I never felt like I could fully own my
label is it bisexual for a bunch of
reasons one when I was 11 or 12 I had a
crush on a girl and I told my friend and
she was like Ana you're just trying to
be interesting so I have internalized
that I'm just a straight girl trying to
be interesting to bisexuality is a
spectrum and for the most part I mean my
pie chart leans more towards being
attracted to men so it felt weird to say
I was bisexual if I mostly felt
attracted to men and finally I'd never
been physical with the woman so how can
you really affirm your bisexuality if
you've never gotten down and dirty with
the lady and then a few things happened
for one I talked to some amazing queer
women like Ashley Perez and Gaby Dunn
and Stevie Bobby who basically said if
you're attracted to both sexes you're
bisexual doesn't matter where your
percentages are it doesn't matter if
you've been with a girl if you like both
you like both and then I was physically
with the woman do women at the same time
my shoulder just kidding I love and
respect those women very much and
finally I got drunk and I won an award
at buffer festival and when I was
allowed to engrave this award I did this
and then I promptly sent it to my
parents because I figured it's easier
news to stomach for Asian parents if
it's engraved on an award and I always
thought I wasn't going to come out
publicly because for one I don't want to
get to monetize on YouTube and to
because I made this really embarrassing
video years ago about how it was okay
for me to kiss the same-sex when I was
in a relationship because end of the day
ain't gonna and trying to be really fun
but then I got drunk at the streamys and
won another award please please please
vote people need us more than ever
marginalized groups need us more than
ever I'm not only a woman of color but
I'm also a queer woman so please get out
to the polls and vote thank you thank
you very much so there you have it I can
only come out with my sexuality when I'm
inebriated and winning in some capacity
it's very anticlimactic anyway here's
what my parents had to say about me
being bi how do you feel well I'm not a
participant but none of my business I'm
open to it
I don't care thank you personally no no
not me I got a lot of cousins that
spins and gay so I grew up knowing about
it so there's no big deal how do you
feel about bisexuality no big deal
either I wish it ran in the family did
you really go out with a girl yes oh I
didn't know that so those song that I
kiss a girl I kissed a girl and I liked
it
that's true not really a little long as
they're nice as long as you're happy I
really don't care do you believe in
polyamory what is that I don't know what
that means I would have to believe it
from the fact that it exists in a lot of
cultures Mormons they have believed in
polygamy the Muslims believe in polygamy
and I've met quite a few on both sides
that are very happy with multiple
partners well if it works for them and
it's not my business I don't care but
you are monogamous meaning just one
person yes
about it I've already broached the
question with your mother that is not a
topic for discussion ever no no
this is for the record I have to say no
no but I did like my teacher before in
high school she's really pretty like her
but not like a bit I love the way your
face looks I have looked at men I
thought I bet women would literally like
him based on the way he looks but that's
as far as it goes no no I just want to
do it with Daddy and nobody else know
I'm kind of a little old fashioned I
think what do you think when I say
message I thought it was photoshopped
yes because I didn't think that's
something that they would present to you
on stage in front of the cameras and
much other people well I didn't get it
at first so I didn't know what the head
was like what is this be bi or what I
put the hat or a bi and that's why I was
like a sonic a bi daddy goes I don't
know surprised not really I mean not
that I suspected or anything but it
wasn't shocking I'm just like you
telling me about an address
bye bye like I said as long as you're
happy I'm happy for you don't you find a
good partner I think a partner that
would love you take care of you not hurt
you
I think that's
that's all parents want for their kids
just to be happy we didn't mention it
you talk mean the mother didn't know
what it meant I kind of explained a
little bit did I have to go yeah no I
don't have to go that's the person it
doesn't matter if you're woman with a
woman over the guy you know I mean like
I said you just have to be in love
you're happy with them and as long as
that partner is good you know could beat
you good for you
and respect each other I don't see any
problem with it
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hi Timmy
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