hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 19 psychological facts
about love now let's begin number one changing chemistry when you fall in love it changes
the chemistry of your brain not only does love release exciting hormones and create new emotions
it also inspires your brain to give up bad habits addictive behaviors for example are easier
for your brain to ignore when you fall in love according to a 2017 study from the journal plus
one passionate love diminishes your reactivity to addictive behavior in other words love is so
distracting that your brain stops craving your bad habits if you ever want to change your bad habits
do it at the beginning of a relationship love will make it much easier to let go of your addictions
number two a loving look if someone really loves you you'll see it in their eyes alright let's say
you're having dinner with your partner do they spend the entire date looking around the room or
do they spend it staring at you when you look at someone you love your brain releases a chemical
called oxytocin also known as the love or cuddle hormone and because of this
hormone you view your partner as more desirable than anyone else in the world
in other words if your partner is staring at you it's because they're in love with you number three
predictive brain scans how do you know if you and your partner will stay together many people think
relationships are a guessing game but researchers beg to differ according to a 2011 study in the
journal human brain mapping brain scans show whether or not your love is going to last
researchers scan the brains of people in the early stages of a relationship all brain scans showed
signs of love but only a few scans showed activity in the reward and motivation centers of the brain
it turns out this group was far more likely to stay with their partners researchers checked in
with their participants 18 months later and found most of these couples were still happily in love
number four instinctual guarding falling in love means embracing vulnerability but it's not always
natural or easy for many people love has an adverse reaction instead of encouraging them
to open up they become guarded and distant this is especially problematic for men who struggle with
commitment they're scared to express themselves or put their emotions on the line so once they do
fall in love they pull away luckily patience and good communication can bring these walls crumbling
down number five attentional migration why do you want to know every little thing about your partner
normally we only pay attention to the big stuff life changes crises success stories
even with friends and family we rarely pay attention to the tiny details of their life
but romantic love changes the way we pay attention physically and emotionally we fall in love with
the smallest details we notice minuscule changes in a partner's appearance we notice
insignificant quirks and habits we care about the details of their day the people they talk to and
even the food they ate when you notice and care about these tiny details your brain is in love
number six verbal grouping when your partner makes plans do they say i or we after falling in love
our language begins to change without realizing it we stop referring to ourselves and start referring
to our relationship as a single unit so instead of saying i'm going to a holiday party this weekend
you may instinctively say we're going to a holiday party this weekend this change in
language tells you two things you're happy in your relationship and you're in it for the long term
number seven a smooth compromise in any healthy relationship compromise is key but did you know
that love makes it easier to compromise the more love struck you are the more willing you are to
compromise with your partner when you love someone you care about their needs as much as your own
you want them to feel satisfied and supported even if you have to give something up but what
if you're not in love if you're in a relationship but not in love you're less willing to compromise
your needs you care about yourself more than your partner so you're more likely to be stubborn
number eight cycle of appreciation
loving partners want to make each other happy so they enjoy doing favors and making small
sacrifices but love thrives off of gratitude if you do your partner a favor but they don't
appreciate you your feelings of love can backfire that disappointment will discourage you from doing
your partner favors in the future but what if your partner does appreciate your contributions
their gratitude rewards and recognizes your love and that keeps your partnership strong and healthy
number nine longer lives does love impact your physical health according to harvard
health publishing long-term relationships may increase the lifespan of the average
male men in relationships are not only living longer they're also happier on average committed
men are more satisfied less anxious and physically healthier than men who are single
now love doesn't guarantee every man a long and healthy life but the results speak for themselves
number 10 loving the opposition do opposites attract many people wonder whether partners
should be similar or different the answer is a little bit of both relationships are stronger
when partners have similar interests and values but that doesn't mean you and your partner should
be exactly the same personality differences for example improve the likelihood of long-term love
just think about relationships like a puzzle if you have two of the same puzzle pieces well they
aren't going to fit together you only need one of each puzzle piece to make a puzzle that's why a
loving relationship contains two different puzzle pieces which complement each other's strengths
if you found the right person your opposite edges will fit together perfectly number 11
love in music do your favorite songs make you think of your crush when you're in love you
naturally associate music with the person you love music is a natural source of passion emotion and
energy if you're in love your brain associates all of those things with your partner or your crush
so don't be surprised if every song reminds you of love number 12 beating together according to
a 2013 study from the university of california davis couples connect on a unique physical level
researchers found that heartbeats will synchronize when partners stare into each other's eyes
loving partners develop such a strong bond their hearts actually beat together
number 13 finding love again divorce is one of the scariest things in any relationship you thought
you found your soul mate you may have spent many happy years together but your relationship
started to fall apart eventually it disappeared altogether but that doesn't mean that you'll
never love again a small percentage of people find lifelong happiness in their first marriage
around 40 of first marriages end in divorce or separation but a majority of those people marry
again so if you've experienced a divorce remember that divorce isn't the end of your love life
sooner or later you may find someone you love even more number 14 brightening your life according to
a 2014 study in the journal of personality love can change your entire outlook on the world this
study tested 245 young adults over a nine month period they discovered that individuals in love
were significantly more optimistic than people who weren't in other words the presence of a partner
can change the way you think and make the world a brighter place number 15 soul mates on a plane
you never know when or where you'll fall in love you may fall for a close friend you may
develop feelings for someone at work or maybe you'll find love in the skies according to a
survey of 50 000 travelers 1 in 50 people met someone they love during a flight so the next
time you're on a plane talk to the people sitting next to you you never know who you might meet
number 16 the scent of love vision isn't the only sense that creates love and attraction
smell plays an equally important role the chemicals or pheromones inside your partner
create a specific scent if you're attracted to someone you're drawn to their smell just like
you're drawn to their appearance many partners wear each other's clothes and sleep on each
other's pillows because they love their partner's individual scent number 17 the perfect recipe
what's the secret to a long and healthy relationship according to a 2014 study
in the journal personal relationships the answer is honesty researchers told couples periodically
to share their feelings and intentions about the future of their relationship they discovered that
couples who were honest were much more likely to stay together there's no foolproof recipe
to make your relationship last but research shows that honesty plays a substantial role
number 18 faithful intelligence about 22 percent of partners are unfaithful at least once
but not all partners are likely to cheat studies have shown that unfaithful partners on average
are less intelligent and score lower on iq tests on the other hand highly
intelligent partners are far less likely to be unfaithful number 19 closeness in comedy
what's the best way to bond with your partner a 2015 study in the journal personal relationships
recommends watching comedy when couples laugh together they form strong positive bonds together
laughter and love foster closeness and improve the quality of your relationship so find time to
watch comedy with your partner because few things bring couples closer than laughter hey thank you
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