You my friend, are watching this because you're either A in the friend-zone or B, you want
to make sure that if you do end up in the friend-zone, that you know exactly how to
get out of it.
Let me just talk about B for a second.
B is you're hoping that if one day you get in the friend-zone, that you know how to get
out.
Here's the idea here and this is all going to tie into how to get out of the friend-zone.
If you're in there right now, so just bear with me here.
But here's the thing.
You're only in the friend-zone if you allow yourself to be in the friend-zone.
Here's how it works.
A girl doesn't necessarily put you in the friend-zone.
Technically, I have to say, you put yourself there.
You put yourself in the friend-zone.
And the reason why you're doing this is because you're not making a move.
And you're doing this because you're either too scared to get rejected or you have a false
view of how attraction works.
That false view is you think that if you spend enough time with her then eventually she becomes
attracted to you, which doesn't work.
That's called the backdoor route of going in the friendship way to ease your way in
because you think hey, you know what, I just got to spend time with her and not put any
pressure on her and just kind of be her friend for a while and then hopefully it works out.
Unfortunately, that does not work out.
The more time that you spend with a girl as a friend, she sees you as a friend.
And it's difficult for a girl to escape that.
She sees you as a friend.
It's not easy for her at this point to now think of you as a guy she can be attracted
to because when you're her friend, you're not showing a lot of masculine qualities.
You're showing a lot of submissive qualities, a lot of nice guy tendencies, things like
that.
Which is fine for a friendship, but it's not attractive.
She's just seeing this neutral person.
No real masculine traits that she can see that she can be attracted to.
It goes deeper and deeper into friendship and it's hard for her to then all of a sudden
get out of that because attraction doesn't happen through choice or through convincing
yourself.
It's just happens as it is, it happens naturally.
Going that route does not work.
Again back to my original point here, you put yourself in the friend-zone because you're
choosing to only be her friend.
Now how do you get out of the friend-zone?
It's simple.
You do this by stopping being her friend.
There's no guarantee here that this is going to work in the sense of you getting her attracted
to you, but you will 100% get out of the friend-zone.
You don't really have a choice in the matter if she's going to be attracted, it just has
to happen.
To get out of the friend-zone you have to literally get out of the friend-zone by not
being a friend.
That's what you're choosing to do.
You need to switch things up and you need to go to, whatever you want to call it, I
don't know, attraction zone, date zone.
Just out of there and into a place where you guys are under the context or under the umbrella
of "I'm interested in you, I'm trying to pursue this as a date and I'm trying to pursue you
so you and I can be together in something more romantic".
A lot of the times, I'm gonna be honest with you, this doesn't work.
This doesn't work because of what I already said.
And a lot of guys might be thinking, well Tripp, I don't understand, it has to work
somehow, like this has to work.
There has to be some method, some trick, some sentence that you can say.
Not really, you only have to try to make the move and try to ask her out on a date and
say hey, let's let's get a drink some time.
Let's do something together and then continue
to build attraction by using tension, entertainment
and dominance.
That's what I talked about in my Hooked program.
You're going to be using those to build attraction and now you're no longer in the friend-zone
but you're in the "I'm a guy who is your potential mate zone".
Okay, whatever you want to call it.
You're going to be building attraction using TED using that, building the tension there
and then escalating it forward by using dominance.
That's the D in TED, using dominance by moving the interaction forward and eventually going
for a kiss and then moving it from there.
If you're not doing that, then you're in the friend-zone.
I want to be clear here, if you're not doing the things that pull the attraction
triggers, then you're just doing friend-zone stuff.
If you're not displaying your masculine qualities and you're not using the tension, entertainment
dominance, you're just acting like a friend.
In order to get out of the friend-zone, you need to do the things necessary that get a
woman attracted to you.
The tough part here is that a lot of guys they end up in a spot that they're in right
now where it's hard to get out of the friend-zone and seen as an attractive person because you're
already seen as a little bit needy and a little bit insecure.
And so those things are already unattractive to her as someone who could be a potential
mate because you're this person who took way too long to set up a date with her.
