﻿Secret To Bromance [0:00:00]
Aaron: I don’t want to tell them your dirty little secret.
Antonio: I – I do have a lot of dirty secrets. Aaron: [laughs] First time I met him,
I thought, really? What do you see
is not necessarily what you get. Antonio: All right, guys. Today,
I’m going to be talking about the secret bromance that I have with this guy.
You guys know Alpha M. And for years, you know, you guys have seen us popping in the videos.
We’ve had businesses together. We still had businesses together.
Aaron: Yeah. Antonio: And in
today’s video, we are going to reveal why our relationship works, right? [sound effect]
Aaron: Our bromance is strong. Let’s do it. Antonio: Let’s do it.
[Music] All right. So, first up, we’ve got, yeah, we’ve got...
Aaron: Loyalty, the Godfather. Antonio: Yeah. So, loyalty, I know
for guys especially me, you know, this is just something that we prized that’s important. And...
Aaron: Let me give – let me give you some examples. I’m not going to mention names.
Antonio: Okay. Yeah. Aaron: So, over the
course of our illustrious bromance, we have had different people come into
our lives that may not have been amazing or done something to us individually.
Well, this one time I remember, you know, who it was and you were upset. You were like, hey,
this guy that I thought was my friend is kind of, you know, he was kind of saying some hurtful...
Antonio: And this was a mutual friend. Aaron: It was a mutual friend. And so, I basically
was like this is complete bull [bleeping sound] and – sorry, I’m – it’s unacceptable. And so, what
I did being his friend like it was unacceptable and so, I went to this person and was, did I copy
you on the email? You saw what I said... Antonio: I think he’d be cc’d.
Aaron: Yeah. Anyway, I handled it because I knew that he wasn’t going to, but as a good
friend and somebody that you love and respect, you don’t want other people talking trash.
Now, if there was something, you know, stupid or he did something, you know, that he deserved...
Antonio: Well, even then. Aaron: Even then.
Antonio: If you get in a fight, you want someone that’s got your back even if you
are in the wrong. Aaron: But,
same thing. I’m going to say like reciprocated. Antonio: Yeah.
Aaron: There was a situation with me that happened over some – over some watches.
Antonio: Yes. Aaron: And, it was I did this
like MVMT, you know, versus Rolex... Antonio: You mess with this guy,
you mess with me. Aaron: Exactly.
Antonio: And that’s, you know, we like to that people have our backs. And this guy,
I just simply won’t do interviews with him, I won’t talk to him simply because
he did not treat my friend with respect. Aaron: And that’s the other thing. You know,
when – when you have a strong relationship, it’s just about like I trust Antonio
like – is trust another one or no? Antonio: No, no, trust, yeah.
Aaron: Okay. So, that’s the other thing,
like I trust – I could go to Antonio and say, “Antonio, I need...”
Antonio: He told me where he hides his money. Aaron: Exactly. I said, I, you know,
I can give it to him for anything. I can – I trust you ten thousand percent.
Antonio: I taught him how to shoot a gun. Aaron: And I can’t say that for everybody,
right? There aren’t that many people that I know hundred percent, like I know that there is one
person that I could go to that would take care of business. Anything I needed, don’t even ask.
Antonio, I need you here tomorrow. Antonio: Oh, and by the way, this guy is
going to be the godfather to my daughter... Aaron: The godfather.
Antonio: That’s right. Aaron: Now, because you’re
in – you live in a geographically undesirable location, you can’t say that...
Antonio: [laughs] Aaron: I would get there, but I would probably
try to solve it with cash first. [laughs] Antonio: The next key to a solid bromance,
having things in common. Things that you guys can talk about, things that
you can commiserate together when they’re not going your way, things that, yeah, you get maybe
it’s going to be food, maybe it’s going to be wine. It can be a love of animals, right, Frank?
Frank, give me a kiss. [kissing sound] It could be a love of art. I know this is
something that’s really near and dear to Aaron. Something that he’s actually gotten me into.
