, make sure you pay attention to their Facial
Expressions. Emotions can leave a permanent imprint on
our faces. Deep frown lines indicate anxiety or overthinking. Crow's feet are joyous smile
lines. Lips pursed indicate rage, disgust, or bitterness. A clenched jaw and teeth grinding
are indications of stress.
The Second habit you need to build and practice to read anyone instantly is to Listen to Your
Intuition.
Beyond their body language and speech, you can tune into someone. Intuition is defined
as what your stomach feels rather than what your intellect says. Rather than reasoning,
you perceive nonverbal information through visuals and ah-has. If you want to understand
someone, what matters most is who they are, not what they wear. Intuition allows you to
see beyond the obvious to uncover a more complete story.
Respect your instincts. Listen to your gut instincts, especially during first meetings.
this is a visceral reaction that happens before you have a chance to think. It communicates
whether you are at ease or not. Gut sensations are a primal response that occurs fast. They
serve as your internal truth meter, determining whether or not you can trust others. Start
getting into the habit of recognizing and paying attention to your gut instincts.
Goosebumps are wonderful intuitive shivers that suggest that we are connected to people
who move or inspire us, or who say something that speaks to us. Goosebumps can also occur
when you have deja-vu, which is the recognition that you have known someone before, even if
you have never met. Keep an eye out for flashes of insight. During
a conversation, you can receive an "ah-ha" moment concerning folks that appear out of
nowhere. Be alert. You might miss it if you don't. We have a tendency to move on to the
next thought so quickly that these key insights are lost.
You need to build this habit of paying attention to your instincts because this is going to
be a telltale way to be able to read anyone instantly.
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video as well. The Third and one of the most important habits
to build to be able to read anyone instantly is to Sense Emotional Energy.
Emotions are a remarkable expression of our energy, the "vibe" we emit. These are recognized
by intuition. Some folks make you feel wonderful just being around them; they boost your attitude
and vitality. Others deplete you, and you automatically want to getaway. This "subtle
energy" can be sensed inches or feet away from the body, despite being invisible. It's
known as chi in Chinese medicine, and it's a force that's fundamental to health.
Sense The Presence of People. This is the whole amount of energy we emit, which is not
always coherent with our words, actions, or body language. It is the emotional atmosphere
that surrounds us, similar to a rain cloud or the sun. When you are building this habit,
think yourself, Do they have a welcoming presence that draws you in? Or are you getting the
creeps and having to back off? Get in the habit of recognizing people’s emotional
energy. Look at the expressions on people's faces.
Our eyeballs emit a great deal of energy. Studies show that the eyes, like the brain,
emit an electromagnetic signal that extends outside the body. Spend some time observing
people's eyes. Are they concerned? Sexy? Tranquil? Mean? Angry? Determine whether they have someone
at home in their eyes, showing a capability for intimacy. Or do they appear to be on guard
or in hiding? Take note of how a handshake, hug, and touch
feel. We exchange emotional energy through physical
contact in the same way that an electrical current does. Consider whether a handshake
or embrace makes you feel warm, comfortable, or confident. Or is it so off-putting that
you want to leave? People's palms are clammy, indicating tension. Or limp, implying a lack
of commitment and shyness? Look for the tone of voice and laughter. The
volume and tone of our voice can reveal a lot about our emotions. When you're reading
people, pay attention to how their tone of voice impacts you. Consider whether their
tone is relaxing. Is it snarky, snippy, or whiny?
Start practicing the habit of getting your ego and preconceptions out of the way and
pay attention to your gut feelings, the vibe, and the energy of the people you are interacting
with and make sure you are observing - really observing and paying attention to what these
signs are telling you. Most importantly, don’t ignore the signs you are getting when you
are reading people. They are there for a reason and are ultimately there to help you. They
are telling you things you need to know.
With just a little practice of these habits, you will be able to read anyone instantly
and be able to take your life to the next level.
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