You've been already just really giving her a lot of attention.
And you've been there for her for whatever you can do so a lot of it is needy, submissive
so she's already seeing it like that and that's what double makes it harder to switch over
out of the friend-zone and into this attraction zone.
Another way to go about this is you can do a no contact thing.
Here's option B for you.
You go away, you start to lessen your time with her, you start to move on and go for
other women and start to date other women.
And if she's in your social circle or somehow knows you, she's going to start to see this
and that's can build attraction.
But also you're going to be stepping away from the friendship a little bit.
And at this point, she's gonna sort of forget about who you are.
Not really, but she just hasn't experienced you in a while.
She's away from that so she kind of forgets a little bit.
That's how no contact works.
You start to fade in the feeling and memory of who the person is a little bit.
What happens there is because she's gonna have a little bit of that fade, what you do
is you go away, and then when you come back, it's a little bit like starting over.
Not 100% from scratch obviously.
She still remembers who you are and has the memories of you, but it's like I haven't seen
this person in a while.
She forgets what the experience of being with you is like.
Through this, you can come back in and it's like a refresh a little bit.
Start from the beginning and then not go the backdoor friend-zone route, but start using
tension, entertainment and dominance.
Those things that I talk about in the Hooked program using that stuff to then re-attract
her or get to the point where she's interested.
And then using it all in terms of under the context of "I'm gonna be asking you on a date".
You don't necessarily say that but you're gonna ask her out to go get a drink with you
or do an activity with you or do something fun while using the TED formula.
Building tension with her by flirting, using entertainment by entertaining yourself and
having a good time in the interaction, which shows that you're just having a good time
and you're loose and more confident.
And then dominance, which is the whole thing, which is moving the interaction forward and
going for another date or a kiss and moving it all the way to sex.
That's how you can escape the friend-zone is by starting a little bit from the beginning,
refreshing it and coming back in.
My advice to you, and of course you do what you want, but if you were one of my coaching
clients, what I'd be saying to you right now (which most guys don't want to hear) is I
would just move on from this girl all together.
The idea of chasing one girl reinforces bad habits and the incorrect mindsets inside of
you.
Basically you're saying to yourself, it's okay to chase one girl or you're saying to
yourself false things like if I spend enough time or work hard enough, she will eventually
become attracted to me.
You're reinforcing just bad ideas in your head that are not going to help you with future
women if it doesn't work out with her, which most likely just statistically speaking, it
will not work out.
It doesn't work out most of the time with many women.
You have to date a lot of women, talk to a lot of women, have sex with a lot of women
until one works out.
What I'm saying here is I would try to move on from her and say okay (again try, I urge
you try, meaning set up a date, move the interaction
forward, ask her out, do that) but then the
second it doesn't work out, if it doesn't, then you just move on and move on as fast
as you can and then you'll know to reapply this TED system to the new women that you're
talking to and the new women that you're meeting.
That's the ideal situation if you want the best.
I know it's the hardest.
I know it's the most painful.
I know that it stings a lot in your heart and your soul to move on from the girl that
you really like and really enjoy.
But right now, as much as it hurts in the long run, you're going to be happy that you
did it.
I can speak from experience.
I've been in these situations before and I'm always so glad in the past that I eventually
moved on and I had to learn my lesson the hard way of sticking around a woman that wasn't
necessarily interested for a long time in my younger years.
But now I know and this is why I'm teaching you this.
It's so much more worth it to learn the lesson, move on and go to another woman that could
have the potential of liking you and being interested in you.
Take that and run with it.
Like this video right now if this resonates with you, I want you to leave a comment down
below if you have something to say about this
or you are going to finally escape the friend-zone.
In fact, write down in the comments "I'm escaping the friend-zone!" with an exclamation point
showing that you've actually done this so you can leave and move on to someone else
who's going to be interested in you.
There you go.
Check out my Hooked program in the link in the description below.
Get Her Hooked dot com so you can learn more about the TED system.
I hope this helps and I will see you on the next video.