Today I want to give you five easy steps
to build your self confidence.
So stay tuned. (Intro Music)
I get many questions about what do I do,
I feel really bad about myself. And I want
to give you some easy steps to building
your own self confidence. Because when
we believe in ourselves and we know
that we can do things and we can
achieve things, we actually do. There are
honestly so many other ways, I'm only
giving you five today, but there are so
many other ways that we can work to
build our self confidence. So if any of
you have tips that you'd like to leave,
let me know below. And make sure to
share this video, because the more we
spread this, the more self confidence we
can bring to people. Right. And that's
amazing. So without further a do,
number 1: Groom yourself, dress nicely.
You'd be surprised how much better we
feel about ourselves when we are
showered, when we are wearing an outfit
that we feel good in. And I know this
seems like specific to girls, but guys are
the same. If you are clean shaven, you're
wearing a nice outfit, and you're headed
in somewhere, and you feel like I am
ready to kick some ass. There's
something about being dressed nicely,
being clean and groomed that makes us
feel so much better about ourselves.
And that's something that is actually
pretty easy to take care of.
Number two: Think Positively
I talk all the time about having that
negative voice and that positive voice,
but let's actually do it. We have to kill
those negative thoughts. We can't let
them live in our lives all the time. And
taking notice of how often we're thinking
negative things, like "I can't do this.
This is terrible. It's never gonna work.
Blah, blah, blah." The longer we spend
feeling bad about ourselves. So stop it!
Notice! Think positive! Be like, "I can.
I'm amazing. This is gonna happen,
because I want it to." And if we can turn
around those negative thoughts, and we
can squash them, get rid of them, and
turn them into positive. We'll not only
feel better and like have an air of
confidence about ourselves, we'll also
get so much more accomplished. And we'll
actually start achieving our goals.
Now number three, right off of number
two is Act Positive. Sometimes the quote
that I use a lot is "Fake it 'til you make
it." Because often times by volunteering,
by getting out and spending time with
people who build us up, and being
friendly to people. Be generous. Be
welcoming to people at the coffee shop.
"Oh hi, let me get that door for you.
Thank you so much. You're so nice. Oh
that made my day." Being friendly to
other people and acting in a positive
manner can totally turn it around for us.
And I even have that experience in my
life. If I get up and I'm running late and
I go to the coffee shop. And it's not ...
like the other day, they're like drip
coffee only, uhhh. I don't like drip coffee.
I drove extra to go over here and get this
coffee from you, and now you can't make
it. And I could have really let myself
feel really bad, but instead I decided to
act positively. Open the door for this
little lady. "Hi, good morning, good to
see you, hope you have a good day."
And my day turned around. So if you
can't make it, we can fake it. It's okay.
Number four: Get prepared.
You don't want to go somewhere, to a
test or to an interview or meet new
people without feeling prepared for it.
This can be anything from like me taking
my licensing exam. I studied my ass off.
I took practice exams. I took practice
quizzes. I practiced practice flash card
flash card, so that I felt prepared.
Because often times we almost set
ourselves up to feel bad. Like we will go
into an interview, and we'll stress about
it. And we won't even do anything to
prepare for it. And then we sit there and
they ask us questions. And we don't
know what to say. That just recapitulates
that negative thinking. And so we'll keep
thinking "Ya, see I am a dumb idiot." But
you're not. We're not. We just weren't
prepared. So whatever it is that you're
going to do, even if you're going to a
friend's house, and you know you're
going to go out that night bring a couple
of pairs of clothes that you feel good in.
Like I said in number one, dressing nice.
You want to prepare for it. You want to
make sure you get enough sleep,
because you're gonna be out late.
Maybe, you know, there are things we
can do to prepare ourselves for success.
And the more prepared we are, the better
we'll feel about ourselves.
And the final, number five, the final tip
to building better self confidence is
setting small goals and achieving them.
Now this doesn't mean get an "A" in
science or land that new job. Those
are not small goals. Small goals are
make each one of these things a habit:
this week I'm gonna shower and dress
nicely 3 days. The today I'm gonna make
sure that I'm friendly to one person.
Those are small goals, because guess
what? When we achieve those small
goals we feel even better about
ourselves. And we're like "Yeah, yeah,
put a check in that box, that thing that
I was gonna do this week" So each week
I encourage you to set small goals
working towards the things that I just
mentioned. So whether it's I'm gonna get
out of bed, I'm going to shower, and I'm
going to care how I look. I'm going to
dress nice. Two days. One days.
Whatever it is. I'm going to be nice to
one person. I'm going to get out and
prepare for that test that's coming up in
two weeks. Today I'm going to prepare
for thirty minutes. Whatever it is, set
those small goals, because each time
you achieve them, you'll feel better and
better. And I promise, if we're working
together and we're working these tools,
we will start to feel better about
ourselves. And then, the world is our
oyster. Right. We can do whatever we want.
And we're a force to be reckoned with.
So keep checking back. Keep liking
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and I'll see you next time.
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And I almost forgot, what other tips and
tricks do you have? What helps build
your self confidence? Leave your
comments below, and let's get this
conversation started.
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