So many people confuse self-love with pleasure and they feel you know they think that when they
feel pleasure that's love. No! That the more whole you feel, the less need for pleasure you'll have.
The less whole you feel, the more you're attached to things that are going to stimulate you and
create pleasure. So then, how is self love born? You have to come up against the end of
your emotional belief you have to come to the very point where you don't think you can go any further
that you've reached the end and you don't believe that there's anything beyond that
and then you have to step out a little further and go a little further than where you thought you
could go every time you do that something awakens in you you have more respect for yourself you have
more respect for life you have more respect for others because you realize that change isn't that
easy you start to feel this kind of sense of peace and and compassion because you've come up against
your own limits and you're stretching yourself beyond those limits so then when you finally free
yourself from the chains of those emotions and those habits that keep you anchored to the past
there's a liberation of energy and that liberation of energy is the body going from particle to wave
from matter to energy and that energy that's being released the body starts to feel what
we call joy or love or freedom and that is what i call the natural state of being so you're not
getting that joy or that freedom or that love from anything outside of you there's nothing out there
that's creating it it's happening from within you so then we see then in our research when people
really start to cross that river of change and start to break through and they begin
to activate certain latent systems in their brain and those latent systems start signaling
oxytocin oxytocin the love chemical oxytocin signals nitric oxide nitric oxide signals a
chemical that causes your heart and lungs to swell your heart literally is engorging with energy and
blood and it's literally swelling and the center now is activated so then when you feel that
you're not going to want to lose that feeling in fact if you start judging another person
if you start getting impatient with another person you'll notice that feeling will go away you start
analyzing yourself that feeling go away go away so then it makes sense then that when you feel that
level of wholeness that you feel so whole that you wouldn't want to lose the feeling then self-love
leads to allowing which means i'm just going to allow you because i'm so in love with myself
i can allow you when i'm not in love with me i'm going to pick you apart but the more in love i
am with myself the more love and appreciation i have for all things i am no longer in the
same energy as my enemy of the same energy as my co-worker that i despise i'm in a different energy
and then the side effect of allowing is called joy so then if you're not a judging or criticizing
then you're not dividing your energy and if you're not dividing your energy you're going to
feel joy as a side effect so then more and more people start to figure this out in other words
if you spend two hours in a meditation getting beyond your fear or your anger or your pain or
your suffering it took you two hours to get beyond it and you feel the liberation of you
getting beyond those limited states i guarantee you you would be walking around in your life
celebrating because that divine intelligence that's living in you that's giving you life
is now expressing itself through you to a greater measure so then you're in love with
life because you're connected to life and imagine how far you can go with this because the more you
connect to that field and the more you connect to that life essence the more
you're going to feel in love with life because that's where your attention is i guarantee you
that if you did that every single day you would be less likely to want to feel fear or pain or
suffering or anger and more likely to want to feel those elevated states and you're not going
to be relying on anybody to make you happy you're going to realize that happiness comes from within
you