It’s 2019 bro.
The dating game has changed.
Changed a lot.
Back when I was a young god, you used to have to actually go out and talk to girls if you
wanted to meet them.
Nowadays, all you have to do is whip out your phone and hop on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Grindr,
or whatever else the kids are on these days.
Since I’m a god, and I’ve had success with girls both the old fashioned way and
now the modern way, I wanted to give you a break down of each, with the pros and cons,
so this way you can decide which is better for you depending on what your goals are in
your dating life.
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Now, back to the video.
Let’s start off with cold approach, aka just going out and chatting up girls the old
fashioned way.
One of the biggest benefits is that you can go out and get immediate results, right away.
You can talk to a girl, chat a bit get to know her and get the immediate result of,
a face-to-face interaction where you can build interest and connect with her.
You can talk to multiple girls throughout the night and get the immediate result of
a phone number or a couple phone numbers if you’re really hustling.
And hey, who knows, maybe you and the girl really hit it off from the start and after
a little while, you guys decide to go home and go to pound town that SAME night.
Talk about immediate results, y’know what I mean..
Hahahhaa.
When you talk to girls on dating apps, even if you hit it off really well and are vibing,
you’re almost never able to take advantage of your connection and meetup immediately.
The second benefit, and what I think is the most valuable benefit of cold approach is
that the girl gets to meet you in person.
This way, you can establish value face-to-face and show her you’re a cool guy.
Girls are incredibly flaky online because they want to be sure the guy they’re talking
to isn’t gonna turn out to be a creepy motherfucker who stalks her home and jerks off in the bushes
outside her house.
It’s the internet after all, so even if all the boxes are checked and someone looks
good on paper, she won’t know for sure until she meets up with you in person and is able
to confirm you’re not a creep.
In a girl’s mind, you’re creepy until proven innocent.
This is another huge reason why meeting girls in person, and getting that face-to-face connection
is an advantage over Tinder… the face-time you get with the girl allows you to build
an actual connection with the girl and allow you guys to get to know each other.
Dating is all about meeting girls and seeing if you guys like each other before you guys
go to pound town because pound town is a way better place to visit with someone you have
a connection with and actually like.
A lot of guys out there think dating is all about getting laid and adding to your score
but that’s a super immature mindset.
First of all because that shit gets really boring really fast.
And most of the time, guys who are just trying to get laid with as many girls as possible
are doing it because they’re trying to impress their friends or prove something to themselves,
both of which are equally stupid.
But hey man, if you’re like Hugh Hefner or a god like me, and are just into exploring
the female population then by all means, have at it bro, everyone is different.
Another massive benefit of cold approach is that you can actually hone your skills and
improve.
The ‘skills’ required to be good at dating is really just learning social skills and
charisma.
A lot of “pickup artists” like to turn dating advice into a sleezy game of trying
to “manipulate girls” and other nonsense but that’s just BS.
The truth is, you can’t manipulate anyone, or force anyone into doing something they
don’t want to do.
So whatever bullshit tricks scammy pickup artists try selling you on, don’t fall for
them.
People have free will bro.
They act based on what they want to do.
Learning the skills to become good at dating is really just learning a few things:
Not getting nervous to talk to new girls or knowing how to deal with those nerves
Being socially calibrated and non-creepy Learning how to communicate your value to
other people.
Which is basically just learning to display your personality and awesomeness in a way
that intrigues people and makes them want to be around you
And number four, is Confidence.
You need the confidence in yourself and your social skills in order to talk to other people
and show them who you really are.
It’s really hard and almost impossible to build this skillset without actually going
out and doing it.
How the hell you gonna learn to overcome approach nerves, how to be non creepy, how to be smooth
in social situations, and all the rest if you’re not actually going out and doing
it???
This is a huge issue I see.
Guys always leave comments saying “i don’t know how to get girls to like me” well fuck
dude, have you even tried?
Are you practicing your social skills consistently?
How you gonna learn and get good if all you do is sit home all day and jerk off?
This does however, bring me to my next point about cold approach which is the biggest con
of meeting and dating girls this way.
