Hey, what's going on Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video,
we're going to talk about the sequence of dates. What do you do on a first date? What
should you do on the second date or third date? What's the best activities? I get this question
all the time in my coaching program. What's the best activity I can do with her? What's the best
date I can take on. I want to try to clear this up once and for all. And by the way,
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today now we're going to talk about those dates. Where do you go? What are you supposed to do?
What's the order of order of events? First, I want to give you my ideal sequence. This is my ideal
sequence of what to do on a first date, what to do on a second date, what to do on a third date,
and then where to go from there. It doesn't always work this way because it depends on the
situation. It depends on where you live, depends on the conversation you're having with the girl.
It doesn't always lead this way. And that's okay, it can be improved a little bit.
But let me give you the structure of the ideal, just in case you're thinking okay, what should
I do now, so you have a plan of action. Here's my ideal structure. First one on the first date,
it's best if you do some sort of drink. It can be an alcoholic beverage, it can be a coffee, it can
be a tea, just some sort of drink. Why? We want to keep it casual. I believe, yes , you can change
the order a little bit. Sometimes these things happen. You can go on a dinner date for the first
date, but it's nice to just do something that's a little bit low commitment. Just some sort of
drink. Because what this is doing is this is going to be more efficient for your time so you're not
just going out to a bunch of dinners all the time. Because ideally you're dating a lot of women,
going on a lot of dates and doing a lot of dinners isn't always the most sustainable way of life. You
might want to be eating at home, maybe it costs you a lot of money, it takes a lot of time. It's
more efficient to do some sort of drink date. A coffee or a tea if you don't drink alcohol,
or if you do drink alcohol, some sort of alcoholic beverage if you're over 21. That'd be the most
ideal first date, keep it casual. I want to put a little footnote on that one. If you go to a place
where you're having a drink, but they also serve like tapas or small plates,
or it's an appetizer plate or they serve cheese because it's a wine place something like that.
That's fine. You don't have to be, "no, Tripp said no dinner, no food, just drink." You can allow for
some improvisation here. It's totally cool. If that happens to be there, and you guys are like,
yeah, we're kind of hungry, get a bite or get a muffin if you're at Starbucks and you're having
your coffee. That's totally cool. It's just the idea is the first date is a little bit casual and
a little bit low key. If she gets a second date (see how I phrased that by the way? If she gets
a second date because you're the prize. Think about that.) If she gets the second date, then
you go to a dinner. Dinner is a great second date. It's a typical date. It's like what
people think should happen on the first date but because she's passed your tests and she's cool
enough to continue to hang out with you, you will do a dinner date, which allows you to sit down a
little bit longer, connect a little bit more, talk about the food, enjoy a food experience together.
We are humans, this is what we do. We eat dinner together and lunches and meals. That's totally
cool. Find a good place. It make sense now. And you're not going to be going on too many second
dates compared to how many first dates you're going to go on. Obviously, the more dates you go
on first, second, third, fourth, you're not going to be with as many women. It kind of trickles down
like that. It's okay, it's probably gonna be more sustainable than going on a bunch of dinner dates.
I also personally think that dinner on a first date is a little intense. You're sharing a meal,
you're eating in front of each other. It doesn't allow you two to connect in the best way I think.
Dinner is for when you guys have already connected and established rapport, which is why I encourage
it to be a second date. Where do you go? I'm working with a client right now on this. He's
like, "where am I supposed to go? Should I impress her and do something fancy?" Absolutely not!
Fancy meals, that's for when you've been dating a girl for a long time and you guys both enjoy going
out to nice meals and then you do that. It does not have to be this super fancy thing. However, if
you can help it, I would not do some sort of bar food. Like we take it to a sports bar and you're
getting wings. That's on the other end of like, okay, this is not the very romantic atmosphere
that she was probably hoping for and that you should hope for too. You want it to be a little
bit more intimate than that. So wherever you live in your town, think about a place where it's not
like $3 signs where it's like white tablecloth and a pre-fixed menu. But don't go all the way
to the end of like sports bar super casual where you're eating chicken wings and fried
pickles and things like that. Somewhere in between something like, obviously not Applebee's and not
Chili's. A little bit more than that. Just kind of like maybe some sort of boutique place that's just
like a restaurant where you guys can sit down and get a nice meal, but it's not ultra fancy.
