I'm not totally sure why a lot of times girls
would want to send pictures like that or send that kind of text.
Why do I think people send nudes?
Um...
To showboat.
Sometimes people do it because they want to.
Sometimes people don't want to do it and they feel like
they've been pressured into it.
If their friends are doing it,
and their friends are like telling them they should do it,
"Like just send the picture."
Most guys don't think about the consequences that girls have.
Sometimes you send that picture
because you want someone to tell you that you're beautiful,
and that's another form of obligation.
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Once you do anything online, it doesn't go away,
so if you send a picture like that,
it's not gonna go away.
So if you send to somebody a nude photo of you,
and then they, they don't keep it themselves,
they make it, like, viral on social media.
I've seen people that did something they thought
was justified in eighth grade and have them be affected
their senior year of high school.
I think everybody at some point has been shown that,
like, "scare you out of sexting" newspaper story
where, like, some girl sent nudes to her boyfriend,
and then her ex-best friend got her hands on it
and sent it to the whole school.
When a nude gets leaked,
it's like your family gonna see it, people...
different people you don't even know screenshotting you.
The picture that you sent to this one person
is never gonna go away, it's never...
you know what I'm saying?
You're just stuck with it.
I think it's sad and weird at the same time.
They're feeling pressure from not one singular person
that they can say no to.
They're... they would have to say no to all of society.
You spend a lot of time receiving all these images
of what you should look like.
And so sometimes I feel like
it comes from a place of wanting to show off.
Not your body, necessarily, but the fact that you're comfortable
or confident enough to do it.
For a guy they might think it's cool, or, like, you know,
you gotta just send a picture.
But for her, it's like, "Okay, my whole body
is all over the internet now, everybody's seeing me."
There definitely is a double standard when it comes
to the situation of sexting between boys and girls.
The guys are put on a pedestal in situations like this,
but the girls are demonized for it.
Getting busted for sexting
is more embarrassing for girls than guys.
It's so easy as a female to get your reputation thrown away
because of one simple mistake
that you didn't even think was a mistake.
No, it's not fair,
but they hold girls to a different standard than guys.
That's just the world we live in.
Sexting shouldn't be a...
I mean, it's an embarrassing topic,
but it should not be embarrassing to talk about,
because people need to know
what it is and what to do to not do it.
You know, when you are interested in someone,
or when you like someone,
or when you want someone to like you,
and you feel that sending pictures of yourself
is the best way to do that,
maybe it's time to re-evaluate
why you really care so much about this person.
When you're in middle school or when you're younger,
you're gonna feel these emotions that you're not gonna feel
in a year or two years.
That's what leads to people sending nudes
is when someone else trusts another person
so they will send the pictures to them.
The trust breaks after their picture gets leaked.
I think people think that the relationships that they're in
have a lot of trust,
and that the relationships are gonna last forever.
But then when the relationship falls apart,
which it usually does,
is that those pictures get sent around to everyone,
and I've heard countless stories of that happening.
I think the biggest consequence is like you lose
some sort of trust with the person you were sending it to,
and I think that that's really sad.
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