- He is very charming to begin with,
pursuing you, complimenting you,
telling you how amazing you are.
He even proceeds to ask you out
and since he's been giving you a lot of attention
and charming you, you agree to the date.
Now yet, here is the cold part,
from the time he asks you out
to the time you and your actual date,
you don't hear from this guy.
No texts in between, just radio silence.
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So, let's talk about a very common game
played nowadays, especially by men,
which is called hot and cold.
Let's talk about the intention behind it, how it works,
and what to do about it.
Let me give you a scenario.
You met a guy online or in person.
He's hot and you can't wait to see him on a date.
He's very charming to begin with,
pursuing you, complimenting you,
telling you how amazing you are
and he then proceeds to ask you out.
Since he's been giving you a lot of attention
and charming, you agree to the date.
Yet now is the cold part.
From the time he ask you out
to the time you and your actual date,
you don't hear from this guy.
No texts in between, just radio silence.
This game is very common,
especially in the magical world of online dating.
Men are being taught by male dating coaches
to behave this way towards women.
So after they show you all their interest, they pull away.
And then, suddenly you begin to self-doubt yourself,
if the date is even happening.
Have I don't something wrong?
You start to feel insecure
and make the fundamental mistake of chasing him.
This game works on women who don't understand the game
and get insecure about their own value
and his interest for her.
So, we pick up the slack
and start to chase, text first, call,
confirm the date to ask if it's still happening,
however, a woman who actually values herself
and likes to be courted and pursued,
will become bored and probably not date him at all.
This is how men sabotage themselves
into dating women with no self value
or low self-esteem.
Variations of hot and cold include
being super attentive on dates
with no texts in the middle at all.
Even if you have been dating for a few months
or very dry, minimal texts like, "Hey,"
and conversations that go nowhere.
The high-value thing to do, ladies, is do not chase him.
No matter how eager you are to talk to him again
and get those compliments,
you need to, instead, find that validation
from within yourself.
Men are not there to fill the holes in your self-esteem.
Fill them yourself, so you don't go craving his attention
to make you feel wanted and worthy of love.
If you can handle that, however,
or are okay with it, you can still date him, of course,
but get used to the idea
of not hearing from him in the middle.
And if you would like to know why men play games,
watch my video right here.
So now you know what are the hot and cold games
that men play on women.
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