Hey, this is Mat Boggs and today I want to share with you a belief that I have that uncool
is really the new cool.
And this was inspired by a quote from the movie Almost Famous.
Maybe you’ve seen it.
I love that movie.
And the quote goes like this: “The only true currency we have in this world is what
we share with someone else when we’re uncool.”
And this is a lesson that has served me greatly because early on in my life, in my young 20s,
I had a really big looking good program.
I wanted to be cool, I wanted to look good in front of other people because ultimately
I wanted to connect to them.
I wanted to be liked, I wanted to have that human connection which is really at the core
of every one of our greatest desires is that desire for connection.
And what I realized is that trying to be cool and looking good actually was an impediment
to that connection.
But real connection happened when I was willing to be uncool because it’s in those moments
when I was willing to be authentic and real and really express myself to other people
where they could really know me and I could really know them.
And so that’s what this video is about.
It’s about getting to know ourselves better, about expressing our true authentic self.
It’s about knowing what it is that we like and expressing that because that’s the point
at which we have the greatest connection with other people.
So what do I mean by “uncool?”
What I mean by “uncool” is what is it that you really like, that really turns you
on, that really ignites you?
The things that you like that other people might not think are cool but you really like
and you dig them.
And my encouragement to you is express those things.
Bring those things to life because the more you’re congruent with yourself, with your
true likes, with your true desires and you’re expressing yourself from that place, the more
great friendships you’re going to have.
See, the alternative is to just be vanilla.
When you’re trying to be everything to everyone, you are nobody to no one.
You don’t really know who your true friends are.
So this is about getting in touch with yourself, what do you like, and expressing that.
So today I’m going to give you five things that I really like that might be seen as “uncool,”
and my hope is that it ignites in you a greater expression of you bringing to life the things
that you like even though it might be seen as uncool for people around you.
So number one is there was a period in my life where I really liked American Idol.
And you might even be looking at me right now saying, “This guy looks like he’s
the type of guy who likes American Idol.”
And there was a moment when I’m in the gym and my buddy’s over there on the bench.
He’s doing bench, I’m doing curls and we’re in the weight room.
I’m like, “Hey, James,” and he’s like, “What?”
I said, “American Idol’s on tonight, man.
You should come over to my house.
We’ll have an American Idol party.”
And James racks the weights and he’s like, “Oh my God.”
He walks over to me and he goes, “Do not yell that across the gym.
I’ll see you at 7:00.”
Number two: I like Taylor Swift.
And I actually will turn the volume up in my car when a Taylor Swift song comes on and
be singing along with her.
“It’s gonna be forever or it’s gonna do down in flames.
You can tell me when it’s over…”
Number three is I hug my buddies and I tell them that I love them.
Now, some people might think that that’s uncool.
I think life is too short not to express your love to people who matter to you, so I will
on text messages when I’m leaving my buddies, we’ll have a boy’s trip, we’re leaving,
give them a big hug, tell them I love them.
Express yourself.
Share the love.
Number four; I will make up love jams to my wife and sing them to her based on old 90s
love jam music like Jodeci and Shy and Usher and I’ll hug her in the kitchen and I’ll
sing these songs to her into her ear and I’ll make up lyrics and she’ll squirm, she’ll
say, “Stop, stop, stop,” but I love it and that’s how I express my love for her.
And number five: I love Shirley Temples.
I loved them since I was eight years old.
I continue to love them to this day.
So I’ll go out to get some drinks with my buddies and if I’m not really feeling like
drinking that night, they’ll order their IPA beer, they’ll order their, you know,
Stone Brewery and I’ll order a Shirley Temple.
And they’ll look at me like, “Seriously?
You’re going to order a Shirley Temple?” and I’ll say, “Yes, I will.
In fact, make it double.”
I say, “I’m ordering a Shirley Temple because I like it and that’s what I want
to do.
So cheers.”
So there you have it: five uncool things that I do.
Why?
Because it makes me me, I like it, and it’s my expression of myself.
And I would love to hear from you.
Post a comment below this video.
What’s something that you love to do?
You do it because it’s you.
It may be seen as uncool but that doesn’t matter because you’re willing to express
yourself.
Share that with me.
Post a comment right below here and share that with me right now.
And if this video served you, if you enjoyed it at all, share it with someone who you care
about and help expand the love in this world one heart at a time with me.
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Click that link, get the resource.
Thanks so much for watching.
I’ll see you soon.