Somewhere in that middle range. Now the third date, this is where it's all coming together.
On the first and second date, if you were not able to take her back to your place... so if you guys
were not hitting it off in the way where it made sense for her to come back to your place, or you
to go back to her place, and you guys are going to be hooking up, this is now your opportunity
because you want to create an atmosphere and an opportunity for you two to get physically
intimate with each other since you have not done that in the first or second date. By the way,
if you have gotten intimate on the first or second date, you're still going to do this
third date that I'm suggesting right now. Which is you're going to invite her back to your place
to have dinner. You're going to ask her on the third date and you're going to say, "hey, why
don't you come over to my place for dinner. I make a killer salmon or whatever it is that you make.
You're going to have dinner at your place. This makes sense, it's totally appropriate.
Once in a while you're gonna get push back where a girl is gonna be like, "I'm not ready to do that
yet." I think that's a red flag. If you guys have not connected enough by that point, maybe it's not
gonna be a good fit. I don't know how much longer I would go with that girl. But by that time,
she should be comfortable enough to say, "yeah, I'll come back to your place to have dinner."
And you're gonna make dinner for her. And what I recommend too, is when she comes over, be at the
end of the cooking so she can come in and help you a little bit. It shouldn't be this kind of like
you're serving her like welcome to the restaurant Tripp where I'm gonna make all the meals for you
and serve you like you're a queen. No have her come over, have her get involved a little bit
in the meal making or at least have her open the bottle of wine or make a drink for you too or
something like that while you're cooking and get her involved. And if you don't cook well, this is
very simple, the best thing you could do is learn some sort of vegetarian dish. And the reason why I
say vegetarian dish is because the vegetarian dish is going to be good for everybody. Everyone likes
a vegetarian dish. Not everyone likes a meat dish, depending on what the meat is or a fish dish,
depending on what the fish dish is. So some sort of vegetarian dish, which is going to be some sort
of pasta. Or anything related to vegetables. Again, maybe a fish can be in there. I think
most women do like fish because most women who are vegetarians are technically pescatarians. You'll
find that out as you continue dating and meeting people. But anyway, I digress. The idea here is to
make one meal and make it over and over. Practice it, make it a few times for yourself so you know
how it tastes, you know how to make it, you know that you're going to do a good job making it.
So when she comes over it's not like this first time and you're all flustered. Have one meal
that you have down. If you want to take this to the next level, have a vegetarian option, a meat
option and a fish option and nail down all three recipes and make them all the time. Make them for
your friends, make them for yourself, make them for the dates that come over, and then you're just
going to be killing it and having a nice delicious meal for the person that comes over. Obviously,
that third date gives you an opportunity to get more physical. That's why I'm all about that.
Now, this can all change. All these plans can change. There are some times when, for example,
one of my clients was talking to a girl and she's under 21. She's 20 and he's like 21-22 and he's
like, well, I can't take her out to a drink. We live in a small town. I don't know if I want to go
to coffee with her. He's like, maybe I should just pick a dinner spot. And I said, you know what,
in this case, I agree with that. I don't think that's the worst idea. Yeah, pick a dinner spot.
It makes sense. You know her already a little bit so maybe coffee is too casual. In that sense maybe
you do want to do some sort of dinner date. I don't want to confuse you here. Don't overanalyze
this, but you're gonna see that sometimes it pops up where dinner just happens to be the first date,
it just makes sense. Maybe you guys met at a bar and you're talking about restaurants
and you're like, we should go to this one place. So obviously that's going to be the first date.
Just think about it that way. But always, if anything you're going to take from this video,
you're trying to get to the point where you have some sort of date back at your place. That has to
happen. Because if you keep on going on dates, but you're not getting physically intimate,
you're not getting closer with her, you're not kissing her, you guys are not leading to sex,
this is going to go nowhere. This is just some sort of glorified friendship. That's not actually
you two getting intimate. And in order for a woman to get more invested in you emotionally
sex has to be on the table and I'm sure you already know that you want to do that anyways.
Not that that's the only thing you want to do, but I'm sure that's something you want to do so
it needs to lead to that. You need to lead the interaction to that physical part. That's why
it is a great idea to have the third date back at your place whether or not you end
up back at your place or her place on the first or second dates. If you need more help with this
and you need more help getting to the point where you're getting dates and maybe you're not getting
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