How do you talk to girls?
How do you get them interested in what you're saying?
How does this all work?
I get this question a lot.
That's why I have a podcast called How To Talk To Girls.
That is the meat of what's going on when you're in an interaction, when you're going over,
when you're doing an approach, when you're talking to a girl.
The difference between you getting in the friend zone versus the date or sex zone is
going to be flirting.
That is the biggest difference.
That's what separates you from being the friend, is being flirtatious.
I go deep into this in my program called Hooked.
I'll put a link in the description below so you can get your hands on that today.
Go to GetHerHooked.com, there's a module in there called effortless flirting that teaches
you all these great techniques in addition to some of the techniques I'm going to be
teaching you today.
If you don't already have Hooked with the 2000+ guys already have it, you are making
a big mistake because you got to learn how to build the sexual tension and how to flirt.
Go check that out.
For now, here's some techniques and big concepts in terms of flirting with a woman that creates
that sexual tension.
First being a challenge.
A lot of guys don't embrace this idea.
It's very counterintuitive, being a challenge to a woman.
A lot of guys, they want to make it easy for a woman.
They want to be agreeable.
They want to make sure that you guys are on the same exact page with each other.
This is a big mistake.
You want to do the opposite because it creates more tension and get sort of chase you.
I'll give you an example of what it means to be a challenge to a woman.
This is coming from David DeAngelo, who is an old dating coach.
I'm completely crediting him for this.
It's so good that I wanted to share it with you.
What you can do to be more of a challenge?
When you're talking to a woman, you can say to her, so tell me, what is interesting about
you?
What makes you so interesting?
You don't say it in a way where you're rude.
You're saying it in a playful way..
That's you being more of a challenge.
You're saying to her, I'm not going to be just going for anyone.
I'm only going for women that I'm actually interested in.
Hence the challenge.
Another example of this, which I think you're gonna like is when you're talking to a girl
and you're getting to know her, this is more of an initial interaction, not so much on
a date, although it could be, but this is good to initially get her attracted in a flirt
way is, if she says something that she likes that you're not interested in.
You can say, wait, hold on, you like what kind of music?
Or you like what kind of movies?
Or you're from where?
You go, you know what, sorry, minus one point.
This is you being teasing her, being more a challenge saying, that's not something that
I like.
Therefore, creating more tension, more distance between you two.
You do that in a playful way.
Again, completely credit to David DeAngelo for that.
I wanted to give you those good examples in terms of what it means to be a challenge.
Let's go to the next one.
Here's another great flirtatious move.
I want you to peg her for liking you.
That means you're going to call her out.
You're going to call her out for liking you.
You're going to do this in a playfully arrogant way.
Let's say she says something nice to you, she gives you some compliment, or even those
obvious, when she does something subtle like she moves closer to you because she has to
get out of the way of someone else moving or people are walking around out in a crazy
bar or something like that.
Either way, any kind of excuse.
You look at her and you go, oh my God, you are totally in love with me.
You totally like me.
I knew it.
You say it like that or some version of that.
Or you can say, you want me to be your boyfriend, you want to get married to me, etc.
You get the idea.
Basically you call her out for liking you, even if it's over something that said that's
minimal or small, that's a great way to flirt with her.
Here's another one that I'm stealing from one of my current clients.
To be honest with you, I have a lot of different flirting techniques.
I'm not sure if he stole this or not, but use it and got it from me in a previous video.
I've been putting up videos on flirting and conversation for many years.
It's a credit to him, or maybe to me.
Here it is.
If there's something that you guys have in common, now we're working on something that
maybe you don't disagree with, or something that you like, or something you have in common.
What you're going to do is this, let's say she goes, I'm originally from Cincinnati,
and you happen to be from Cincinnati too, you're going to say, you want to hear a secret?
She's gonna go, yeah, what's up?
Then you're gonna go in her ear and say, I'm also from Cincinnati.
It's like a joke.
You're being flirty.
You're going close to her.
You're creating that smaller physical distance between you and the girl.
Maybe she says that she likes something, or that she studied something specific in college,
you can go, you want to hear a secret?
Go to her ear and you say, I also studied communications.
You say it like that, like an actual secret, but obviously it's not.
You're being playful and very fun.
All this combined is this push and pull.
The whole idea and concept of flirting this mating dance, being a challenge, being playful,
agreeing with her but not agreeing with her.
All this combined is powerful stuff.
I go way deeper into this in the Hooked program, which I mentioned earlier.
Go to the description right now.
Click on that link, GetHerHooked.com so you can learn more about how to be flirtatious
with a woman and get her attracted to you.
Guys are not talking like this.
I'm telling you guys are not talking to women like this.
This is what's gonna make you the exception and more attractive than every other guy.
If you use this stuff in your arsenal, in terms of techniques to attract women, I promise
you it's going to help.
Try it out and good luck.
I'll see you on the next video.