There's this video going around the web right now of Justin Trudeau of Canada walking
into the g20 summit and some people are describing it it looks like he's walking
into a house party where you don't know who anybody so I want to show this video
and then break down what I think he did well and I think he could do differently
so here's how it kicks off he's walking in you know everyone's kind of already
in conversations it's clear he may have got there a little bit late doesn't know
anybody nobody's really turning to engage him can see the people with the
badges in the back are the people that aren't leaders of different countries
there's Trump he's already in a conversation with a couple people taking
stuff out of his bag nice and slow looking around trying trying to get a
little eye contact you can see here like right there that's kind of casual but
even when you're the leader of a major country and you know he's got a lot of
swag people always talk about how he's good-looking he's like 6 foot 2 is a
heartthrob and he's a leader you still feel social pressure and he's feeling
that social pressure so he's trying to stay a little looser you can see kind of
throws that real casually now you know he's at set today so he's nice and loose
he's not stifled by the social pressure but you saw right back here I think it
was a little bit before he looks over towards Trump and those guys just to see
if he can get to my contact is at that point any of them would have looked at
him he would have likely jumped in to engage you start talking to somebody but
nobody did and if while you're watching this you're thinking this is way over my
head I'm just trying to learn how to be normal in social situations and get a
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which would get you dialed in teach you about what to look for and how to feel
comfortable when you're out in social situations so he's taking his time he's
looking back again now you see when he oriented his shoulders over there that
that gives Trump and those other two guys I apologize I don't know who those
guys are it gives them even a more impression
that he wants to talk so just by looking the first time is one thing but when he
kind of squares a little bit here and turns his whole head and body it shows
that he wants to engage and Trump picks up on that and so we points at him just
to acknowledge that he saw in there and then he is immediately jumping in right
so Trump comes over he's out there tries to engage Trump but he's gone he's
Swasey so right here he's talking Pat's him on the back but he's gone now Trump
Pearson trying to gauge again tries to get him into a conversation Trump comes
back over talks a little bit engaging but Trump still is looking like he wants
to leave right so he's probably getting yeah he walks around he leaves and he
sees he's leaving now he's back to himself so what could he do right
personally talk at his 12 leaves that doesn't look too good either he
should've cut the conversation a bit before that but right now see this guy
looking back at him right now he knows those two guys that were in conversation
with Trump now are just talking to themselves so if I was him he probably
doesn't know these guys are if he does he doesn't know him personally I'm
guessing or he would have engaged him in conversation but he could have just
turned around and say anything you know just because you're the leader of a big
country doesn't once again mean that you have to go in with some brilliant line
people are just making chat if they don't know you they don't expect you to
come in with some high-level thing to say talk to him about the hotel tell
them it's your first time here make a joke about it just something light he
could have easily turned to engage these guys right now you can see they're
looking around they're more open to involving someone else so if you look
back here when they're talking to Trump they're in conversation right going up
right then would have been inappropriate because they're talking they're engaged
going up right here let's see a little bit after they're open to it so we could
have very easily slid into that conversation but what is he doing said
he's looking around see how this guy by himself he actually even came by right
now just asking a quick question say hello hey tell us what's your first step
looking around now he's stalling out he knows the cameras are on I mean those
people are around he's looking around he's feeling a bit of a social pressure
right now but he's got nowhere to go so now he sits down and kind of just
there's a lot wah-wah so he did some good things by back here when he was
trying to engage by first looking and then kind of squaring up even more to
show his intent to jump in was good but I think he missed an opportunity at the
end to jump in with these two guys when they were actually open to talking to
someone because once he was in with those two guys he could have probably
carried that conversation as long as he wanted and looked a little bit more
natural you know he's new on the you want to look like you're an insider
you want to look like you know people so being in a nice easy conversation before
it started probably would have been a bit a nice way to kind of get the ball
rolling form didn't look too bad but it is kind of a bummer what it's your first
time there and you end up being this guy just stand and look it around hey
someone talked to me is there anyone I know nope over here maybe over here
no Digitas hands don't know anyone I should probably be talking to someone
pictures going on snap what am I going to do I'm just going to sit down there's
nobody I know Oh kind of a bummer that happens so if you're ever in a situation
like this probably not at a g20 conference right but just say you are at
a party or as a networking event or a happy hour and nobody you knows came yet
or nobody that you know is coming at all you can do little things like that look
for little groups who are more open to being engaged you can tell when people
are tied up in a conversation that's serious and they don't want anyone to
jump in it's more direct eye contact let's look at around bodies usually or
inter themselves so look for nice little breaks and you can go in and talk to
people engage them naturally and jump nice and easy into a conversation
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