Heya playa, so the school year is coming to a close and you still haven't asked out your
crush yet.
What are you waiting for?
I know, at this point you might feel like you've waited for too long and you've missed
your opportunity.
So in this video I want to share a few practical tips on what you can do to help your situation
and how to plan better for the future.
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look it's totally possible that you've already missed the point and it's already too late
to ask out your crush.
It might just be something you have to accept.
But hold on, is there something, anything you can do to ask them out?
Even though you've already waited to the very last minute?
Yes, there actually is.
For some of you, you're probably counting down the days till school ends or today might
even be your last day so what's the last minute strategy that you can pull out to hang out
with your crush?
Don't worry about hanging out with them one on one, focus on hanging out with them in
a group.
That's what I would focus your time and energy on.
And when I say a group, try to ask your friends, a few of their friends, see if you can get
a big group together to hang out after school to go do something like bowling or go eat
or just go hang out in the park.
Realistically if you're at the end of the school year here and you haven't asked out
your crush then chances are you haven't really built that deep of a connection with them.
Maybe you were too busy, maybe you couldn't find the right time, maybe you didn't know
what to say, regardless of what the reason is this is the situation that's in front of
you.
And that's why a group hangout makes so much sense.
You don't have to worry about the awkwardness of you and your crush being there alone and
not knowing what to say but if you're in a bigger group it becomes easier for you to
socialize with anyone that's there so it takes off a bit of the pressure.
Trust me on this, I've been in that situation before.
The kind where you like someone and want to ask them out but you just can't find the right
way to do it and then eventually you realize you're way past the expiration date, either
they've lost interest in you, someone else has them out or you're just not gonna see
them for a long time.
I spent a lot of mental energy thinking of the perfect type of scenario I could set up
to ask out my crush but life doesn't really work like that.
Sometimes you have to work with what you have.
So maybe you have a friend that's friends with your crush or maybe you know one of their
friends, either way, try to communicate with the people surrounding them so you can put
something together where the two of you can hang out around each other.
The key here when you're hanging out in a group is to use that as an opportunity to
walk up to your crush and talk to them.
Trust me, it's a lot easier talking to one person in a group of 10 rather than one person
in a school of 300, 500 or however big your school is.
Not to mention when you're hanging out in a group surrounded by friends, everyone is
kind of a little bit more relaxed.
There isn't that high tension of people they don't know watching them so they'll be a little
bit more open to talking to you.
So all of that sounds good but let's realistically plan for the worst case scenario, you wanted
to ask out your crush, the school year is coming to an end and you just don't have the
time.
You're either not gonna see them, you're too busy or you just can't work up the courage
to do it.
So what do you do in those situations?
Well, you may not like what I have to say but if you can't ask them out in person, I
would probably hold it off until the beginning of the next year.
I know, I know that sounds like a big thing to do but trust me, give me some time to explain
it.
Most of you are probably thinking if I couldn't do it in person, why don't I just do it through
text or in a DM?
The problem there is that if you haven't built up your connection with your crush beforehand,
shooting them a message and asking them out is gonna come out of nowhere and it's gonna
come off kind of weird.
It's far better to lose the battle if it means potentially winning the war.
That means that you're better off not sending your crush a clunky text message kind of out
of nowhere asking them to hang out which is only going to make things weird because on
the other end they're only thinking why didn't this person talk to me in person?
Why are they messaging me out of nowhere and I don't really know them, why would I want
to hang out with them?
You don't want those questions running through their minds because when you start the next
school year they're going to remember back to the time that you awkwardly asked them
out and they're gonna think "Man, that was weird".
Instead if you've really missed the opportunity to ask out your crush, take this time to work
on your own self growth.
Focus on your hobbies or interests.
Spend your summer really developing yourself so when you come back to school, your crush
can see that you're a completely new person.
The beginning of the school year presents an opportunity for you to put your confidence
on display.
To show people that you've really grown, and that you've grown up so when it's finally
time to ask out your crush when you start school again, you'll be prepared and ready
to do it.
What do you think though, are you hanging on to these last few moments trying to think
of a way to ask out your crush before the school year ends?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
Otherwise thank you so much for watching, I hope you enjoyed this video.
If you did, hit the thumbs up button.
And definitely check out the videos over there on the side because I go way more in-depth
on the end of the school year, how to prepare for high school, how to prepare for college,
anything that you're getting ready to do.
I've done videos most likely so check those videos out and I'll see you guys tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.