Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. And we've done a couple of videos over the past
few months on pedestals and why you don't want to be putting the men you date on a pedestal.
But I haven't yet actually explained how to not do that. So that's what I'm going through today.
It's seven ways to stop putting guys on pedestals, really useful strategies. Don't
forget to download the 12 Texts to Make Him Yours and I'll see you on the other side of this.
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All right. How to stop putting guys on a pedestal? As we spoke about in the previous videos,
if you put someone up on a pedestal, they tend to end up looking down on you. And that's
not what you want when you want a man to respect you and be attracted to you. So the first
thing you want to do is change your language. The language you use to describe your experience
becomes your experience. You'll notice that throughout this video, I use words like goof,
dork, doofus. Start to use these as your internal language to think about him and the language
you use to describe him around your friends. When you use this language, you're naturally
going to feel like that guy is less up on a pedestal and much more on your level.
Number two, humanize him. See him for the human that he really is he farts. He gets insecure.
He falls over just like everyone else, and he knows it.
When you can see that in him, not only will he feel like you're not putting him up on
a pedestal, he'll feel like you know him better than everyone else because he knows that's who he is too.
Number three, make fun of yourself. The ability to make fun of yourself and demonstrate
that, "Hey, I know I'm not perfect" shows that you're not trying to be perfect in front of him.
It's a human interacting with another human rather than two people trying to impress
each other who are up on these pedestals. That's going to bring the whole thing down
and make you both feel more down to earth. So whether you do something silly, whether
you send him a dumb text, whether you spill food on yourself, whether you fall over, point
it out, make fun of yourself for it. Have a laugh about it, and the guy's going to know
that you're not putting him on a pedestal.
Number four, make fun of him. So in the same token as making fun of yourself, when you
make fun of him, it shows you're not putting him on a pedestal. Now, you don't want to force it,
but the guy's going to say some silly stuff. So call him on it. Take the piss out
of him for it. He's going to fall over at times. Tease him about it, and he's going
to talk about video games. Call him a nerd and laugh at him a little bit. Do it in a
playful manner, but don't be afraid to call him out and have a laugh at him when he does
something silly or says something that's dorky. The guy's gonna appreciate it, and he's going
to know you're not putting him on a pedestal.
Number five, remember you have options too.
When you put someone up on a pedestal, it's easy to believe that he or she has all the
options, could get any person they want, and we're sitting down here with no options or
one option feeling like they have all the power.
The reality is, it's just not true. No matter who he is, I guarantee he doesn't have all
the options in the world and no matter who you are, I guarantee you have more options
than you think you do. In fact, I would bet that if you and him went to go out to a bar
and try to get more numbers, I reckon you'd beat him pretty solidly. So it's very easy
to forget how many options we have in these pedestal situations. So make sure that you're
going, "No, actually, I have options too. I know this is an attractive guy, but if he
does walk away, there's places I can go and people I can meet as well."
Number six, encourage him to have fun without you. So this is a simple little thing you can do that most women
totally fail at that clearly demonstrates you not putting the guy on a pedestal.
So when you meet up with a man for the first time, first couple of times he's going to
be talking about people he's meeting and sometimes he might be talking about women that he's
going to meet up with, not necessarily in a dating sense, but it could be a woman that
messaged him on Instagram for a business opportunity or a group of women that he goes out with
at work, and he'll talk about what he's doing and be excited for those situations.
Now, most women who are putting that guy on a pedestal won't be that enthusiastic to hear that.
They might say, "Oh yeah, that's great," and then change the subject. But they won't show actual,
real enthusiasm for that. When you share real enthusiasm, when you show you a genuinely
excited for the opportunity that he has to meet people and you encourage it and you say,
"That's great, like, you'll have so much fun with her."
"I hope you have a great night out." "Oh, it sounds like a great business opportunity."
The guy instantly goes, "Wow, she's not at all threatened by this. Who is this woman? This is amazing!"
And number seven, call him on his bullshit. Is there any better way to show that
you're not putting someone on a pedestal than to simply look them in the eyes,
tell them you disagree, and explain why. Make a point when you disagree, uh calling a guy
out on it, and he's going to respect it, and he's going to know that you're not putting him on a pedestal.
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