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- Have you ever developed feelings for a co-star
or hooked up after filming?
(Ana laughing)
Ooh.
Ooh!
Yes, the tea is hot (laughing).
(keyboard typing) (chill music)
(boxes popping)
(Ana laughing)
How many people have you had sex with?
Do you know the number?
Oh (beep).
No (laughing).
- Over 100 people I think.
I mean, I guess it's not a lot, is it?
I don't know (laughing).
I've lost all perspective.
- I have a list in my phone.
Okay, the number right now is at 69.
- I'm sorry, guys.
I have no idea.
At first I was like all proud
but now I'm ashamed to say that.
'Cause you have sex so much
you'll literally walk to a person and be like,
"Hey, nice to meet you."
And they'll be like, "No, we had sex last week."
And then you'll be like, "Oh, I'm so sorry."
- How different is your personal sex life
from your on-camera sex life?
My sex life off camera is definitely more intimate.
Like I can actually touch them
and feel them on my chest and everything.
We don't have to worry about
letting the camera see all the action.
- Of course you enjoy the sex and you want to enjoy the sex,
but at the end of the day, it's all a performance.
- 90% of the things I do on camera
I do not wanna do in my room.
I'm not like swinging off of a Tarzan vine
and back-flipping onto him or anything like that.
- If something feels good
and like you feel like you want to finish, you can.
If you're filming, it's like, wait,
we still have two more positions to do.
- I'm kind of having sex backwards.
I'm opening up for angles so you guys can see the light
and the camera guy can see what's going on.
You're not in a private, personal setting.
- My sex life is a much more intimate life.
I think it's more of a feeling
than it is what you actually see.
Being able to cry maybe during sex
or maybe even just feeling very vulnerable during sex.
I don't necessarily go to that space a lot
within my pornography
because I'm not sure people actually wanna see that.
Most people just wanna see sex (laughing).
- You'll have good sex on set
but you don't get to really build it up to the point that
you're getting to really know a person intimately.
Like you get to go out, you get to have drinks,
you get to eat with a person,
you get to get to know them.
That's the fun part.
That's the experience.
And then eventually, if, this is the difference,
if you want to have sex, you can.
- How has your job affected your sex life?
Has it ruined it?
(Ana laughing)
No.
I feel like my job gave me like superpowers.
Because of my job, I'm super open,
so I feel like it's easier
to get to that point in the relationship
of like breaking down all those sexual barriers
and just jumping into the fun stuff.
- In the beginning of my career
I kind of got in this mindset where I was like
if I'm not getting paid to have sex, I'm not doing it.
This is my job.
I am now professional.
And when you do something professional
you're getting paid for it forever.
And then I fell in love.
(woman laughing)
- Well,
this isn't very expected of most people,
but I'm actually asexual.
So I don't have much of a sex life in general.
It's like your partner liking football and you not.
So you'll go to a football game with him occasionally,
but it's not like you're gonna be going to football games
by yourself or all the time.
It was a really big decision to come out as asexual.
That immediately can drop your amount of subscribers
or followers.
I mean, the entire idea of the adult industry
is to construct a fantasy.
And that fantasy is destroyed when you tell people
you aren't sexually interested in (beep) them (laughing).
- I'm starting to believe now I'm asexual
because I don't wanna have sex with anybody
at this point (laughing).
I think I'm starting to become numb.
I don't know what to tell you.
But...
When I entered in the sex industry, I was 18,
and I first started off as an escort.
I was having like sex with almost six guys a day.
And now that I'm 23,
I feel like I've hit a wall when it comes to sex.
It takes a lot to get me horny.
And I think that has a lot to do
with me seeing so many sex partners when I was younger.
So
yeah,
I think that's what it is.
- How often is the sex on screen
actually pleasurable for you?
Are the orgasms real?
It was really rare
and I couldn't even tell you the scenes that I actually did
because I was so focused on performing.
- To be honest, I would probably say 40% (laughing).
- I thought you were supposed to fake it.
So I would just go in there and be like, wah!
Tomato, I don't know (laughing).
