I believe at this point
Dylan is using the tragic death of his friend
as a crutch at times.
This is what he told me,
"Mom I wake up thinking about it,
"I go to bed thinking about it."
Now it's been well over two years
and I still see him posting things
about it on social media.
I don't know whether he's crying out
for attention or whether he really feels that way
but at some point you have to move
forward with your life.
Well Dylan says his Stepdad, Thomas
does not understand the grief
he went through when his friend died
and only talks to him
when he's doing something wrong.
Now Dylan says his Father Don loves him
unconditionally, but even Don says
it's a bad idea for Dylan to own guns.
He's acting Police Chief in his town
and so he is going to join us via Skype.
So Don thank you so much for joining us.
Oh thank you for having me.
Don you've been listening to what
we've been talking about so far, right?
I sure have.
First just let me give you
the opportunity to add anything or respond
to anything that's been said so far.
Thomas' comments that you posted
on the board, I mean that could have been
the end of the show.
I mean how can this kid exist,
or survive or thrive if that's what he's up against.
I mean whether you like it or not,
when you married his mother,
this is your Stepchild.
And it's just disgusting
that that's your mind set.
Given that you assess this to be
a toxic condition for him,
one in which you believe he cannot flourish,
why is Dylan not with you?
He absolutely has
the choice to be with me.
So that's a great question.
I've encouraged it.
His home life is, how accurate it is,
I don't live there, so I don't know.
But it's described essentially as a prison.
He is not doing well.
Well if it's a prison the inmates have taken over.
Because he's kind of running the prison.
And you're not there every day,
you don't live with the behavior every day.
You don't live with the outbursts.
But he has lived with me for years.
Every single day and the disrespect and if someone stood
up in your house
that was not your child
but who you were responsible for at 22, stand up and saying
disrespectful things to you, you wouldn't accept it.
You wouldn't accept it in your house.
You wouldn't accept it in your everyday life.
I probably wouldn't,
but I would show this person who's my son
love and compassion and empathy.
I do show that to my son,
I show that to my son every day.
He is in a terrible mind set.
Can we agree that this family
is dysfunctional at this point,
that it's not working
Yes. Yes.
One hundred percent
we are dysfunctional. And my biggest concern
is that you're okay
with this dysfunctional family unit.
You're saying I'm good.
For 22, I'm okay with where I am.
I'm living with my mother,
I'm telling her she's a bitch
and we're going back and forth.
To be fair I've never called her a bitch.
Now does he drop the F bomb (beeping)
on me every other sentence, yes.
He might as well call me a bitch.
Okay, is that the way to talk to your Mother?
No but she was being pushy and I got upset.
Okay, but means forget
what I just said now I'm
gonna tell you what I mean.
You said no, but.
So the answer's no.
I said is that the way to talk to your Mother?
No but she pissed me off so what you really mean is
yeah, if you make me mad then it's okay.
No, I don't agree with that and so therefor
the answer's no.
We have a terrible dynamic between us.
I'm a smother, I literally am a smother still at 22.
I'm not the Mother, I'm the smother.
I am worried about what's happening with him.