It Takes up so much fucking time
Let’s say you go for a night out, at 11 pm and stay out ‘til 2 am.
That’s 3 hours in one day.
And since you stay out later, you’re probably gonna wake up later than usual so you probably
won’t wake up until like 10 AM or later.
So not only did you stay out for 3 hours, but you slept in WAY later than you should
have and your sleep schedule is all fucked up.
You end up wasting hours of time going out to meet girls .
And, a lot of guys tend to drink when they go to bars and clubs too so you end up feeling
hungover and shitty.
This is the biggest drawback of going out to meet girls, and this is why if you can
go to day events, activities, or parties, it’s way easier so this way it doesn’t
results in you staying up until 2 am every night trying to get good at dating.
This brings me to Tinder, and other online dating apps.
Tinder
The biggest benefit is that it’s massively more efficient and convenient than cold approach.
This way: You can go through tons of girls and pick
the ones you like You can talk to and message them at your own
leisure and on your own time You don’t have to waste hours of time going
out to meet girls
And, If you’re on there long enough and have decent game, you’re bound to get a
girl you can hangout with at least every few weeks.
The efficiency is a result of the high volume of girls on the apps.
There’s literally hundreds if not thousands of girls to choose from within a few mile
radius so your chances of success even if they’re low, will still equate to at least
a few girls matching with you
It’s great if you’re looking for a specific type of girl, so this way you can talk to
them and see if they’d be a good match for you before having to go out and meet them
Meeting girls out is a ton of work and it usually takes a few minutes for you to know
whether or not you’re into them.
With tinder you get to talk to them beforehand and get a sense of their vibe and personality.
Also, if you can afford it, you can just buy all the boosts so you can get a really high
volume of girls looking at your profile and increase your chances of getting more matches.
Now you must be thinking wow this is great.
But using dating apps like Tinder has a lot of cons as well.
The biggest one is the High flake rate.
Girls are SUPER flaky on Tinder for a lot of reasons.
Here are just a couple:
They don’t know you They’re talking to at least a dozen other
guys on that app alone There is Tons of competition, so girls will
likely just choose the more attractive guy and won’t even swipe on guys who aren’t
at least a 7 Competition is fierce... hell I’m on Tinder
bro, you’re competing with gods like me
Also, you have to remember that they’re just staring at a profile and text on screen.
That’s usually not compelling enough to get them to want to take time out of their
day to come and meetup with you.
In any relationship between people whether it’s friends, family, or girlfriend, investment
is a big part of it.
Girls you talk to on Tinder aren’t gonna want to invest a lot of time or energy into
a guy they just met and sent some messages to because they don’t know if:
he’s a creepy weirdo, some dude trying to steal their organs,
is incredibly weird and awkward in person, is uglier in person or any host of other things.
Remember earlier, how I talked about the high volume being a great thing?
It’s also a bad thing because it makes it Hard to stand out.
There’s No real advantage to dating apps if you’re not good looking.
If you’re average or below average, with cold approach you can make up for it by being
charismatic, funny, and allowing her to actually see your personality and who you are before
making a complete judgement of you.
It’s hard to convey your personality over tinder so girls don’t get a feel for who
you are, and are judging superficially.
So even if you have good text game and are able to get the girl interested, if another
more attractive guy also has good text game, then she’ll choose him over you because
it’s really hard to separate yourself.
Now, there’s enough girls on there that you can still do well if you’re not good
looking, but a good looking guy will do really well with significantly less effort than an
average or below average guy.
And this brings me to the last con of using Tinder.
There are almost No immediate results.
You usually have to exchange phone numbers or social media first, and then talk a bit
before someone is willing to give you the time of day and meetup with you.
Unless you click with a girl super well and she happens to be down to meetup right away
which is rare but not impossible.
I mean, I’m a god and this has only happened a select few times for me, so your chances
ain’t looking so good if you’re just a mere mortal.
And that my friends is it.
Now you’re armed with all the knowledge necessary to decide which dating approach
you’d like to take.
You can always refer back to this video when you need to.
I personally go back and forth between the two and use them both simultaneously so you
figure out what works best for you.
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Zeus out.