Improvement pill here are you someone who spends hours every single day
replaying the same bad memories over and over again in your head if so then
you're in luck because in today's video I'm going to show you exactly how to get
over your past mistakes now in order for us to get to the bottom of this problem
we have to first talk about why we think about the past in the first place see
the human brain is a very very powerful machine with one main purpose which is
to keep you alive and it's incredibly good at that we are the only species on
this planet that can project far into the future and also think back to our
past and this ability has allowed us to outsmart the hundreds of other species
on this planet that are far stronger than us physically the main reason we
think about the past is so that we can prevent bad things from happening again
let's say for example late one night you're walking down a dark alley by
yourself and you're approached by a couple of guys they pull a knife out and
ask you to empty your pockets congratulations you just got mugged
afterwards you're gonna find yourself playing that event over and over again
in your head for days weeks and maybe even months because even though you
weren't physically hurt that was still an extremely dangerous situation to be
in it you could have been seriously injured or even killed so your brain is
gonna keep thinking about this event until it figures out how you can prevent
something like that from ever happening again now this doesn't only apply to
physically dangerous events because the more common type of dwelling we do
nowadays is on mentally dangerous events let's say for example you have a crush
on a girl at work or in school after a couple of months you finally muster up
the courage to tell her how you feel but she turns you down in a rather harsh way
even though this event didn't harm you at all physically it does cause a lot of
mental pain experiments have been conducted where they discovered that
being rejected lights up the same pathways in your brain as physical pain
so it turns out that rejection does hurt literally and because of this your brain
is gonna see this event as something you need to prevent from happening again in
the future and it's going to keep dwelling on it
until it figures it out and it does so in a simple three-step process the
first step is by figuring out the why why did she reject you so harshly was it
because you took too long to ask her out was it because you did so in a very
awkward manner was it because you're not attractive enough you need to figure out
a why once that sorted out step number two is coming up with a solution if she
rejected you because you're awkward then a solution might be to fix your social
skills especially when it comes to talking to girls if she rejected you
because you're not attractive then a solution you might come up with is to
hit the gym and fix your diet so that you can look better and be more
attractive you need to come up with a solution that could prevent this bad
event from happening again which brings us to the third and final step seeing
that it's working you need to actually make progress and see that your solution
is getting you closer to preventing that bad event or mistake from happening
again in the future if your solution was to improve your social skills then you
will eventually get to a point where some girls start saying yes to you and
even though some will still turn you down they do so in a more polite manner
seeing this sort of progress will reassure your brain that you've solved
the problem that the bad event or past mistake will become less likely to
happen again and this will allow it to relax and think about other things now
if you're someone who keeps thinking about your past mistakes then it's
because you're stuck somewhere in this three-step process some of us never
figure out the why maybe we really don't know why something bad happen to us if
that's the case you need to do your research look for clues and figure it
out in the case of girls turning you down reading a book on dating or
relationships may shine some light on the answer you could even ask a friend
for their honest opinion on why the ladies don't fancy you or maybe we never
figure out the why because we end up blaming something that's out of our
control some guys after getting rejected will
blame things like their Heights or their race which are not things that you can
change and this prevents you from moving on because these are wise that have no
solution you can't change your ethnicity you need to figure out a why that is
something that you have control over moving on some of us get stuck trying to
figure out the solution if you have no idea how to solve something simply
google it chances are there's a book or video out there that tells you exactly
what you need to do you just have to find it use the
power of the internet to your advantage and finally some of us never see
progress it may be because you never actually applied the solution to your
life which could be because of numerous reasons such as an identity issue not
believing that you are worthy a change being in a bad environment that prevents
you from changing having an addiction or plain old laziness whatever it is you
need to actually try and follow through with your solution another reason why
you might not be seeing progress maybe because the solution you decided on is
ineffective which does happen from time to time because not every solution you
come up with is going to work everyone is different and because something
worked for someone else doesn't mean it's 100% going to work for you in this
case you need to simply try and test out different solutions until you find one
that actually allows you to make progress by unstuck in yourself from
wherever you are in this three-step process you allow your brain to do its
job you will have successfully taken steps to preventing the past mistake or
bad event from happening again and because of that your brain will finally
be able to let that memory go and that's how you get over your past mistakes this
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