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Today, we are going to learn about 7 signs people secretly find you attractive.
Now, let’s begin.
1.
Strange Messages Do you ever get messages or compliments from
people you don’t know?
On social media, it’s easier than ever to communicate with people you have never met.
You might get a friend request or a direct message from a complete stranger living in
a different city.
It can be weird talking to someone you don’t know, but those messages… tell you something
about your looks.
If someone is going out of their way to contact you, they may find you attractive.
They’re trying to get your attention or create a romantic connection.
Even though you’ve never met in person, a stranger may use social media to tell you
how they feel.
Over time, this has become a common strategy in the dating arena.
A stranger sees your profile.
They like your pictures.
They comment on your posts and subscribe to your page.
They may even message you directly.
It’s not always welcome, and sometimes it’s kind of creepy.
But there’s a reason you’re attracting the attention of strangers.
You’re a good-looking person, and the rest of the world agrees.
2.
Awkward Conversations Do people act weird around you?
If you’re an attractive person, you may make other people feel nervous or flustered.
As soon as you enter the room, they become hyper-alert and self-conscious.
Their attitude changes.
The conversation gets awkward.
People suddenly don’t know what to say.
Why does your presence make people feel awkward?
Because they want to make a great impression on you.
In your mind, it’s just a normal conversation.
You may be relaxed and confident; but, in their mind, there’s a lot more at stake.
They’re trying to put their best foot forward.
They want you to see them as an attractive person, just like they see you as an attractive
person.
So they start grooming themselves.
They try to play it cool.
They try too hard to be funny.
They become hyper-aware of every word they say, every gesture they make, and every piece
of body language they see.
In other words, the mood changes, and the conversation gets a little weird.
If you want to know how attractive you are, pay attention to the way you impact your social
world.
Does your presence turn every conversation on its head?
Are strangers fidgety, nervous, and awkward around you?
If the answer is yes, your good looks are leaving a strong impression on the people
you meet.
3.
Vocal Compliments Your voice plays a significant role in physical
attraction.
It may be a big reason why people find you.
Like any other physical feature, your voice may be the reason others find attractive.
The tone of your voice, for example, contributes to your overall image.
If you have a low, raspy voice, people might perceive you as tougher or more mature.
On the other hand, if you have a high, gentle voice, you might sound friendly and approachable.
If you’re an attractive person, you may encounter people who are drawn to the sound
of your voice.
You may even get compliments on your voice, the same way someone compliments your smile.
But what if you’re on the receiving end?
What if you meet someone that you’re attracted to?
When you encounter an attractive person, you may notice the tone of your voice changing.
If that person is nearby, you talk higher or lower than normally do.
For example, some men lower their voices to demonstrate their masculinity.
Why?
Because your voice makes you more appealing.
Even if you don’t realize it, you may be changing your voice to draw the other person
closer to you.
In other words, you want that person to notice you.
And you change your voice to get their attention.
So how do you know if people are secretly attracted to you?
It’s all in your voice.
If they like the sound of your voice, they’re probably drawn to you.
If you catch the tone of their voice changing, it’s because they want to be noticed.
Either way, this person is attracted to you.
4.
Natural Chemistry Do you have chemistry with everyone you meet?
Do your conversations flow easily?
Does it feel like you could be friends with almost anyone?
You have no trouble connecting with people, because most of the world finds you attractive.
You don’t have rough patches or awkward moments.
People rarely lose interest in you.
And your jokes always get a laugh.
Because other people want to interact with you.
They care about what you have to say, and they’re interested in sticking around.
Sure, you might just be an interesting person.
You may be funny, charismatic, and charming.
But nothing pulls people in like physical beauty.
Your good looks convince other people to get to know you.
They make you sound funny, intelligent, and interesting—even if you aren’t.
Attractive people have conversation chemistry with almost everyone, but that’s not all.
Yes, people want to talk to you, but they also want to get closer to you.