I’ve started actually collecting a few pieces [Prince] here.
I know I’ve got particular friends that they love to go to the shooting range and
this is something that I shared just going in and putting some lead in on the target.
Maybe it’s spending quality time in the gym. In fact, this is one of the best ones out there,
spending time taking care of your body and look at that. He has got a smith machine.
Let’s not make fun of him. Seriously, though, Aaron is an
ama – he’s in great shape. I mean, inspired by this guy here. He has actually won
bodybuilding competitions. And I reached out to Aaron for advice when it comes to
getting in a better shape and improving my diet. Next up, we’ve got dreams in common. This is
different than just interest in common. This is you looking forward. If you have big ambitions,
you want to go out there and change the world, you want to start a nonprofit,
you want to start a business, you want to go out and go be the first person in your family
to go to college, then you want to surround yourself and you want to have friends with people
that are also ambitious and going after things. Because if you surround yourself with people that
are either negative or, you know, even harder people that are happy with the status quo.
Again, you can have some great friends that are fine just keeping things steady. But,
some of you guys that gone onto great things have had to leave your circle of friends.
Yeah, they decided, hey, you know what? I am fine staying around, do you want to go grad school,
you wanted to move to a new city and start something differently?
[0:05:01] So, make sure that you’ve got dreams in common. This really helps when,
yeah, especially if you’re ambitious because you feed off each other and it’s just great, it works
out well. Otherwise, that person is going to be like a vampire and just zap energy from you.
All right. So, next up, we’re talking about the importance of equality in a friendship basically
that there is give and take, but people in a sense are both contributing to the relationship, right?
Aaron: Exactly. You know, I’ve had “friendships”, where it was either me doing all the work
and, you know, really nurturing that relationship or the other person and I really wasn’t
very involved. I wasn’t getting the value. But, with Antonio and I, it’s equal. Like, I call
him the bitch as much as he calls me the bitch. And, it’s, you know, we always are bringing,
you know, kind of like, you know, the same amount of energy and passion to,
you know, our – our conversations and our friendship. So, I think, yeah, equality.
Antonio: As you can see we are doing a pregnancy test together.
Aaron: [laughs] Antonio: What do you think?
Aaron: I think – I think... Antonio: Aaron is not pregnant.
Aaron: I’m not pregnant and I think – I think – I think we’re good. I think we’re good.
I think it’s been at least like 15 minutes. Antonio: Yeah. Well, let’s talk about sacrifice.
This is something it’s not sexy, but it is I think when you’ve got a real
friendship when you’ve got a real connection with someone, you’re willing to go the extra
mile or you’re able to do things for them. I mean, I don’t really consider this as a
sacrifice, it’s actually vey enjoyable coming to see you.
Aaron: Yeah. Antonio: But, there are certain
things like I sacrifice time, I sacrifice – we have to take COVID test, all that other fun stuff,
but it’s worth it. When you have someone you care about, you’ve got someone that you’ve
got a bromance with, you’ve got just a deep friendship, you are not afraid to give up
time to maybe even loan that person money with no expectation of return. You’re just willing
to sacrifice for the other person. I mean... Aaron: Yeah. Sacrifice, I don’t know if sacrifice
is – I don’t know that I would qualify that as a component of a bromance. I think that...
Antonio: A little bit of dis – and being able to say what you want to say, you know, being a
straight shooter, I appreciate that about Aaron. Aaron: Sacrifice. [Sigh] It was a sacrifice
for me to come out to meet you because I hated you. [laughs]
Antonio: He did. He did. Aaron: Like, who is this?
Antonio: I mean, he just couldn’t stand next to me because he’s like, man, the guy
is so much better looking than me. Aaron: [laughs] That was it. I’m like,
God, I can’t – I can’t stand this. But, no, I don’t that sacrifice – for me,
I don’t think it’s about sacrifice. When you’re in a friendship and, you know,
or any relationship, it’s not sacrifice. Yes, you’re going to have situations that you are
going to have to, you know, do things that might be a little bit inconvenient. Perfect example,
my wife, right? Her mother is – it’s tough right now because she has dementia,
she’s in a home and every other day, I’ll go over take time out of my day take time out of my,
you know, my busy schedule to go and make sure that she’s okay.