- How I wanna answer this is yes, yes, yes.
As a porn consumer, I notice when people aren't connecting
and that doesn't turn me on.
So for me, my co-star, whoever I'm working with,
we have to have a sexual connection.
I would say almost every single one of my scenes
I have actually had a real orgasm.
I'm not gonna bring you on set and not orgasm (laughing).
I'm not wasting that time.
- Of course, I'm a guy.
So we have to really orgasm or else we don't get paid.
- If you can't finish, then they'll fake it for you.
So it'd be like a tube
and you would like shoot out like fake (beep).
Every shoot like I've ever done
like at least one point we had to like stop,
eat something or like drink water
or like something to like get us back in the spirits.
- Do you watch porn now for pleasure,
or does it feel like work?
I'm a full on porn consumer (laughing).
Now that we have COVID.
I'm just kidding, but actually.
- First of all, it can't be a studio porn.
Like if I know that Brazzers or Evil Angel did it,
I'm not watching it (laughing).
So it has to be amateur.
I have to believe that it was real.
(woman laughing)
- It's funny that you ask.
The only reason why I don't watch porn
is because I'm asexual.
I just don't have any particular interest in it.
- My co-stars, they're great looking people,
but I don't know,
I feel weird watching them have sex (laughing).
I'm like, I got to film with this person tomorrow.
I just had coffee with this person.
It's kind of like watching your cousin have sex.
Like you don't wanna watch your cousin have sex (laughing).
- I'll be watching a porn
and I'm really judgmental on the guys.
I'm like, what's he doing?
He's not opening up.
I can't see what's going on.
Oh, I'm gonna change this video.
This guy's not opening up.
- [Interviewer] Do you ever re-watch your own scenes
you've done?
- I re-watch my own scenes to critique myself.
And that is it (laughing).
- For pleasure, I usually watch my own
because I remember the sensation and the feeling.
- Yeah.
Yeah, I do, but it's kind of weird.
Like I'm watching them to make sure that I did good,
like viewable for people trying to
get their jollies off (laughing).
- How do you protect yourself from STIs and pregnancy?
I know girls who are just on birth control
and I know girls who are not on birth control
and they just don't shoot when they're ovulating.
- We get tested so often (laughing).
Every 14 days,
and then sometimes it's like more frequently
than every 14 days.
- Not to say that we don't catch the
couple little bacterial infections here and there.
It's kind of part of the job.
But we try to be very careful with it.
- My sets are only safe sex.
So I'm condom only.
We clean our sets.
I mean, I've been to sets that are pretty scary.
I'm not gonna lie to you.
But sets I use and where I shoot,
we always make sure everything is clean.
We make sure everything is comfortable.
- Have you ever developed feelings for a co-star
or hooked up after filming?
(Ana laughing)
Ooh.
Ooh!
Yes, the tea is hot (laughing).
The majority of the people are pretty hot,
so it's hard not to.
- Yeah.
- It was actually the first guy that I filmed with.
So (laughing)
I had like this huge crush on him.
I was just amazed by the way he threw it on me (laughing).
- I have seen problems happen between,
oh yes.
Jealousy, I've seen it happen.
If the partner isn't shooting with their own partner,
or all of a sudden the other partner who's in porn
doesn't want the other partner to do porn anymore.
- Probably not.
My job is a full-time job
and it's a real relief to be able to be with someone
that takes me away from that a little.
- What's the worst part of the job?
I always tell this to people.
I wouldn't change anything about my job.
I would change the way people and society view my job.
- I know girls who just got a brand new apartment
and moved in there
and they found out what they did, their neighbors.
And then they like send their pictures
to everybody in the complex
and be like, oh, this girl does porn.
Make sure you watch out for her.
Like stuff like that really does happen.
- The mainstream in the world hates pornography.
And I'm not sure if we'll ever be accepted.
And also the fact that I'm a man who has a vagina,
so that's a whole other level.
But what I do is I fight against it.
Porn would not be as big as it is
if people didn't consume it.
This is what I keep trying to tell the world.