You might notice people leaning in your direction or slowly gravitating toward you.
Maybe people are mirroring your movements or copying the way you’re standing.
We call this physical chemistry.
When two people have physical chemistry, their movements seem oddly in sync.
But you might not be doing anything different.
If you’re an attractive person, other people are jumping on your wavelength.
The people you meet are leaning, mirroring, and gravitating, because they are attracted
to you.
Let’s talk about one more type of chemistry.
This one is vocal chemistry.
When two people have vocal chemistry, they start borrowing each other’s language.
You might use the same verbiage.
You might finish each other’s sentences.
In other words, you two sound like the same person.
But chemistry isn’t as mysterious as it sounds.
To put it simply, attractive people are magnets, attracting a large population of people.
You can build chemistry with almost anyone, because almost anyone wants to build chemistry
with you.
So think about the people you meet and the conversations you have.
If people are drawn to you, copying you, or stealing your favorite phrases, it’s because
you are more attractive than you think.
5.
Valuable Advice Do people ask you for advice?
It’s surprisingly common for attractive people—friends and coworkers prioritize
your opinion over anybody else’s.
Why?
Because they find you attractive.
It’s not always a romantic connection.
Someone may simply recognize that you’re an attractive person.
Even so, they may prioritize your advice over other’s.
Unfortunately, most of the world is biased.
If someone is physically attractive, we assume they have other positive personality traits.
For example, you might think an attractive coworker is more intelligent than they are.
Because of their looks, you work extra hard to earn their approval.
You try to impress them.
You show them your best work, even if their approval doesn’t really mean anything.
This unspoken bias is one of the primary reasons why attractive people find more success on
average.
If you’re physically attractive, people will make positive assumptions about your
personality.
They will assume you’re smart.
They’ll assume you’re successful.
And when you open your mouth, they’ll be more receptive to what you have to say.
So don’t be surprised if people turn to you for advice, feedback, or support.
Subconsciously, they have a high opinion of you.
Maybe it’s because of your accomplishments.
Or maybe… you’re more attractive than most.
6.
Selfless Interest Do people take an interest in your life?
Let’s say you’re meeting someone for the first time, and they can’t stop asking you
questions about your life.
They ask about where you grew up and what you like to do.
They ask about your hobbies and passions, and they ask follow-up questions about all
the things you like.
Why is this person asking so many questions?
Why are they interested in the small details of your life?
The answer is simple.
They find you attractive, and that attraction makes them curious about you as a person.
That’s why they’re asking about your hobbies, interests, and personal history.
They like you on the outside, but now they want to get to know the person underneath.
But that’s not the only reason people ask questions.
This person may be asking tons of questions to show you a perceptive and attentive side
of themselves.
To put it simply, we like people who take an interest in our lives.
So why is this stranger asking questions about your life?
They want to get to know you, but they also want to improve your opinion of them.
They want you to see how good of a listener they can be.
In other words, they want to show off those attentive, caring aspects of their personality.
Pay attention next time someone starts asking you lots of questions.
They may seem interested and perceptive.
They may ask lots of follow-up questions, and they may happily listen to stories about
your life.
But there’s a reason they want to know more about you.
Under the surface, they may find you attractive.
7.
Positive Assumptions Do you get lots of compliments?
Attractive people don’t get compliments nearly as often as you think.
Some attractive people don’t know how attractive they are, because no one bothers to tell them.
Here’s the problem.
People assume that attractive people get compliments all the time.
Everyone can see how attractive you are, so they assume you hear it 24/7.
But every once in a while you will get a compliment.
The other person might say, “I’m sure you hear this all the time, but you have a
really pretty smile.”
You might tell the other person, “Thank you, nobody’s ever said that to me before.”
Look at the way they react.
They may be surprised to hear just how few compliments you get.
In their eyes, you’re a very attractive person, but no one wants to state the obvious.
People don’t compliment you, because they assume you know just how attractive you are.
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