Okay, so today's question is:
Do I have any tips to help you be
more patient with your children?
It's hard to be patient with those little guys,
they can be lots of fun,
but lots of crazy too.
So, first
we got to really think about what is patience, where does it come from.
And, so, generally speaking
the ability to be comfortably patient,
I'm not talking about patient when you're just being patient, but when you're comfortably patient, like, "alright, whatever."
When you're chill and you're patient,
it's because you're calm on the inside.
And, so, what it really takes
is to make sure you are taking care of yourself,
to make sure that you are doing what
it takes to keep your center, to find your zero
on a scale from zero to ten, to really bring yourself back so that your insides are feeling calm and grounded and peaceful.
And I know that's a little hard to do, especially when it's chaotic,
but at those times it's the most important to prioritize yourself. I can't stress that enough.
It's very important to take care of yourself.
And, so, what are some suggestions, one,
make sure you're getting enough sleep, first of all. The idea of being patient is
very difficult when you're exhausted. I mean we have no inner strength
when we're just shot.
So, it's really important to try to get as much sleep as you can. Make sure you're getting enough sleep 'cause
being patient is not gonna be very easy if you're exhausted.
Number two is meditation, and I know I say it all the time, and I'm gonna keep saying it
because I really do believe it's very important.
Meditation is the practice
of centering yourself. We sit there in meditation and our mind wanders
and then we just come back.
And then our mind wanders, and then we come back. And then our mind wanders, and then we come back.
What we're doing is we're building
the muscle to bring ourselves
to our peaceful, centered state. And, so, when we can build that muscle and those quiet moments,
we're stronger at being able to stay there,
when we're amidst the chaos of our lives.
One, sleep.
Two, meditation.
Three, exercise. Make sure you're getting a release, make sure you're taking care
of your body. If you feel gross,
it affects everything. The idea of being centered again and being calm has everything to do with how you feel within.
Okay, number four is gonna be expectations.
You can't expect more of these kids then is reasonable.
So, if you
if you expect them to do things, you're always gonna be frustrated when they're
not actually living up to the expectations.
So it's really important to keep
those expectations in check. And it's not just with your kids.
It's with people in life in general. If you have expectations of people
are always gonna live up to your standards, you're always gonna be frustrated and you're not gonna be patient.
It's important to realize that we're all human, we all make mistakes,
sometime we're clueless.
It's important to really
know that
we're all just bouncing around
trying our best, and sometimes we know better, and sometimes we don't.
And so,
lastly,
expectations was the last one,
and then,
lastly is just to remember
that you are a role model
and kids are going to follow in your footsteps.
So, whatever it is that you do,
not what you say,
is what it is that they're gonna mimic. So if you're calm, and you're cool, and you're not fearful,
and you're easygoing,
they're going to feel that.
It's all contagious, your feelings are contagious,
so the more that you focus on really centering yourself, and grounding yourself,
the more that they will be calm, and centered, and grounded too, because, energetically,
they're affected by you, and their energy will shift by being in your presence.
So it's not about what you're saying, it's really about who you're being.
I mean, my mother, God bless her,
she meditated for an hour
a day.
My whole entire life, every day, I knew that, this hour to that hour, mom went to her room,
and she sat in her chair and she meditated. And I had no idea what that meant or what that was doing, but
I knew the days that she didn't meditate, 'cause she was a little bit more "ughh"
than she usually was, and we would joke with her as kids: "Mom, we think you should go meditate."
I could probably count on one hand the amount of time she raised her voice to us.
So, it really does say something, and then, now I meditate because
I watched that, not because she told me to, but because I learned.
So it's very important to realize that you are a role model.
So taking care of yourself, valuing your own well-being,
taking care
of your exercise, your
sleep, your eating, all these things, everything that you do
they're watching.
So be your best self and take care of yourself, because that's gonna be the best thing you can do for your children.
All right, hopefully that was helpful.