A popular TikToker is getting a lot of heat,
her name is Rose and the reason why she's getting some
hate is because she has referred to herself as a stay at home girlfriend.
Her boyfriend apparently has a very well paying job, he works in finance,
and so her lifestyle is, I'm not gonna lie a little bit of a dream.
Let's give you an example of that.
>> Day in the life of a 26 year old housewife.
So today I got up and went for a little walk, got some coffee,
did a little grocery shop, stocked up the fridge.
And replenished my toiletries and my boyfriend's toiletries and
restock the bathroom.
Then I put the little eggs inside their little egg house and
I cut the coffee and filled up the coffee jar.
Then I folded yesterday's laundry, did some more laundry, mop the floors,
vacuum the carpet and watered all the plants.
Cleaned all of my makeup brushes, had a little lunch and tidied up, did a bit
more laundry, had another coffee, then my boyfriend finally got home.
So we went for a little date at the arcade and I've been traveling that week, so
I was really tired.
I had a bath and some wine and
then we actually had a Chinese takeaway that night at the end.
>> Let me just note for the record, she does a lot of laundry right?
Like it's not like she's laying around eating bonbons, listening to or
watching The Real Housewives of New York City, right?
Like she's working.
>> Yeah. >> But
it's unpaid work, Let me just note that and it's also work that doesn't really
translate to something that you could put on a resume and get a job later in life.
If it turns out that relationship doesn't work out.
Like I'm actually, look, I have no problem with staying home anything like if
you want to stay at home girlfriend, do you boo?
I'm worried about her future though.
>> Yeah, so that's definitely the heart of the conversation, but
first let's continue to have fun.
That coffee jar, like in the mornings to describe how crazy and
hectic my life is because I run the company and I do the show, right?
And it's a giant show, we've got to get ready for it,
there's no teleprompters, right?
So I accidentally bought too strong coffee that you have to grind,
they are both kinds.
>> Why would you do that? >> I just screwed up when I was ordering.
Okay, toostrongcoffee.com/TYT.
Okay, Citrus is my new favorite, anyway, but I have to grind it and
grinding it takes like an extra 30 seconds.
I don't know.
Okay, so I'm like, my God, it's an extra 30 seconds, I gotta go, I gotta go.
She's got all the time in the world.
She is grinding the coffee, she put it in a coffee jar, she got an egg house.
There's no need for the egg house, they're perfectly fine in their container.
Maybe they're happier in that egg house.
I don't know, look at how cute that egg houses?
I want an egg house.
So that wasn't in that video.
But in the rest of the articles that I read about it while I was grinding my
coffee, she explains like when my boyfriend's coming home,
I bake for him and then it's delicious.
Different pastries and stuff that she makes, and now all of a sudden I'm
thinking maybe if you're the boyfriend, it's not such a bad deal.
I mean there isn't a piece of laundry that isn't done okay.
The eggs are in a cute little house and
you come home to freshly baked goods, it's kind of an interesting arrangement.
>> Yeah, it's funny that you thought about it in that way because I'm just like,
I'm not thinking about the boyfriend at all.
Like the boyfriend made his bed, he's like, don't work, I'm all paid for.
>> She made the bed.
She's a stay at home girlfriend, right?
>> No, but like I'm thinking about what's in the best interest for
this woman because notably she's 26, she's beautiful.
And the relationship is great right now, but
we know how these kinds of stories end and that's why I'm worried about her, right?
Like I have no heart, no hate for her, she's living the dream,
like sounds great actually.
Who doesn't want to like feel comfortable stable financially to the point
where you can like explore baking and everything like sounds great.
But what if it doesn't work out?
These are the important years to build something for yourself.
So you're financially independent right?
That financial independence is important,
it is because if you're reliant on an individual for your financial stability,
things don't work out with that individual.
You're out on your own and your just the girlfriend,
you're not even married to him.
So you can't like take half of what he earns like when you leave him, you know?
>> Yeah, well that's true too, so look, this story is a roller coaster ride.
So I got a lot of different thoughts on it.
So on the one hand I thought, hey man, if you like it, I don't care.
>> Who the hell wouldn't like it.
>> Yeah, look, it's not my job to judge you, I don't care right?
Like go have have at it hoss and even if it's not for me, good news, it's not me,
it's you.
Okay, so you do whatever the hell you want.
So progressives believe in freedom, so that part is important.
On the other hand, I thought the same thing Anna did.
What if it doesn't work out and you're 26 now but what if you get to be 32,
getting back into the workforce is going to be brutal.
>> Brutal. >> Okay and
you're gonna have to start at the bottom.
>> Those interviews where like I haven't had it happen to me
because I've been working nonstop since even before I graduated college.
But, I know that one of the questions that they ask you when they noticed a gap in
your resume is why weren't you constantly working throughout your adult life?
What's up with this gap?
We're super suspicious of you.
>> [LAUGH] >> But it's true.
>> It's true and it's such a weird thing, right?
Like wait, were you a human for a couple of years?
Why were you not part of the corporate machine for one and half years?
What was wrong with you?
Right, so now there's a third hand which brings us to some of these comments
that I love Hannah Jenkins739 wrote in, I literally would rather work.
>> Do you boo?
>> And so yeah, I feel again conflicted about this because I look at and I go,
yeah, one I'd be bored.
Two, I would much rather have a real job than this job on the other hand,
okay then Hannah you work and she doesn't and that's called freedom.
Charlotte says, so you're a living cleaner.
Well look, that's a little bit demeaning and so, and remember there's a lot of stay
at home moms who have been doing this for centuries.
>> Yes, and it is an incredibly hard job.
It is, raising kids, cleaning, cooking and by the way,
let's also snaps to all the ladies out there who do have full time jobs.
And then go home and still have to do the cooking and the cleaning and
the child rearing and all of that stuff, women are amazing.
Let me just say for a second, and also, yes, there are men,
although far fewer who do it all as well.
But for a long time, especially with like rigid gender norms in the country, it
was mostly just women doing it all having to like in this economy earn an income.
And then come home and do everything else, including the laundry,
the same amount of laundry that this lady has been doing.
>> Totally, so one last thing gets to my favorite comment or
in the in the battery actually.
So overall guys stop judging and stop being mean.
Like if she likes it etc, but if you want to be helpful I thought
Jessica Louise Beach, that sounded super funny.
Sorry, had my favorite comment, she says, so what happens when you split up and
have no career to fall back on genuine question, right.
And it does sound like a genuine question.
So it was a little bit helpful and, and then she wrote back, Rose Davis exited.
We won't, that's what you think now, but that's not necessarily true.
I mean we've seen a lot of relationships and doesn't necessarily work that way.
So just be careful and then you do you boo.