- Society hasn't accepted adult entertainers yet.
And it really limits what I can do with my future.
I'm a violinist
and it was part of my life goals
to conduct a high school orchestra one day.
I can't do that anymore.
That is sacrifice.
That is gone.
The next job interview I go for after this
I might not get it
just because the fact
my nudes are on the internet (laughing).
- How is the topic of consent handled on set?
Very important.
- Oh, I love this question.
Thank you for asking that question.
Earlier on, porn was not about consent.
We didn't have these regimented rules that we have today.
People would just show up, have sex.
If the girl didn't wanna do anal, tough, you're doing anal.
I mean, there's been lots of that happening.
So that doesn't happen as much anymore.
- When you're on set,
there's like a checklist of like what you agree to do.
And like you talk with the director and your partner.
Consent is like my favorite thing
and I think it's hot.
Like one of my scenes the other day,
like the guy was like, "Can I do this to your vagina?"
And I was like, "Can I do this to your penis?"
- I get asked to do
a lot of really, really bizarre, outrageous things.
The list is just a mile long (laughing).
Role play involving race,
or rape play,
I'm not comfortable with that.
I got a lot of requests for custom orders
from white supremacists.
I practice a philosophy called enthusiastic consent.
So unless I'm absolutely enthusiastic to post it,
I do not create it.
- [Interviewer] Have you been in experiences
where boundaries were maybe crossed for you?
- Definitely.
And I think like I played a part in that
mostly because I wasn't aware
of how to like articulate my boundaries,
or wasn't aware of what my boundaries were.
I would just like agree to everything
without like asking what that entails.
- Yeah, I was.
And I felt like it was a setup.
And the crazy thing was
I was excited to shoot for that company
because they're one of the biggest companies on Pornhub.
And I felt really comfortable.
I'm like, okay, the makeup artist is here.
This other assistant, she's here.
Usually when there's women on set
I really let my guard down.
And me and the director
we started taking photos
and I noticed the house got quiet.
And I asked the director,
I was like, "Where are the two women?"
He was like, "Oh, they left."
And when me and him started filming, he was so rough.
And um...
I am...
I am a victim of rape,
so like the things that he was doing,
my body just like shut down.
And it was just so painful having sex with him.
By the time I got home, I was just so tired and exhausted
and I locked myself in my room for like two days
because I couldn't believe what I had gone through.
- Do you ever worry about
the way the porn industry portrays sex?
Yes (laughing).
The biggest critique I have about the porn industry
is it lacks any sense of intimacy, any sense of realness.
- This may be an unpopular opinion,
but I think that tube sites are a bad thing.
The free porn world
is putting out
scenes
and it's so easy for children to just get on these sites
and to
"learn"
from porn scenes.
- Just for me as a performer
I really wanted to see more realistic sex
instead of something like, "Hi, my name's Tiffany."
And then like anal sex ensues, you know?
Like it's a fantasy, not realistic.
- You don't see the behind the scenes,
the discussion between the scene partners.
And I wish
us as porn stars,
like we would be more open
and tell people like, hey, we gave consent for this.
It's not okay to pick up a random girl at a bar
and spit in her mouth and slap her (laughing).
- I feel in straight porn, it's a lot more aggressive.
The woman is like always submissive.
And I just feel like that's rooted in
so much like hatred for women and like misogyny,
like a woman has to do what the man wants
and like make him feel good.
- I think the porn industry
is becoming a lot more diversified now
and I'm really excited to see how platforms like OnlyFans
adds a sense of realness back into adult material.
- We're producing for you,
the consumer who wants to watch it.
We are in no way wanting children to watch it.
We don't even think it's sex ed.
It's a fantasy.
It's fun.
So for me, my work has always been activism.
And so really putting it out there and saying, look,
I enjoy my life.
I enjoy sex.
People enjoy watching me have sex.
It's a consensual thing
between adults who are having a great time
and giving it to you to watch
to have a great time too.
I don't worry about it,
but I do think the more we talk about it
it'll be less stigmatized.
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