Transcriber: Nikolaos Kyriakidis Reviewer: Anna Sobota
So I’m going to show you some pictures
and I want you to pay attention to them closely.
What do you see?
A nice young man.
Looks like he cares a lot about,
well, everyone.
But do you really know him?
Do you know what he’s done in his life?
What about this next picture?
What does it look like?
A meeting of some sorts,
maybe someone broke into the building.
So, I want to talk on meeting new people
and how they can impact us.
If you meet a new person and they are mean
they don’t treat you nicely,
are you going to avoid meeting a new person for the first time?
That can lead to a lot of problems.
If your friends eventually split away,
who is going to be your friend then?
So you have to meet those new people
and don’t let that little thing affect you.
Many people look on the Internet like TikTok and social media,
and they see these women and guys who look completely healthy.
They’re nice and skinny, but are they really healthy?
We can measure this by BMI.
BMI is body measure and mass index.
And it takes your height and your weight and tells if you’re healthy.
So, you can be 6 foot 1 and 160 pounds -
that’s healthy.
But so is being 5 foot 4 and 120 pounds.
But even then, BMI can be incorrect.
When this happens, you can have more muscle than the average person.
And a lot of that weight can just go into BMI
and say, you’re overweight.
What if you’re not?
You just have a lot more muscle than most people.
If you dress differently than everyone else, then people will think:
“Oh, you want attention.”
But really, that could just be completely wrong.
I wear things I am comfortable in
that give me full personality and comforts me.
Well, my sister wears completely different things -
dresses every single day.
That’s just what she’s comfortable in.
Yeah, she gets comments all the time, but it doesn’t really bother her.
It’s just what she’s comfortable wearing and makes her confident in herself.
People can get addicted to different things,
for example, smoking.
But does it really can make them a bad person?
No.
I have a close family member that was addicted to smoking,
and he was one of my favorite family members.
He had amazing personality.
He was funny.
And he had this awesome motorcycle that he always let us ride on.
But he was still addicted to smoking.
And it was a bad thing, but it didn’t make him a bad person.
So why do people think, “Oh, you’re addicted to drugs.
You’re probably mean, like a bad person”.
But really, that’s not how it is.
Some other people are, like, Johnny Depp
and other people that we see on the Internet:
rich, famous ...
You think,
“Oh! They have a lot of money.
They have fame.
They must be pretty happy in their lives.”
But, for example, Johnny Depp is in a contentious lawsuit with his ex-wife.
And, no matter how much money he has,
it’s not gonna to make him happy.
He will not get out of that lawsuit because just for money.
Something that people get wrong with assumptions and stereotypes is:
stereotypes are more of a broad group of people.
You can look at someone there and it’s like:
“Oh, they’re this type of person.”
That is a stereotype.
You think of nerd or emo, but then, you think,
“Oh, they must get good grades, read a lot, study.”
But really, that could be just stereotyping.
But assumptions are little things about a person.
You see them drawing and you think,
“Oh, they must be very good at it.
They must be artistic.”
But really, what if they're just randomly doodling?
Stereotypes can be broad groups of assumptions all put together in one.
These can confuse people
and think they’re the other.
Do assumptions make people good or bad?
Really, both and neither.
A bad assumption is when you see someone walk on their way to school,
they seem angry and disappointed in something.
And so you refuse to go up and talk to them.
But what if they just had a bad day?
What if they just got brand new shoes
and walked through the puddle on their way to school
and now have to walk in a wet sock all day?
But there’s also a good assumption.
These is when you walk in the class
and the teacher looks so excited
and tells a joke that’s a whole class laughing.
So you naturally think,
“Oh, I’m going to have the best time here.”
Actually, you thought that well because of the teacher.
This could have been the one subject
that you thought you were going to dread.
But now you’re going to like it
and you’re going to study and do the homework.
Now, back to those pictures I showed you.
This one.
“Oh, he is a nice young man.”
No, this is Stalin.
He killed more people than Hitler did.
But yet, because of that smile
and because “Oh, he looks nice”,
you naturally thought,
“Oh, he’s a really nice person.”
Well, really, he isn’t.
You have to notice these good and bad assumptions,
and you have to realize that they can and will be wrong.
Even if you know that the good assumption might be wrong,
take that chance anyway.
And with the bad assumption?
Just go for the person -
go, talk to them,
be their friends.
And maybe you’ll find out
that they are actually a really good person.
Thank you for listening.