how to make change real and how to make it last
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basis people ask me all the time how do I create change that lasts by the end of
this video you're going to know how for most of my life I found making changes
or changing not to be that difficult I could do it pretty easily but the
changes wouldn't stick and it wasn't until I learned how to effectively
future pace that I could really make changes that would last not only myself
but also for my clients before I get into this make sure you stay to the end
of this video because I'm going to show you how this is only one small piece of
a much bigger training that I'm going to do next week live you know be online as
well so make sure you stick around for that also in the comments below let me
know what are your biggest challenges when it comes to future facing and NLP
I'd love to hear from you and I will respond one of the big mistakes that
many NLP practitioners make is they forget to future pace or they don't
future pace correctly when you do this right
you're changes that either you create in yourself or you help your clients with
will last if not forever a very very long time what is future facing future
pacing is a technique that NLP borrowed from hypnosis
it's imagining having the new change that you've created so let's say you
have an intervention you use an NLP process to break a habit or to make some
sort of change that you want in your life once you do that process then you
then take this new change and imagine having it in the future context where
you want it for example say you have social
you want to overcome this you run an NLP process on the social anxiety and
suddenly you feel like you're free of it you think of a social situation and it
doesn't bother you that would be the first test to know if the process worked
but you don't want to leave it there you want to actually imagine yourself in
that future context not having the social anxiety and feeling the way that
you want to feel in that social context without the anxiety so that would be an
example of future pacing you want to imagine the change that you've just
created into the future and this will give you sort of a pathway it'll give
you sort of a vision of how to bring this into your future rather than just
leaving it where it is in the present and risking losing that change or losing
that sense of having it and then walking into a social situation then suddenly
feeling the anxiety all over again in other words without future pacing you
may only experience the change in the moment and not generalize it to the
future so you definitely want to generalize the change into the future
because what is the point of creating a change if it's only temporary
one of the ways that people mess this up is when they do the future face they
associate into the future they associate into the context rather than stay
disassociated so what do I mean by associated or disassociated associated
is when you step into a memory or you step into a future imagined situation
like something in the future or future context you step into it fully and see
it and hear it as if you're actually there so you would be standing or
sitting in the situation as if you're actually there that's what we call
associate and you can try this out with your memories you can think of something
that happened in the past or something you want to happen in the future you see
yourself like you're a character in a movie that you're watching or do you
feel like you actually step into the scene different people are different and
you will naturally gravitate to one way or the other when your future facing you
want to make sure that you're disassociated you want to make sure that
you see yourself performing in the way that you want to perform rather than
being there for real now why would you want that and let people say well
doesn't it make it seem more real if you associate into it yes it will absolutely
make it seem more real but that can
be part of the problem if you associate into the future into something you want
when you associate it gives you the feeling that you already have it which
will diminish your motivation to go out and get it so when you're done future
pacing you want to make sure you're disassociated it's actually okay to
associate into the future if you want to get a sense and a feel for what it will
be like when you get what you want in that particular context just make sure
when you're done with the future pacing that you disassociate and when you
disassociate and you see yourself performing in this way in this case you
could say without the social anxiety you see yourself in a future situation with
no with no social anxiety behaving in a way that is confident and calm and
peaceful it should be very motivating for you to move toward that so you feel
like you want to step into that situation that's how you know what
future pace is very strong you feel very motivated to get there to step into that
future situation but you resist doing that so you stay disassociated this will
make it more powerful and it will make it feel like it's something you want to
move towards rather than associating and making it feel like you already have it
therefore you lose motivation to go out and get it or to do it if you really
want to understand the power of disassociation in the way that I'm
explaining it here I've linked a video to this video it's a video that I've
done on the NLP swish pattern' the swish pattern makes compelling use of a
disassociated image in order to help you overcome a compulsion so check that
video out and go deeper with this disassociated compelling image that will
motivate you to do more and be more now before I go into the final piece that I
want to teach you the part that will really take your future pacing over the
edge I also want to mention again that this what I'm teaching here is a very
small part of a much bigger training that I will be teaching live online next
week if you check the description below or the top comment button comment below
there's a link that you can sign up for the training is free it'll be about an
hour to two hours it is live you'll be you'll be able to ask me questions and
unfortunately if you're watching this later and you're not watching this
before I do the training go ahead and look in that description as well look in
the comments you a link I will leave something of value
for you there let's really take this to the next level
if you really want to supercharge your future facing think about creating
multiple examples of you having the change that you want in multiple
contexts so this really compounds the power of future pacing so let's use the
social anxiety example and think about where do you want to have the change in
the social anxiety so let's say instead of social anxiety you want to be at
peace and ease with yourself while socializing well you could see yourself
in multiple context you could see yourself at work you could see yourself
out at a club you could see yourself at a family gathering you want to see
yourself on on multiple major life contexts having the changes that you
want with social anxiety meaning having the piece in the column that you want
while you're socializing so you want to see many examples of this
many future examples of this with multiple contexts this will help you
make this real and make it stick in multiple contexts so it really
generalizes widely throughout your life and it gives you compelling images and
compelling sounds or compelling information to draw you into those
situations to behave in a way that you want to behave so that you get the
outcomes that you want so remember if you really want to take this to the next
level multiple examples multiple future cases across multiple major contexts if
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