I’m not necessarily doing it for her, I’m doing it for the person that I love, my wife,
because, you know, that’s what you do. It’s any healthy relationship is going to just be
something where people – you’re going to just – it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice, it just feels like
this is what you do for people that you love. Antonio: What do you guys think?
Let us know down in the comments below. I know that we missed some points on what
makes for a great bromance. But, I just want to give you guys a little bit of insight...
Aaron: Being able to laugh. Antonio: [laugh]
Aaron: Another one is a big one for me, right? Because here’s the thing,
if you don’t have like the ability to laugh yourself or a similar sort of sense of humor
or if one person takes the other – or the one person takes themselves like super seriously
and the other person is a little bit more... Antonio: I do take myself seriously.
Aaron: It’s – you’ve got to have, you know, sense of humor I think is part of it. You know,
we laugh all the time about stupid things that we do, stupid things that other people
do. Most of the time, what other people do because they’re stupid. [laughs]
Anyway, I think sense of humor for me is a big one. I’ve got to be able to laugh with
the person that I’m close with and so, for me sense of humor is one.
Antonio: I do feel that we complement each other, Aaron. I have to say that you are a great talker
and I’m probably a better listener. Aaron: Yeah. I don’t want to
tell them your dirty little secret. Antonio: I do have a lot of dirty secrets.
Aaron: [laughs] Antonio: But that’s another thing is...
Aaron: I won’t tell you, but Antonio, oh, the first time I met him, I thought,
really? What you see is not necessarily what you get in terms of – he comes across...
Antonio: Let’s just think that if I wasn’t doing Real Men Real Style, I’d be doing Real
Men Real Freaky. Aaron: [laughs]
Antonio: Like, and for some reason he finds it just odd that I actually...
Aaron: Yeah. This one you got to watch out for. Ladies, ladies, be careful.
Antonio: Hey, I’m a married man, but, yes, I love the ladies.
Aaron: [laughs] [Music]
[0:10:00] Jeff: So, a little earlier you talked about
loyalty. What I want to hit on is respect. Now, loyalty to me that feels like something you’re
obligated to do because this person has a certain position in your life, you’re going to do certain
things because you feel like you have to to keep the relation – relationship intact. But, it’s not
necessarily something you maybe want to do. But, respect, I believe is different because
you admire the person. What they think mean something to you, you value the friendship.
You don’t want to do anything to throw the relationship off because that person means
something to you. This is your guy. If you weren’t friends anymore, there’ll be a void.
And that’s the little small thing that’s different with male relationships. We know we push things
too far and disrespect each other, there’s always a low level threat of violence. If you push things
too far for me, there’s a chance I might haul off and punch you in your face. I’m going to respect
you, I’m going to respect your boundaries, and I’m going to respect what’s important to you.
So, like I said, with loyalty, it’s something you feel obligated with, but if I respect you
as a friend, I admire you, what you think, how you feel, your boundaries, and what’s important
to you are important to me as well. Antonio: I think we’ve got it, you know.
[overlapping conversation] And I just happen to be here in Atlanta
and I’m happy that I got to see you. Jeff: Amen. I’ve been so excited to
see you. It’s been a long time. When you have bromance, you got to keep them going,
you got to make sure you make those connections. Antonio: That’s right, guys.
Jeff: And value your friend because you never know what can happen.
Antonio: True. Jeff: And true friendships are
very valuable and you got to put the effort to cultivate them and keep them going.
Antonio: Yeah. Well, you got to have – I don’t have
anyone for you to give a salute to, but, yeah. Jeff: But, hey, audience in general, you know you
guys Antonio’s viewers are some of my viewers. I respect you guys like I respect Antonio. So,
what you do as a sign of respect, you salute. Antonio: Awesome. Take care, guys.
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