catching feelings for someone is easy
but seeing if they feel the same way
towards you is nerve-wracking unrequited
love is a special kind of hell but no
matter how painful it is
you can still overcome it by using these
10 methods 1 allow yourself to grieve
rejection hurts your heart is broken but
your whole body feels heavy and worn
down this is because emotional pain
activates the same part of your brain as
physical pain be kind to yourself and
let yourself heal don't pretend like
everything is ok or put off dealing with
your heartbreak as if it's a chore
acknowledge that you're not emotionally
well and probably won't be for a while
you have to accept the pain before you
can get better to realize you're not
alone rejection makes us vulnerable and
we take it personally because our heart
is involved one trap we often fall into
is believing that we're not good enough
just because one person didn't return
our feelings we might think that we're
not attractive smart or lovable enough
but unrequited love happens frequently
even to people we think would never have
a hard time with romance a good way to
prevent self-depreciation
is to consider other perspectives
perhaps it was simply bad timing or the
two of you aren't right for one another
focus on manifesting self-love instead
of pulling yourself down and you'll
definitely recover faster from the
heartbreak 3 ask if there's a pattern in
your rejections for some people falling
in love with someone who rejects them is
a pattern they repeat based on similar
childhood experiences they may have
developed insecure attachment if they
had caretakers who weren't always
available when they needed support try
to assess your history of rejections and
see if the people you're choosing are
repeating the same type of behavior you
experienced in your childhood if so this
will only cause you to relive the times
you felt abandoned or betrayed and
you'll close yourself off even further
finding it harder to trust people to
break out of this cycle it's important
to recognize the pattern and be aware of
who you choose to bare your feelings to
for realize that it's also hard for the
person who rejected you people who
reject others often suffer from guilt
and anxiety afterwards it's not easy
dealing with heartbreak but
Heartbreakers usually feel awful about
hurting someone without meaning to five
distance yourself from the person who
rejected you even if both of you agree
to remain friends after your confession
it's a good idea to create some distance
between the two of you to give yourself
time to work out your feelings if they
truly care about you they'll understand
don't worry about coming off cold
creating space can help you put things
into a healthier perspective it's easy
to have tunnel vision when you're still
closely interacting with the person that
rejected you backing off for a while
will help you ease off the attachment
you feel six treat your feelings like
there's someone else's talking to
yourself in the third person can help
you better control your emotions this
allows you to step out of your usual
perspective and assess the situation in
a more objective point of view emotions
can be very high maintenance and when
you're flooded with negative thoughts
it's hard to be self-absorbed instead
monitor your feelings like they're
another person this can help you realize
that your unrequited feelings aren't the
only feelings you have just being able
to step out of the frame and see that
they only make up a part of who you are
can be a relief 7 focus on non romantic
media media is congested with romance
but it's helpful to step away from books
movies blogs and radio stations on that
genre for a while instead you can turn
to media that promotes confidence and
self-love when you focus on improving
your well-being you'll gain a sense of
empowerment and begin to recover from
your broken heart 8 be inspired by your
feelings instead of letting your
feelings consume you channel them into
productivity use them to inspire your
craft or just take some time off to soul
search you can also pick up a new hobby
as long as you can distract yourself
from your heartbreak
9 don't search for closure accept the
situation at face value and realize you
don't need all the answers you want
holding on to the feelings you have for
someone won't help them come around
learn to stop criticizing yourself
because the only way to get past
unrequited love is to believe that
you're enough to pull yourself out of it
10 don't give up on love ultimately the
future is undetermined life is
unpredictable and has a funny way of
introducing us to new people when we
least expect it if you're still caught
up on someone who isn't worth your time
however you're closing yourself off to
many other possibilities of love the key
is to sort through the feelings that are
clouding your judgment while it may not
feel like it right now heartbreak will
eventually pass what are your
experiences in dealing with unrequited
love did you discover any helpful
methods let us know in the comments
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