If sex is something you want to enjoy, then sex is something you should be able to enjoy.
In today's video we're talking about how to do friends with benefits, with respect. Stay
tuned.
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Women are judged so much in this society for enjoying sex and enjoying their sexuality
far more so than men ever are. But if that's not how you want to see things, if you believe
just like me, that women should be able to enjoy sex the same way men can, then this
video might be for you. Now, if you're under 18 or if you don't believe that as well, then
this video might not be for you and that's okay, but for those of you who don't agree
with this double standard, what I want to show you today is how to do friends with benefits,
with respect. Now, the first thing you have to remember is you always want to be doing
this for you and stop believing what society tells you that is low value or poor form for
you to enjoy yourself in this way. If you buy into that reality, you're always going
to feel guilty or used, but you can never be used when you're doing it for you for the
right reasons, so you have to be beyond that judgment of society and you have to go, I
know why I'm doing this and this is for my reasons and I'm not buying into your frame
that says I'm a bad person for enjoying my sexuality in this way.
That's the most fundamental thing that you have to remember. If you want to do friends
with benefits, with respect. Now, number two, there's never no-risk sex. It doesn't exist,
but you always want to make it as safe as possible. Always have safe sex when you're
doing friends with benefits. Number three, you've got to be clear with your intentions.
This isn't something to do with a guy that you really like and hope that more things
will come from it. This is where you've got to have brutal self honesty. If you're doing
friends with benefits, that's the reason you're doing it. That's the sole outcome. You're
expecting nothing more from it. Now, stuff might happen. More things can happen and we've
all met plenty of couples who met, who got together after doing friends with benefits,
but it's not something you can go in hoping for.
You have to be clear with your intentions and go in with no expectations. Number four,
you want to be doing sex with benefits on your terms. Imagine the really high value
women of the world. Imagine the Taylor Swifts of the world. Imagine if that woman had a
booty call or friends with benefits. Do you think someone like that would ever go to a
man at his convenience? Sex is and always will be something that's more abundant for
women than it is for men. That's just the way we're built. That's biology and that's
why you don't respect yourself when you do it on his terms, always at his convenience.
This is your friends with benefits. This is something you enjoy and it happens on your
terms at your convenience. You make the calls, he's there to benefit you and not the other
way around. Now you're both going to enjoy it, but you need to make sure if you want
to do it with respect that you're the one calling the shots.
Number five, be willing to switch him out if he's not seriously satisfying. You remember,
friends with benefits is about benefits. It's about you enjoying yourself and what you get
out of it. So if he's not satisfying you in that way, you're better off switching to someone
who does than having bad sex with someone who you don't even like that much anyway.
Friends with benefits should always be about you both enjoying yourself and that includes
you. So if you're too connected to one person, check your intentions. You could be doing
it for the wrong reasons. And number six, above all is have fun. This is to enjoy yourself.
This is to enjoy liberation as a sexual female and to not fear judgment and and have to worry
about whether you're being used or how people are going to react to it.
Make it fun, have fun. You're doing this for you and you can never be used if you're having
sex for the right reasons because you're doing it as something you want to do. Well girls,
that's how to do friends with benefits, with respect. Like I say, this isn't for everyone.
If you're under 18 or if you simply just don't believe in this, then it's not going to be
for you and that's fine. But for those of you who do want to enjoy yourself sexually,
who do want to be liberated from any judgments or guilt relating to this area of your life,
you should and you deserve to be able to do that. So I hope this gives you a really good
idea of how to do that with respect. Now, make sure you subscribe, give the video a
thumbs up, leave a comment like you always do. You guys get so involved. So leave a comment
down there. Girls, go on enjoy yourselves and above all live life by your own rules
and not by someone else's frame. Thanks so much for watching ladies, and I look forward
to chatting to you very soon in the next video.